I asked her out and she still hasn't replied?

[whitewolf80]

I asked out a girl out on a date from a store that I frequent on Sunday and she gave me her number. I texted her my number a little while later so she would have it and she said thanks.

 

 

I was going to text her on Wednesday to set-up a date for Friday or the weekend. But I read that girls prefer if you call?

 

 

I like texting, but does it make a difference to a girl if you call rather than text?

[BluSpark]

Good question OP. I am a guy so take that as a caveat.

 

I think it depends on the woman. It would certainly be nice if there was a sign above every woman stating her preference. Unfortunately, I think we have to feel out each situation.

 

In your case, she seems into you and you've chatted before. I am guessing she will be fine with either. Good luck.

[hippychick3]

I personally prefer a text. I just am not one who enjoys phone calls with people I don't know extremely well.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I personally prefer a text. I just am not one who enjoys phone calls with people I don't know extremely well.

 

Me too. I think texting is fine for setting up arrangements.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I personally prefer a text. I just am not one who enjoys phone calls with people I don't know extremely well.

 

Same. I dislike talking on the phone, would much prefer the text.

[amaysngrace]

both are nice but texting is less time consuming

[rushed]

I personally prefer a text. I just am not one who enjoys phone calls with people I don't know extremely well.

 

Add me to the text camp. I hate phone calls in general.

[allez102]

I asked out a girl out on a date from a store that I frequent on Sunday and she gave me her number. I texted her my number a little while later so she would have it and she said thanks.

 

 

I was going to text her on Wednesday to set-up a date for Friday or the weekend. But I read that girls prefer if you call?

 

 

I like texting, but does it make a difference to a girl if you call rather than text?

 

 

 

Definitely a cultural thing. I get the impression in America a call is the norm for this type of thing? Not in the UK!

[smackie9]

I think it's a generation thing. Me being old, would prefer phone calls for communication...texting is for kids.

[hippychick3]

I think it's a generation thing. Me being old, would prefer phone calls for communication...texting is for kids.

 

Well, I'm pretty old too. And if I don't know you REALLY well, I don't want you calling me

[SevenCity]

As a guy, I don't like talking on the phone unless it's scheduled.

 

I would venture to say a lot of women feel the same. It's one thing to surprise your gf with a call, but can be intrusive from a stranger.

 

I actually prefer to screen on the phone so I can see how she is (with women from OLD) but I've found that most did not want to and ended up blowing some opportunities as a result.

 

IRL meeting is different - you've met them already.

 

Bottom line is if she likes you you could send her a letter in the mail and she would say yes.

 

Everyone is different and I believe age plays a factor. If she's over 50 she may prefer a call.

[The Urbanyst]

If a girl is really into you, it won't matter. She will just deal with whatever you choose to do.

 

Remember.. you can get away with almost anything if a girl is REALLY into you. So stop overthinking.

 

Girls will tell you all this nonsense about their standards and what they expect. But it all goes out the winder if you're HOT and they want you bad lol.

[Jenn2]

I would prefer a text!! Now the next date I would deff. call her. Maybe once you guys get to know each other calling will make it easier on you. If she is super down to earth and you guys have a good connection id call her!!!!

[carhill]

OP, while I believe preferences to be individual and/or generational, I'll offer a tip....

 

If a woman you're interested in gives you her number, contact her at your earliest convenience and ask her on a date. In your scenario, where she apparently 'gave me her number', I presume not in a phone text swap, simply call her up and ask her out if that's customary in your demographic.

 

Back in the day I came to find I had better luck when getting a note passed with a phone number (long before cell phones) to ask her on a date right then and there and then the phone call would simply be logistics. Women, at least women who like a particular guy at the moment, like it when the guy is decisive about showing his reciprocal interest. That moment can be brief. Good luck!

[Miss Peach]

I agree it might be a generational thing. Those who dated before texting like calls as they seem to be getting more and more rare. But everyone is so afraid to call and not get an answer that so many people adverse to using the phone. My XBF phoned me and it gained him serious browning points and made him stand out over the other guys I met who texted.

