mistycord Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 So I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half now. For the first 3 weeks, I felt alright with everything but for the past 2 weeks I've had some anxiety over the situation. For the first 3 weeks we would hang out almost every day but for the past 2 weeks we've only seen each other twice. Once last week and once the week before last. The week before last his grandmother was admitted to the hospital so I understood (he's basically her primary caregiver). He also works and goes to school. When we hung out last week, he acted normal and when I asked if he was losing interest he said no. He still calls/web cams/texts every I should add. I talked to my guy friend about it and he said that maybe in the beginning he was more insistent with seeing me every day to get to know me/keep my interest but now that he's comfortable with me, he assumes I'll be okay with him being busy. I also want to make it clear that I'm not coming at this with the mindset of "OMG HOW DARE HE NOT SPEND EVERYDAY WITH ME" but more like does this mean he's not into me anymore cause I certaintly don't want to keep anyone in my life who doesn't want to be there.
Gaeta Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 So I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half now. For the first 3 weeks, I felt alright with everything but for the past 2 weeks I've had some anxiety over the situation. For the first 3 weeks we would hang out almost every day but for the past 2 weeks we've only seen each other twice. Once last week and once the week before last. The week before last his grandmother was admitted to the hospital so I understood (he's basically her primary caregiver). He also works and goes to school. When we hung out last week, he acted normal and when I asked if he was losing interest he said no. He still calls/web cams/texts every I should add. I talked to my guy friend about it and he said that maybe in the beginning he was more insistent with seeing me every day to get to know me/keep my interest but now that he's comfortable with me, he assumes I'll be okay with him being busy. I also want to make it clear that I'm not coming at this with the mindset of "OMG HOW DARE HE NOT SPEND EVERYDAY WITH ME" but more like does this mean he's not into me anymore cause I certaintly don't want to keep anyone in my life who doesn't want to be there. Where did he find the time to see you every day for 3 weeks? Was he off school or on vacations? How long did you spend together? were they real dates? There could be many things here. The first 3 weeks were bliss but reality hit and he now has to take care of...life. You can only go so many days without doing laundry. This is a more normal schedule and it will be like this from now on. Or he burnt the candle by both ends for 3 weeks. He over did it and now he's wanting to get some healthy space back.
todreaminblue Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 yeah I dont think you can keep up an everyday thing unless you are married ......even then you need space......to miss someone.....to understand their importance to you.....and not take them for granted.....I think its healthy at one to two times a week, normally when you first start dating it gets a little intense as you both are excited and wanting to know everything about each other...its like having a long lost best friend you never knew but feel you do.....smilin...... maintaining a bit of space will only add to the excitement trust me.....I dont think he has lost interest .....I feel its just a natural thing that had to happen eventually that it slow down a bit......and you continue to have lives such as work school and your other friends and his other friends.......also important...... that friendships are also nurtured and maintained....I wish you well.......deb
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