SomethingRandoms Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 (edited) Hey guys. So I am 16, soon to be 17, and I was dating the love of my life for just over a year. She dumped me about a month ago for someone else. I posted on this forum about my story, and I was given good advice. Like to move on with my life. Well, I am trying to do that. I have dated someone new, and left her after a week as I didn't develop feelings for her, and I doubt I would have. Now I am dating a new girl, and I am sure I won't develop feelings for this girl either. It is hard for me to care or to develop feelings about anyone.. That is why everything went well with my ex for me. I loved her. She was my first love, and I am pretty sure she is the girl I am looking for.. To spend the rest of my life with. People tell me that since she was my first love, I had a special bond with her. But no. That isn't the case. I really feel like my first love was with the girl I am meant to be with. Can anyone offer some advice? I dont know what to do.. Some backstory: My ex started being distant with me, before she broke it off. When I asked her why she was being distant, she always said something like "oh, it is fine. I have just been busy with school". I let her have her space. I let her do her thing. She just became most distant.. Now keep in mind, this next part happened really fast. For each thing that happened, I barely had anytime to recover or to react. And still keep in mind that this is the first girl I actually loved.. And the only girl I think I will ever love. So texts me saying that her and I should just go our own way, because "we started talking to new people". But I didn't start talking to new people! I was giving her SPACE! That was just a ****ty excuse to ditch me.I was literally watching Youtube videos Every Single Day while she was distant. I tried talking to her, making sure she was good and everything. But she would answer with one word replies, or leave me on read! Anyway, she says that we can still be friends. At this point I was kinda relieved. That I still had a friend like her. Because at that time I thought she was just amazing and the best person ever. And guess what? After 2 hours of us no longer being a thing, she has a new boyfriend. So to make everything short: She was never busy with school. She was seeing someone else.. Anyway, I still wanted to be her friend. She is just a really fun and cool person to hang with. I relate to her so much.. Then 6 hours after she friendzoned me, she said that we must get out of each others lives.. that just kicked me down even more. I felt worthless. She was my best friend and girlfriend, and it all ended like that. Then after I told her that we should just have a small break, she said "I'm sorry, it's over." Anyway, she blocked me from Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Skype, and everything imaginable. I was just sitting there with nothing left in my life but a broken heart.. about 1 week after I made my post about my story, I got some good advice. I was moving on. But at random times, my thought would go back to her. ANYWAY: I am on my second girlfriend after her, and I talk to like 2 other girls. I know that I am moving on too fast, and that I am talking to too many girls now, but with all these girls, I cannot seem to develop feelings with them. I am a mess. I feel like I cannot find a girl that I care about like my ex again.. advice? I just want a girl for me to love again.. Otherwise I dont think I will feel whole again Edited November 11, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Member request.
d0nnivain Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 There's a cliche that says you get over somebody by rebounding into somebody else. You are finding that is not true for you. It's summer. Throw yourself into having fun with your friends. Get a job to keep yourself busy. When the time is right you will find a new GF. Don't force it.
Author SomethingRandoms Posted June 28, 2017 Author Posted June 28, 2017 (edited) d0nnivain said: There's a cliche that says you get over somebody by rebounding into somebody else. You are finding that is not true for you. It's summer. Throw yourself into having fun with your friends. Get a job to keep yourself busy. When the time is right you will find a new GF. Don't force it. It's winter for me (Southern Hemisphere). And she was pretty much my only friend left. Before I fell in love with her, I was meant to join the armed forces. So anyway, I was signed up to join. I was meant to leave at the end of April actually. So anyway, my friend pretty much got pissed at me for ditching them and want nothing to do with me. I ended up dropping out of the military once i fell inlove with her, so I didn't have to leave. I am also home schooled. Edited November 11, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Member request.
d0nnivain Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 Apologize to your friends. Everybody has been ditched by a friend for a new SO. They should be OK with being friends again. Whether you enlist is up to you. If you are home schooled, ask your parents to sign you up for meetings & activities with other home schooled kids. There are organizations designed to give you socialization.
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