KimberlyNJ Posted June 28, 2017 Share Posted June 28, 2017 Hi everyone! I am having dilemanand would like your opinion. About a week ago I have met a guy through some circumstances. I came to the company where he works and needed him to fix some issues. So we were talking and it was obvious how we had a connection and so on. He gave me his business card and told me I can find him on Facebook. He also told me how he meets up with his friends at the bar to watch a football game and how I should join him one weekend. He told me to call him if I need anything. I did find him on Facebook, but didn't contact him yet. I am not sure it's a good idea to call the guy first, but somehow I heard some cases of women contacting guys first and guys don't find it wrong. I really liked the guy but not sure if I should contact him first. Please can you give me an advice if I should get more confident and call him up? Or he should of done that himself? Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 28, 2017 Share Posted June 28, 2017 "She called me first, what a turn off" said NO GUY EVER. Why in the world would you possibly think it's not a good idea? Having said that, inviting you to a game in a bar with his friends doesn't sound much like a date, you may be friend zoned. If you're interested then just ask him out, alone. What's the worst that could happen? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 Ah this is a difficult one. You met him through his work where he was presumably supposed to be acting in a professional capacity. If he had asked you out, you or his company could have acted as if it was sexual harassment of a client. It sounds to me like he did as much as he could to show he'd like to make contact with you, without overtly making an approach to you. I can understand your reticence about contacting him. Given the above circumstances, I think it would be ok to drop him a line on Facebook, maybe thanking him for his help and saying you hope he's ok and enjoying the football games. If he's truly interested, he will leap at the chance to contact you via a social network and out of the work context. I would definitely leave it up to him to ask you out though, otherwise you will be doing the chasing. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 2, 2017 Share Posted July 2, 2017 (edited) If you're interested in him, I would contact him via Facebook as he suggested. Tell him you hope he enjoys the football game with his buddies. Thank him for the invite to join them but say you can't make it this time. Close with maybe you and he can grab a drink or do something else another time. You're a work client, so he went as far as he could while on the job. It's up to you to show that you're open to seeing him socially were he to invite you out. That being said, no way am I going to hang out with a guy and all his buddies on game night at a bar as a first date. Talk about an awkward situation! Edited July 2, 2017 by angel.eyes Link to post Share on other sites
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