Quirkster Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I realize many of the guys that'll reading this are the very same people who happily fill thirst buckets with all the likes and DM's they can muster - but does social media ever turn some of you off from dating? I feel like now more than ever women have guys up their arse vying for attention 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Back in the day they needed to find a guy in real life for the attention they're now getting whenever they click "post". Sometimes I feel like the amount of attention they require (influenced by social media) is a full-time job. 1
CptInsano Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I wouldn't know, I'm not on social media other than LinkedIn. I used to be on Facebook, but the feeling that I lost IQ points just by checking my newsfeed got too concerning. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I wouldn't know, I'm not on social media other than LinkedIn. I used to be on Facebook, but the feeling that I lost IQ points just by checking my newsfeed got too concerning. :lmao: OP, I'm not a man, but what's your age group, are these women friends in reali life that you are following? 1
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 No. Social media is not a dating tool for me. I meet people in person. Most of the people on my social media are family, friends, classmates, and business associates. People I wouldn't want to date anyway. 3
Gaeta Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I am on FB with 72 friends that are all blood related to me. My bf is not on FB but the other day he was listenning to my daughter talking about FB and he turned toward me and asked: Hon you think I need a FB account? I answered: NO YOU DON'T ! 1
CptInsano Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 :lmao: OP, I'm not a man, but what's your age group, are these women friends in reali life that you are following? Sadly enough these are RL friends and acquaintances, and some ex-gfs. I'm in my mid-40s, but the need to post the most trite information or strange political views knows no age limit. Sometimes it's just better that I don't know.
Popsicle Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 I wouldn't know, I'm not on social media other than LinkedIn. I used to be on Facebook, but the feeling that I lost IQ points just by checking my newsfeed got too concerning. I'm only on LinkedIn too. I can't even handle FB. 1
Versacehottie Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 I realize many of the guys that'll reading this are the very same people who happily fill thirst buckets with all the likes and DM's they can muster - but does social media ever turn some of you off from dating? I feel like now more than ever women have guys up their arse vying for attention 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Back in the day they needed to find a guy in real life for the attention they're now getting whenever they click "post". Sometimes I feel like the amount of attention they require (influenced by social media) is a full-time job. Great question. I'm not a guy so I can only say it from my perspective that some of the social media stuff is so transparent & desperate that I'm surprised some guys STILL would be interested!!! However, some of the same people who are into social media in a major way, post great looking photos and guys are visual so I definitely understand the dilemma. Or maybe they aren't reading between the lines so much or thinking that deep when considering a girl who over-posts or is obsessed. I think the majority of the time it works in attention seeking girls' favor--basically it makes it seem like you are wildly popular, likable and have a great life when the truth can be quite different. Also often that you are better looking than you are (hello, photoshopping & major filter users looking at you haha). There's a saying going around on social media to that effect where it basically says "where is that person", i.e. the real person doesn't much look like that on a daily basis. I'm the most into instagram and once they added stories some of those same people that look amazing in photos are lame and annoying on their stories. Basically I look at it like this: most people are trying to promote themselves in some way or prove something, if you look for the intention and purpose of the post it's not that hard to find. Pretty fun to decipher. Such as girls going through a rough time or trying to make it look like they aren't or do things to specifically affect a certain guy. Or make it look like they are the life of the party and have no boyfriend--when they do. I could give a ton of examples. If you are a guy interested in a girl heavily into social media, my best rec is to not stalk it much at all; don't follow or friend her on it until a WAYS into the dating time, if at all. Some people might have a different opinion but that's mine.
Chilli Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 (edited) Not on it never have been , but l see it and hear it everywhere , especially with my daughter and her friends. We use to have to follow them to make sure thye stayed outa trouble and the pressure the kids all put on themselves and each other with all that crap now is just madness, total surreal madness. And the things just any total stranger or a jealous friend or some sh@t , can do and find out, about anyone, even on FB alone, is insane. that thing should be destroyed, it really should. l feel really so sorry for the **** some of them get put onto them and often when they don't even know the person, it's crazy crazy sh@t. l just thank God my daughters 16 now and one smart cookie , and very very grounded and seeing through the total crazy of it all lately. But l hate to think of where the kids will be in10yrs time, just sad. The internet alone is bad enough for me., the crap out there, madness, just in a different format. The labels,titles, expectations, ideas, names for absolutely everything now , even dating , l must have read 50 different terms and names for every breath they take if they date someone or even think about it. Add the crazy of the whole online date thing, people think that's normal now , they think that's how it is. They all seem conditioned to the bs on those things.The overload is insane. Frickin blows my mind. Edited June 28, 2017 by Chilli
Chilli Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 But the craziest thing is , even l get trapped into the bs . So you could just imagine the kids. Must've thought 100 times , get off this stupid damn machine and start living properly, life, real life. Well l have one , but l need more of it and less of this.
Author Quirkster Posted June 28, 2017 Author Posted June 28, 2017 The internet alone is bad enough for me., the crap out there, madness, just in a different format. The labels,titles, expectations, ideas, names for absolutely everything now , even dating , l must have read 50 different terms and names for every breath they take if they date someone or even think about it. Add the crazy of the whole online date thing, people think that's normal now , they think that's how it is. They all seem conditioned to the bs on those things.The overload is insane. Frickin blows my mind. No doubt. It's insanity. Which is why I brought it up. I've found that for the most part it has deterred me from trying to date.
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