papayagirl Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 (edited) So I just got home from a second date with this guy who I’ve been taking to about two weeks ago. The first date we kissed a couple of times and then he said he was super attracted to me, is not a player and is looking for a girlfriend. We’re young and slept together on this one. We stayed up late after that just talking and watching tv and stuff, and when we went to bed he kissed me some more before we went to sleep. When we woke up this morning, he seemed…distant. He didn’t kiss me until I left (after he thanked me for coming over and hugged me and then I looked at him and he kissed me). I asked if he wanted to do something Wednesday when he is off and he said yes. Now here’s the thing. Last night i was kind of quiet when we were around his housemates and I was kind of just standing there and he went “you look miserable” I assured him that I wasn’t. I was kind of quiet after we had sex last night but I was feeling sick from side effects from a recent change of birth control. I sent him this text after I got home this morning “Hey! Thanks again for last night, I have a lot of fun with you also thinking about it I wanted to say, I’m sorry if I was quiet/not myself last night, tbh my birth control switched recently and I’m still kinda adjusting to it and the side effects have been making me feel sick at night so that’s what was happening and I was trying to ignore/power through it. I feel like I might have seemed out of it/quiet and that’s so not me so I wanted to explain. I really am super attracted to you and have a good time with you an am excited to see you again ” He replied with “I’m glad you came over last night too! Thanks for coming over and I’m sorry you’re going through that!” Am I overreacting in thinking he might not like me so much anymore or are signs pointing to that? [] Edited July 5, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redacted link to other forum ~6
Gaeta Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 The answers won't change from the last 3 times you posted this story, and our answers won't be any different than what you got on the other forum. 4
stillafool Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 The guy told you the first time "He was not feeling it" with you. You contact him for another date, sleep with him and he seems like he is still not feeling it. Why did you ask for the next date instead of letting him contact you? You really didn't have to explain why you were quiet either unless he asks. You are doing all the chasing and he isn't feeling you. Kissing means nothing more than a kiss. Listen to what he tells you and shows you. 1
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 The guy was just lookin to get laid....what part of that can't you see? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 Is this the same guy who previously told you he was still hung up on his ex and didn't want to meet again?
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 This is what I see. The guy wants a new GF to replace the old one...he used intimacy with another woman thinking it will help him move on from his ex...you didn't do it for him, he still misses his ex. He's back to square one. This whole deal needs to be thrown into the trash can. 2
divegrl Posted July 1, 2017 Posted July 1, 2017 His behavior is fun and natural. I don't see any problem with it. Don't overthink things. Go with the flow.... relax and have a good time!!! Good luck my friend!!!!!
smackie9 Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 OK...... see what happens next....make an assessment then.
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