hokugirl Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 I´m on vacation in another country now. I met this guy online in my first few weeks here. We decided to meet so he could tour me around. He seems to have carefully planned the tour and he said didn´t want to disappoint me. When we met, he´s not as lively as how we talked online. He doesn´t make romantic moves but he is very nice, gentleman and he pays for everything. I offer to pay but he said I´m a visitor in the country so I shouldn´t. We´re still talking online and have met again for a second tour. He´s also planning to see me again. He´s open to be being an introvert and I think he is a little timid so it´s hard to know how he feels about me. He says things like: 1. “We should´ve brought a mat in the park so we could lie down and see the sky.” 2. I´ve been waiting for someone like you. Someone who shares the same interests as me. (He says he just loves showing people around and actually toured a guy recently. I really like him and I want to know his intentions.) Please help me!
Redhead14 Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 I´m on vacation in another country now. I met this guy online in my first few weeks here. We decided to meet so he could tour me around. He seems to have carefully planned the tour and he said didn´t want to disappoint me. When we met, he´s not as lively as how we talked online. He doesn´t make romantic moves but he is very nice, gentleman and he pays for everything. I offer to pay but he said I´m a visitor in the country so I shouldn´t. We´re still talking online and have met again for a second tour. He´s also planning to see me again. He´s open to be being an introvert and I think he is a little timid so it´s hard to know how he feels about me. He says things like: 1. “We should´ve brought a mat in the park so we could lie down and see the sky.” 2. I´ve been waiting for someone like you. Someone who shares the same interests as me. (He says he just loves showing people around and actually toured a guy recently. I really like him and I want to know his intentions.) Please help me! Be very, very careful with this . . . is all I can tell you. His intentions???? I struggle to think that his intentions are what you hope they would be, that's for sure. Don't be alone with him anywhere . . . women in foreign countries are often targets for being robbed, raped, kidnapped, etc. He may be a really nice guy, but you have no idea who you are dealing with. I´ve been waiting for someone like you. -- Naive, alone in a strange place, young, and with money . . . Don't be thinking that this is some kind of Lifetime Movie Channel chick flick . . . use common sense, have a good time, but be on your game and aware of your surroundings at all times. 1
central Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 He is probably fine, just introverted and shy about initiating anything. If you like him enough, drag him off to bed and you'll soon know if he's into you that way. As for a relationship, who knows? LDRs are difficult at best, so you may just have a vacation fling and move on. What do YOU want?
d0nnivain Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Based solely on your message board post without meeting him, we can't say what he wants. I'd enjoy your time with him now. Have little expectations for staying together when you go home. Guard your heart but have fun. Unless one of you independently of the other had plans to relocate, this is a summer vacation fling . . . to be enjoyed but not prolonged. If I'm wrong, you may have a great LDR. But if I'm right, you minimize the amount of hurt you endure when it's time to separate. 2
Space Ritual Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 He´s open to be being an introvert What the hell does that mean? LMAO! I'm kidding I never expected that in a sentence, so you learn something new every day. OP, I'll be as honest as I can. The guy likes you and he is doing what he thinks is appropriate in courting. Except he is obviously going about it wrong if you wrote in here wondering aloud what this intentions were. Being he is a bit of an introvert, He does not want to come on too strong for fear of pushing you away and he just may be a little behind in his game, or has had it happen in to him in recent experience. If h is as shy and reserved as you say he is, you'll be the last on e to know if he had it happen to him before as it is info he would rather have pried out of him with a crowbar than divulge to someone he likes romantically. So is he into you? YES Is he worried about making a misstep? YES In your case it is going to have to be YOU to make the first overt physical move. Which is every guy's dream to have a hot chick throw caution to the wind and herself at us in the same breath. 2
mon. Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Pay attention to other men around. I've been in places where people just love to show around. Of course a man would love that even more if it's a nice girl, but not necessarily he has INTENTIONS. And yeah, please be careful cause he might have intentions but not the ones you are expecting (violence, crime, as mentioned before).
