So, a girl handed me her email address tonight... *confused*

[BigB]

We've got a new girl starting here at work, I was assigned to train her tonight along with some other dude.

 

Toward the end of the shift she hands me a piece of paper from her notebook with her email address and full name written on it.

 

She said "email me sometime if you get bored"

 

umm...

 

Is she hitting on me? does email address = phone number these days?

 

She did mention that she was single and looking for a boyfriend at one point when we were alone (dude was in the office reading procedures). She said it's hard to find a guy because she works nights. I made a joke that she needs to track down a guy who also works nights(points to self ). But she also mentioned that she thinks our supervisor is hot (he has a GF).

 

I'm confused.

[BrotherAaron]

You're not confused...

 

You just got hit on and you know it! You're just thinking "Oh no, not me, girls dont hit on me!" Rubbish. She is hitting on you. Now, email her and invite her to hang out. You must.

[BigB]

Originally posted by BrotherAaron

You're not confused...

 

You just got hit on and you know it! You're just thinking "Oh no, not me, girls dont hit on me!" Rubbish. She is hitting on you. Now, email her and invite her to hang out. You must.

 

lol, but I don't ever get hit on, never. I've never gotten a phone number in my life . So it threw me for a loop. Plus it was kinda indirect, but it was at work so I guess that's understandable. I'd never ask a co-worker for a number, I'd be afraid of getting to close to weird uncomfortable/sexual harassment territory.

 

Now that I think about it, she did this shortly after I used EXGF in a sentence . Maybe she was waiting to figure out if I was single.

 

hmmm... how long do I wait before sending an email? WTF do I say?

[NYCmitch25]

Have you been living in a cave ?

 

Anyway, dating people at work can (will ) be disastrous, good luck, esp. when it's over.

[westernxer]

Tell her you never get bored, so you'll never e-mail her.

 

NYCMitch is right... don't date co-workers. It bites (hard) when something goes wrong.

 

She's a weird-ass! Something's up with her...

 

Unless she just wants you as a friend.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by BigB

She said "email me sometime if you get bored"

a phone number would have been a different message. i would recommend you not get involved with a co-worker especially if you like your job and getting a paycheck.

 

i suggest feeling her out for the next couple months. dont' become friends with her, however. just keep it business-like and casual and you'll eventually figure out what she is after.

 

personally, i would not email her.

[jellybean]

Originally posted by BigB

 

Is she hitting on me? does email address = phone number these days?

 

Hey BigB,

 

1) Don't even THINK about getting romantically involved with someone from work. (trust me on this)

 

2) I've exchanged email addys with approx 10 women AND men from the office. We just vent about the job. I always get the heads-up on who just got fired, suspended, quit, is pregnant, etc.

 

It's just a safe way for us to essentially GOSSIP.

[BigB]

Normally I would stay away from dating a co-worker, I've seen it go bad at another job when one of the supervisor's was dating a girl who worked under him.

 

This is a slightly different situation though. We won't be working together once her training is finished, in fact I think last night was the only time I was assigned to train her. She's training with the supervisor on Monday and Tuesday, then she'll start working.

 

At this site I work alone. So, only time I'll see her is for 5-10 minutes when she comes in to work the shift after mine. She's going to work the first shift temporarily while someone is on vacation. she may be permanently assigned to the first shift in the future, that hasn't been decided yet.

 

If she's only at this site temporarily, we'll still be working for the same company but would never work together. If that happen's I think it could work because if it didn't work out I'd never have to see her again.

 

I'm not saying I'm going to ask her out, I'm still not sure. I guess I could send a friendly email and see where it goes. I could always let it fizzle after a few email's if needed, or just push it into the friend zone.

 

I'm tempted to try though, I haven't had a date in almost 7 years, and this is a crappy job that I just took temporarily.

[Mr.positive]

Oh Yehhh. You got hit on But do you want to pursue a relationship at the work place or not ? Thats always a tough call.

[Spooon69]

Do you want a chance of falling in love? Do you really not want to look for another job?

 

If the former, email her, if the latter, don't email her.

[blue16]

Email her dude, or atleast ask her out in some way. Personally I would ask her out in person if you get the chance. Speaking from personal experience, asking people out over email is the wrong way to go IMO (even if she did give you her address.) Love, or the chance at it is worth a lot more than some crappy temp job. And it's not like you're even choosing "The girl OR your job." you even said yourself that if things don't work out you don't have to see her. And to put it this way...what if 6 months down the road you regretted not taking the chance when you knew you should have. You will be so pissed at yourself for not taking a good opportunity and you'd never know what would've happened. Not knowing what coulda, shoulda, woulda been is 10x worse than going for it and it not working out.

[BigB]

I did email her, a few hours ago. I'm weak , I couldn't help myself. I just had to try and find out what her deal is.

 

I just sent a friendly hello. She asked me which route was the best way to drive home last night so I asked if my directions worked, and said "feel free to email me sometime".