 

If I like a guy texting is fine. I'll still accept the date if it's clearly a date. It's just what every other guy does so if she has options you won't stand out.

 

Many guys do this weak 'Let's go out sometime' thing and I don't take that as a date. I might say that sounds cool or I'm busy lately depending on how I feel about the guy. But I won't actually expect it to turn into anything until he make concrete plans. If my interest level is low, it makes him come off as lazy or not interested so it doesn't help his chances.

[whitewolf80]

Since I came to this site, I see a lot of people who say always call when asking someone out. Never text.

 

 

I don't get it. I've never heard of that before this place. Didn't think it was a big deal.

 

 

To me it's 2017. Who even talks on a phone these days. I never talk on the phone, or even answer calls. I prefer texting myself. She probably wouldn't even answer.

 

 

I see some people say its lame and I would never go out with someone who asked me by text. It shows lack of courage and low interest. What!? I think people who say that are crazy, or over 40.

 

 

I think it's even more considerate to text so they can reply at their own time.

 

 

Thoughts?

[KAOJ]

I do not like talking on the phone, so I would welcome texts

[smackie9]

Dude just text your date and ask her what she prefers if you are THAT worried about it....there problem solved.

[d0nnivain]

It's a personal preference. On a generational level the older the person the more likely that they prefer a voice call; younger texting is better but those are stereotypes.

 

You need to find out how the person you are talking to wants to be approached & adopt that method even if it's not your preference.

[No_Go]

I personally much rather prefer written communication with a stranger (e-mail better than text, but if text is the only option - ok).

 

Call may give better results because it is more pushy / i almost feel obliged after the dude has made the effort, but my preference is to reserve the calls for after establishing a relationship.

 

I asked out a girl out on a date from a store that I frequent on Sunday and she gave me her number. I texted her my number a little while later so she would have it and she said thanks.

 

 

I was going to text her on Wednesday to set-up a date for Friday or the weekend. But I read that girls prefer if you call?

 

 

I like texting, but does it make a difference to a girl if you call rather than text?

[whitewolf80]

I ask a girl if I can take her on a date sometime at a store that I frequent. She gives me her number. I text her mine a little while later so she has it and she says thanks:). A couple days later (today) I text her if she wants to grab a slice of pizza with me this week. That was at noon. It's now almost 8pm. Now I'm starting to feel indifferent towards her. If she replies back I don't know if I want to go anymore. Just say forget it, forget her and move on to the next girl. Am I being petty? That's a long time to not reply no? Is there an acceptable time limit? Did I do something wrong?

 

Most girls I've get numbers from don't reply back when I text them. I don't know why they give them out in the first place.

[Gaeta]

If you had called her up instead of texting she would have said yes or not and you wouldn't be left wondering.

 

Us, old people over 40 know best.

[todreaminblue]

personally what I think is really cool.....are guys who ask in person...who do it face to face...for me it shows a real strength of character...a sexy confidence...in spite of possible rejection.....cant say I have rejected a guy who steps up and asks me face to face...my first requirement to dating is me feeling respect for them....and I respect guys with guts....because I have guts to do the same thing...im more likely to face a guy and ask him out...If I can ask in person I prefer it....ill ask a guy to actually come see me so I can ask.....

 

 

.texting however is fine as is phoning for a first time date....whatever suits...its better if you know a little about them ...and then it isn't such a guess what they would like or appreciate.......deb

[SevenCity]

If you had called her up instead of texting she would have said yes or not and you wouldn't be left wondering.

 

Us, old people over 40 know best.

 

Or he would have gotten an ananswered voicemail.

 

I'm over 40 and prefer text. She's not into him - has nothing to do with the media used. Text is better as you know they can read it whenever. I've got like 3 voicemails I might get to this week, maybe.

[whitewolf80]

I texted her back 12 hours after my first teasing her about not replying. She replied aww sorry my bad etc. I work all week till midnight. My only day off is monday. I pretty much said no worries. let me know if you want to do something closer to monday. I figure let her text me first for once.