stillafool Posted June 29, 2017 Posted June 29, 2017 You think he is still interested even after me sending messages with him not writing back? I think you should proceed as if he isn't going to contact you again. He may, who knows but usually at the beginning of dating guys want someone who is chill and doesn't put pressure on them. You have shown the complete opposite and it has probably turned him off. Next time, if you chose to have sex with a man treat it as a one night stand unless the two of you have agreed on more or just don't have it. You can't handle it.
Author NCAC Posted June 29, 2017 Author Posted June 29, 2017 Hi all got drunk last night as was our with friends ending up sending stupid drunken texts made a fool of myself. Have wallowed in shame and embarrassment. He's clearly avoiding my like the plague. But looking at all my snapchat stories etc that are on my feed. Guess that ship has sailed. Me myself and I
Versacehottie Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 Hi all got drunk last night as was our with friends ending up sending stupid drunken texts made a fool of myself. Have wallowed in shame and embarrassment. He's clearly avoiding my like the plague. But looking at all my snapchat stories etc that are on my feed. Guess that ship has sailed. Me myself and I Hmmm, well I don't want to make you feel worse since i think you already feel bad enough, but am I the only one who sees a bit of self-sabtogue in your actions last night? I just think you need to be careful of thinking in an all or nothing way. I promise you most of the time if you back off, the guys coming running back. In your case maybe you already went too far but why tip the scales into this territory with drunken texts? It feels like you already decided you f*cked up so then you were gonna really do it. Life has a lot more grey areas and have a little patience next time that things will be ok. Hope you feel better in a couple of days.
Capris Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 It's OK. Whatever he thinks, whatever happened, everything is ok. It's OK that you overly messaged him, it's OK you got paranoid. It's just one guy you weren't even dating. I assume though that this isn't the first time you let anxiety take over. So: Own your actions, forgive yourself for treating yourself this way and learn from this experience. Work on yourself. Don't let your happiness rely on anyone else than you.
stillafool Posted June 30, 2017 Posted June 30, 2017 Hi all got drunk last night as was our with friends ending up sending stupid drunken texts made a fool of myself. Have wallowed in shame and embarrassment. He's clearly avoiding my like the plague. But looking at all my snapchat stories etc that are on my feed. Guess that ship has sailed. Me myself and I So what have you learned for the next time? If you were out having fun with your friends why were you thinking of him enough to send those texts?
Author NCAC Posted July 2, 2017 Author Posted July 2, 2017 So he's still following me on Instagram and has just liked a pic I uploaded today.. any thoughts?
angel.eyes Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 Has he asked you out on another date? Reached out to actually chat with you? No? Then what he does on social media is meaningless. Let it go. It was four dates followed by an implosion. Learn from the experience, and look for others to date.
Versacehottie Posted July 2, 2017 Posted July 2, 2017 So he's still following me on Instagram and has just liked a pic I uploaded today.. any thoughts? A few: *Don't place so much emphasis in what happens on instagram *It's a breadcrumb and perhaps a soft opening *There is nothing to do in response to his action Listen, I know you want an excuse, any excuse, to make further contact with him however, if you have the willpower, and only then, should you still allow him to follow you on instagram BUT do nothing until he ACTUALLY reaches out. Right now you are absolute and utter back burner. Jumping like a dog for an insta like would be a mistake. If he wants to date you, you will hear from him with a DIRECT request to do so. I would make him squirm if it ever got to that point on the pure fact that he hasn't gotten back to you--in other words, he pretty much has already put you in a different category (not gf material, but yes hookup material, if nothing better comes along). I'm not sure you have the willpower to continue allowing him to follow you and keep doing likes; he might even escalate them to try to get your attention. If you want better for yourself, consider going private or blocking him. 3
Author NCAC Posted July 5, 2017 Author Posted July 5, 2017 Honestly thank you all so so much for taking the time and effort to post your replies to this! I've never been ghosted before and my god it's horrific ! I've had people say we're on different pages or I'm not looking for anything etc and that sucks bu my god ghosting is something else! It's a very harsh way to shoot someone down and **** yo their thirst issues! I've met my share of dick heads this year and my trust is men is at an all time low now. Each one always says they're different and to not paint them with the same brush but they all seem to be the same! The rise of social media tinder etc has changed dating so much in this day and age it's really easy to just move on to the next best thing and not let the person know - harsh reality eh. Especially to the good decent girls out there! I'm a bit frightened I will never find them one etc. I've focused all my energy on Me and working on myself as a person. Going to the gym again etc. Heart still hurts how you can talk with someone for over 4 months and becomes so connected and they literally but you loose in a second it sucks! I know I'm truely a great honest faithful person and it's just a matter of finding the person that's right for me. Here's hoping he is out there. X 1
coolheadal Posted July 5, 2017 Posted July 5, 2017 Honestly thank you all so so much for taking the time and effort to post your replies to this! I've never been ghosted before and my god it's horrific ! I've had people say we're on different pages or I'm not looking for anything etc and that sucks bu my god ghosting is something else! It's a very harsh way to shoot someone down and **** yo their thirst issues! I've met my share of dick heads this year and my trust is men is at an all time low now. Each one always says they're different and to not paint them with the same brush but they all seem to be the same! The rise of social media tinder etc has changed dating so much in this day and age it's really easy to just move on to the next best thing and not let the person know - harsh reality eh. Especially to the good decent girls out there! I'm a bit frightened I will never find them one etc. I've focused all my energy on Me and working on myself as a person. Going to the gym again etc. Heart still hurts how you can talk with someone for over 4 months and becomes so connected and they literally but you loose in a second it sucks! I know I'm truely a great honest faithful person and it's just a matter of finding the person that's right for me. Here's hoping he is out there. X What are you looking for in a guy? This guy not into you the way you think. I was wondering if you share that we all can help you find what you want instead of what your ending up with. If all of them are doing the same thing there has to be something on your end. Not always the guy it's can be just you. Then again could be that these men are damage from prior relationships, other toxic women all sorts of weirdo emotions and mental disorders. Not easy to date and be with the right guy for you. I me the same with the women. I working on myself building and toning.. I can wait it out. I going for a different approach. Frankly what's the rush but in all no one wants to be lonely without someone else to be with and share life with. Everyone is different some can cope and some can't. I smart and confident my ego is healthy, learning and growing with my prospective on life is great! What's your prospective on life is?
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