I asked her out and she still hasn't replied?

[hercules22]

im not even old and i prefer to call the girl not only do you get to hear her tone of voice u can have a very short convo then ask her out for a date and if she hesitates then you will know if she is really interested or not .

 

you will either get a quick answer or she will say something along the lines let me see or they will say they are busy they may or may not be .

[basil67]

I texted her back 12 hours after my first teasing her about not replying. She replied aww sorry my bad etc. I work all week till midnight. My only day off is monday. I pretty much said no worries. let me know if you want to do something closer to monday. I figure let her text me first for once.

 

I take it you're not so interested anymore. Oh well, there's always the next one.

 

And please take some of your own advice: You said the advantage of texting is that a person can reply in their own time. I agree with this. So don't go getting upset if they wait to answer when it's convenient to them.

[basil67]

Most girls I've get numbers from don't reply back when I text them. I don't know why they give them out in the first place.

 

If the girl is a stranger you've approached randomly, she will give her number so that she doesn't have to deal with having to say "no" and then possibly be hassled by a guy who then wants to know why not.

 

Giving a fake number to a guy you're not interested in is safer than saying No to someone when you don't know how they will react.

[whitewolf80]

I asked a girl for her number. When I messaged her to initiate a date, she didnt reply. So I messged her back 12 hours later and teased her for not replying. She replied back saying my bad...etc. I work late all week. My next day off is on Monday:( I said cool, if anything call me back closer to monday if you wanna do something:)

 

 

I guess I want her to initiate for once. See if she's actually interested. Let me be pursued for once.

 

Was that a wrong move?

[Imajerk17]

I'm not a fan of adding steps. When she told you her next day off was Monday, well, why didn't you just set up the date with her for Monday?

 

The time to leave the ball in her court and tell a girl to "call me" ("me" being you here, OP) is when she flakes on you or you already tried a few times to set something up with her or she tells you that she is going to be busy until 2018. But here, she gave you a specific date that she was free.

 

All is not lost. Message her maybe tomorrow asking how her week is going. Then go for setting up a date, being specific w time and place.

Edited June 28, 2017 by Imajerk17

[knabe]

I'll be frank, if I said I would be off Monday, and a man put the onus on ME to call him instead of just asking me out right then, I'd think he was wishy washy. And the fact that you made a statement about wanting her to initiate (I mean, you've texted her what, twice??) makes it seem like some test.

 

Why do today's young men do this stuff? Too much RedPill or something?

 

Ask the woman out for a specific date. Don't keep score. Scorekeeping is for lame, weak, neckbeards lol

[dumbass2]

Take this for what its worth, but I can tell by how many threads you've started on this in just a few days and how anxious you're coming off that you need to learn to relax and just chill out or you'll come off needy and insecure when trying to date someone. You should have suggested specific plans for a date Monday and then leave it to her to get back or not.

 

At this point you've done enough contact as you left it on her now so don't contact her again and let her show you she is interested or not by her actions. If you don't hear back this week then maybe throw out some planes for a day next week and that's the final shot. Like I said, chill out and stop being so anxious.

[whitewolf80]

I messaged her back next day saying since your off on Monday.lets do something then! She replied a few hours later. I work on Monday.

 

Even though she just told me in her last message that it was her only day off lol.

 

I'm not pursuing, texting or asking this girl out ever again. When I see her in going to act cool like none of this ever happened.

 

Lesson learned. Moving on