wiseman6716 Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 Ex and I off and on for close to a year. Did not see each other or talk for 2 months up until 2 weeks ago. We were at the same place, did not talk but she broke down cried in front of friends while there with another guy saying she still liked me. I called her 2 days later asking to meet explained to her she made her choice, chose her path. I said I was concerned for her as she wasnt herself and she said she wasnt happy. We went back to her place took a walk, watched tv, made out, almost had sex. We agreed she was confused and needed to think some things out. She texted me next day said she arranged to talk to someone. I simply replied glad to hear it and Im here if you need me. Simple text 2 days later she sent a meme and I sent a text have a safe trip. she had to go out town for work that day. Weekend went by. I called her 3 days later talked for 45 min. Minor texts back and forth next day. Following day I texted her inviting her to hang out on sat an outdoor event. Se replied the next day saying sounded like a hell of a time and she would be missing out but she was going to pass. she didnt feel like doing much lately and it was suppose to rain. I simply replied. Ya I seen the weather and looks like I wont be going after all. Would like to hang out over the long weekend, and something low key wouldnt be all that bad. Have a good day at work and let me know what works for you. Was this an ok reply? hope i didnt come across to pushy. just wanted to put the ball in her court as be up front I wanted to see her. The other way I was going to phrase it was, If you want to hang out over the long weekend, you know how to get hold of me. I thought this sounded like an ass and a bit confrontational. Thanks for the input and everyone have a great 4th
smackie9 Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 Note: a lot of us are Canadians lol. Anyways, it doesn't matter what you do or say, it won't change the way she is feeling towards you. When I hear off and on....I know there will never be a solid relationship. It will always be hot/cold/uncertainty/ confusion/frustration/walking on eggshells. Sorry to say this but you should consider looking for a new relationship with someone else. You have been at this for a year and it's still going around in circles.
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 The whole thing is confusing. What do you want? I don't think either of your have a clue. If she broke up with you (which I surmised from your statement that she chose her path), then her breakdown could mean anything. Maybe she felt remorse because she hurt you. Maybe she took your statement about her choices as evidence that you want nothing to do with her. Maybe she's just unstable . . . crying like that in public while on a date with another guy seems over the top. I feel bad for the other guy. Do you want to reconcile? Do you want to punish her? Do you have some unrealistic expectation that you two can be "just friends"? Based on your behavior at her house (almost having sex) are you looking for a FWB thing? Honestly, your interactions leave far more Qs then answers. Figure out what YOU want, then clearly communicate that to her. 1
scooby-philly Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 I agree with Donnivain. Your intentions and wants seem unclear. There's no use in going back without getting that clear. And on/off for a year? Best I could manage was 3-4 months. She broke up with you for a reason. If she didn't articulate that you stand no chance if you don't ask her and she doesn't share. ANd if she didn't share than she's either not mature or not connected to herself enough to offer a valid reason - whether it's horse**** or not in your mind isn't the point. Regardless of your personality traits, your abilities, your entire being - you deserve to be with someone that wants you. 1
basil67 Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 Wiseman, this very minute your ex is probably talking to someone and trying to decipher your mixed messages. Why did you tell her that she's chosen her path (translate: I have no wish to be further involved)...then get intimate and ask her out to events (translate: I am interested)? Make up your mind as to what you want then start acting consistently in this manner. 2
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