 

I'll take it slow for a few days till I find out if she'll be working at the same site as me permanently or not. She's supposed to be here temporarily, but one guy might be getting fired, and she might get his shifts (rumor I heard)...

 

It's still possible that she's just being friendly, so I plan to feel it out carefully for a little bit.

[magda]

"email me sometime if you get bored" is a pretty lame pick-up line. I think you should give it a few weeks and see if she's worth the potential annoyance of dating a co-worker.

 

edit: oh woops, just read your most recent post. never mind i guess.

[BigB]

Originally posted by magda

"email me sometime if you get bored" is a pretty lame pick-up line. I think you should give it a few weeks and see if she's worth the potential annoyance of dating a co-worker.

 

I agree, that's largely why it confused me.

 

I figure she was:

 

A) Trying to subtle because she did this right in front of the other dude I was training

B) Just being friendly

C) Is an email whore (you know the type that just wants new people to email)

[blue16]

Originally posted by BigB

I agree, that's largely why it confused me.

 

I figure she was:

 

A) Trying to subtle because she did this right in front of the other dude I was training

B) Just being friendly

C) Is an email whore (you know the type that just wants new people to email)

 

Ya it is really hard to tell. I really didn't consider the email whore possibility, I have known some girls like that in the past...but most people aren't attention whores to that degree. But the thing is, most the time the girl won't make the move. If they DO, it is usually something very indirect (in your case, an invitation to email her would fit the bill) so it's tough to tell whether it's just being friendly or she's being subtle. If you still get a chance to see her at work a little bit you will probably have the opportunity to play it by ear a little more. If you know you won't see her, it's definitely worth the shot.

[BigB]

Originally posted by blue16

But the thing is, most the time the girl won't make the move. If they DO, it is usually something very indirect (in your case, an invitation to email her would fit the bill) so it's tough to tell whether it's just being friendly or she's being subtle.

 

Agreed, since it was at work and in front of another person, this might have been her version of "extra subtle". *shrugs*

 

Originally posted by blue16

If you still get a chance to see her at work a little bit you will probably have the opportunity to play it by ear a little more. If you know you won't see her, it's definitely worth the shot.

 

When she starts working some shifts sometime next week I'll be working the shift before her. We always hang out for a few and shoot the s*** when the shifts overlap, we'll be alone then and I'll probably be able to get a better read on her.

[blue16]

Originally posted by BigB

...we'll be alone then and I'll probably be able to get a better read on her.

 

Pffff...we all know that really means it's your chance to get your game on

 

hehe best of luck.

[BigB]

Welp, no response to my email so far. *shrugs*

 

I think she'll be working the shift after mine on Friday night...

 

To be continued.

[whichwayisup]

Don't email her again. Let it go completely and if she emails you - Then just send her a funny mpeg or a joke. Don't say a word in that email. Then see what happens, how she responds to that.

[BigB]

too late, she replied. It was just friendly. Turns out she's not going to be working here, she felt "uncomfortable" because this site is "too hard" *cough*this is the easiest job I've ever had*cough*

 

I send a short friendly response to that. She's starting to seem kinda wacky so I'm going to let it fizzle.

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by BigB

She's starting to seem kinda wacky so I'm going to let it fizzle.

 

Wacky is sometimes good for a well needed distraction..

[whichwayisup]

DO you like her though? Like enough to see where it leads to????

 

Yeah, maybe she's abit dippy by what you've said. Or she just doesn't like the job... ...

[april]

Oh, but this is your chance....it's not good dating a co-worker, but she no longer is!

 

And there's not really anything "wacky" about her realizing that this job is not right for her.

 

I think you should stay in touch with her - ya never know

[BigB]

Originally posted by whichwayisup

DO you like her though? Like enough to see where it leads to????

 

Yeah, maybe she's abit dippy by what you've said. Or she just doesn't like the job... ...

 

Kinda, she seemed like a cool girl, I hardly know her though.. She does come off like she's not very bright, maybe I got the wrong impression of that,, who knows..

 

Originally posted by april

Oh, but this is your chance....it's not good dating a co-worker, but she no longer is!

 

And there's not really anything "wacky" about her realizing that this job is not right for her.

 

I think you should stay in touch with her - ya never know

 

yep, no longer a co-worker.. we still work for the same company, but not at the same location so I don't think it would be a problem.

 

If she email's back again I'll probably keep emailing her and see where it goes I think...

 

I had the thought to invite her out to a party or some other group function. I could get to know her a little better that way without any pressure. *shrugs*

 

I also started talking to a very cool chick online a few days ago. We've been flirting on another message board for a few weeks, and just figured out we live kinda close. So I'm also seeing where that goes. She's been sending me pictures of herself and she's supposed to call me tonight.. . normally I'd run from this kinda thing as well, but she's been friends with some of my online friends for several years so I think I can trust her for the most part.