I like one of my good friends but she does not even seem to notice that I like her

[James100]

Over the last 6 months or so i realized how much i like a girl that i have been friends with for 4 years or so and we hang out with a lot of the same people. but despite the fact that i like her she does not even seem to think of me as more than a friend. i want to possibly take her on a date but just don't know how to approach her about it. i also am not wanting to get intimate with her i just don't know how to ask her on a date without our friendship becoming award

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Over the last 6 months or so i realized how much i like a girl that i have been friends with for 4 years or so and we hang out with a lot of the same people. but despite the fact that i like her she does not even seem to think of me as more than a friend. i want to possibly take her on a date but just don't know how to approach her about it. i also am not wanting to get intimate with her i just don't know how to ask her on a date without our friendship becoming award

 

Women usually know .

[smackie9]

She knows you like her and I'm sure others in your group have caught you looking at her longingly.

 

Just man up and ask her out on a date. Be bold and confident even tho you might get rejected. Better to get this over with because it will only get worse for you if you drag this out. Ask her out over text like everyone else does. It's a chicken's way of doing things but whatever. It might help lessen with the awkwardness.

[d0nnivain]

Depending on your ages she might not know. If you are in your 20s & she's not making it easy for you to change the nature of your relationship, she is hoping you won't ask so she doesn't have to turn you down.

 

If you are younger, she may be unaware. Try to speak to her in the group & pull her aside within the group. Sit next to her. Flirt with her. See if you get a positive reaction. If she deflects, don't ask because when she says no it will make things awkward. If she reacts positively then call her or text her & ask her out privately.

[preraph]

I think she's pretending not to notice but that there's no way she doesn't know you're crushing on her. I mean, it's not hard to tell. The fact a guy is even hanging around is a pretty good indication. So I don't think she's interested in that way and is hoping you don't cross that line and ruin the friendship.

 

I do agree with Donnivain that if you are teenagers, perhaps she knows but isn't sure enough to act like she knows. In which case you ask her "Do you want to go on a 'date' Saturday, maybe to the movies?" Then if she makes an excuse you just let it go and forget about dating her.

 

But if someone has a crush on you too, you can usually tell. They won't act like they don't want you coming in closer or ignore hints. So I'm not thinking this is going to turn out the way you want it to, but if the friendship isn't that important to you, which is fine, then ask her out and see what happens. At least then you can move on.

[GemmaUK]

You say you want to ask her on a date but also say you don't want to get intimate with her.

 

What is it you want?