Strange couple of occurences from 2 ex's

[BryanSmiley]

I’ve made some good progress moving on from my last couple of ex’s the past month, but have just a couple of weird experiences that’s put me back a step and f^cked my mind again.

 

An ex from a year ago I dated for only a month, she had just come out of a relationship (I requested she go single on Fb, and give things a couple of weeks before we even have a date). After a month of being together she went back to this ex. I was in a bar at the weekend, I recognised the guy whom she’d gotten back with, and he walked over and knew my name. Startled as to how, he said he’d found his GF’s phone a couple of days ago and all the texts between us. This alone is a little strange, how did he get into her phone, know what text comm’s to seek out in her phone, etc. He presented her with it all and she admitted she dated me for awhile. He asked for dates, and on us politely talking we each realised there had been an overlap, she was sending me nudes whilst still with him (they only broke up for max a week). That was one weird experience, she must’ve cheated. All in the past, but gets you thinking.

 

The other, my most recent ex I still work with, we go through a month or so of NC at most because we work together and she’s contacted me a couple of times. One a month back for my birthday. She still wasn’t sure on things so I said lets go NC again please. Then she messaged me very stressed and considering quitting our workplace. When I said, look if you want to come over, we’ll hang out, talk, come. She said “I don’t know” which her indeciveness was always the issue.

 

No comm’s since that 2-3 weeks ago, but for one it makes things pop into my mind again as to why she reaches out. Today I noticed a male friend of hers at work was not wearing his wedding ring, and I always had a tiny doubt there was an attraction between them, she’d even text him whilst with me. She always said she was never with anyone else and wasn’t looking for a serious relationship. But I see they spend time together at work lunch times and with this added paranoia (true or not) I’m now dreading seeing her around work again especially if she’s with him.

 

Just when I have a good few weeks of clarity, and processing the history, the true version of the history let alone the current landing of things seems to get thrown in the air again. I also find each romantic rejection of any kind however minor, also just puts my mind right back to...did I do something similar with such and such ex. Ugh, the mind f^ck’s are back!

[Maldives]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/612481-dumped-work-together

 

I can relate read my thread work wth an we were together 6 yrs broken up 9 mths from March to end of may I watched her and a work colleague romance at work it was hell till he resigned a few weeks ago and moved to work and live overseas .

 

I still don't like working wth her makes it difficult to move on but is a lot easier. Trust those gut instincts ur feeling and be prepared for hell regarding this new romance of hers read my thread dude.

[preraph]

I hate to tell you, but indecisive is just "not interested." It's not like a female can't help but be indecisive. She's just trying to softly turn you down.