Author hokugirl Posted July 3, 2017 Author Posted July 3, 2017 He is probably fine, just introverted and shy about initiating anything. If you like him enough, drag him off to bed and you'll soon know if he's into you that way. As for a relationship, who knows? LDRs are difficult at best, so you may just have a vacation fling and move on. What do YOU want? Thank you for everyone´s advise. We went out a few times already. Although, he´s referring to it as a "tour", we´re talking all day, everyday. I can sense that he´s a nice person. I´m the same age as him and we´re friends in Facebook already so I can see from there that he´s what he says he is and not a creep. But if I use my logic, I know that even if we know that we like each other, it´s going to be hard to carry the relationship to a higher level. His country and mine is only a 3 hour difference but still, it´s an LDR, in case. I also don´t want to send him mixed signals but I mistakenly referred to myself as his friend. I was trying to be less obvious that I like him, that´s why. I´m concerned he might take that as me pushing him away.
Author hokugirl Posted July 3, 2017 Author Posted July 3, 2017 Based solely on your message board post without meeting him, we can't say what he wants. I'd enjoy your time with him now. Have little expectations for staying together when you go home. Guard your heart but have fun. Unless one of you independently of the other had plans to relocate, this is a summer vacation fling . . . to be enjoyed but not prolonged. If I'm wrong, you may have a great LDR. But if I'm right, you minimize the amount of hurt you endure when it's time to separate. You´re right. It can be complicated. Is it possible he still chooses to let me know if he likes me even if we both know how this is going to end?
Author hokugirl Posted July 3, 2017 Author Posted July 3, 2017 What the hell does that mean? LMAO! I'm kidding I never expected that in a sentence, so you learn something new every day. OP, I'll be as honest as I can. The guy likes you and he is doing what he thinks is appropriate in courting. Except he is obviously going about it wrong if you wrote in here wondering aloud what this intentions were. Being he is a bit of an introvert, He does not want to come on too strong for fear of pushing you away and he just may be a little behind in his game, or has had it happen in to him in recent experience. If h is as shy and reserved as you say he is, you'll be the last on e to know if he had it happen to him before as it is info he would rather have pried out of him with a crowbar than divulge to someone he likes romantically. So is he into you? YES Is he worried about making a misstep? YES In your case it is going to have to be YOU to make the first overt physical move. Which is every guy's dream to have a hot chick throw caution to the wind and herself at us in the same breath. Thanks for the advice! I´m not so good at showing guys signs that I like them. In contrast, I tend to hide my feelings by becoming casual around them. Thus, giving them the impression that I only see them as a friend.
coolheadal Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 I´m on vacation in another country now. I met this guy online in my first few weeks here. We decided to meet so he could tour me around. He seems to have carefully planned the tour and he said didn´t want to disappoint me. When we met, he´s not as lively as how we talked online. He doesn´t make romantic moves but he is very nice, gentleman and he pays for everything. I offer to pay but he said I´m a visitor in the country so I shouldn´t. We´re still talking online and have met again for a second tour. He´s also planning to see me again. He´s open to be being an introvert and I think he is a little timid so it´s hard to know how he feels about me. He says things like: 1. “We should´ve brought a mat in the park so we could lie down and see the sky.” 2. I´ve been waiting for someone like you. Someone who shares the same interests as me. (He says he just loves showing people around and actually toured a guy recently. I really like him and I want to know his intentions.) Please help me! Stop reading too much into this, just let it flow, because really you can't do more than just wing it for now you two.. Enjoy the time he's giving you. His intentions you have to ask him that question? 1
d0nnivain Posted July 3, 2017 Posted July 3, 2017 You´re right. It can be complicated. Is it possible he still chooses to let me know if he likes me even if we both know how this is going to end? Telling somebody that you have feelings for them involves the risk of rejection. Knowing how this will end when you go home, he may be unwilling to take that risk. He may have also started spending time with you because he knows this has a built in end & he only wants a summer fling. Summer flings can be fun. If you need the conversation / the words / the disclosure you will have to start the conversation but it is a big risk because he may have only wanted an enjoyable fling.
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