xmmian Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Here's where I need your input. I like my cousin(not first cousin) and I am really attracted towards her. For my personal satisfaction all I want to know if she ever had feelings for me? Should I approach her and asked her this directly? So, the story goes like this, she is 3 years older than me and now married few years. However, before she got married and during the time she was engaged. I used to live with her family during when I was in college. Initially when I started living, it never crossed me that I will be attracted to her as she was older than me and I respected her and she used to see me as her younger brother as she didn't had one. Slowly I started to observe few things, of course I kind of started to feel something for her as well but at the same time few things happen which made me question today if she liked me as I think or I have read things completely wrong? One thing I observed is when she used to do house chores , obviously she would bent to do certain things, if I am alone in the room and with her she will never hide her cleavage and I could see her bra she is wearing, however if someone comes in or someone is present she will always be careful and hide. I noted this multiple times. She never said anything if I looked at her, although I was careful but I think girls can sense who is watching them. Second, few months before she got married she asked me to go on a date while we were chatting (During that period I moved out and was no more living with them) at that time I took it as a joke and joked about it. This event I curse myself even today why did I do that? I think one of course our families were close and I was afraid if someone finds out and she may make fun if I say yes that's all I can remember. I think I have my fears at that time. Third, this is again a month before she got married one time our both family came from a dinner and we all were at her home. Everyone was in different places so the dining table was empty, I probably was drinking water standing my face was towards the back of the chair, she came from behind and wanted to pick something, she could have easily asked me to pick up or she could have picked it up from standing next to me easily as no one was there, but what happened is that she came from behind kind of hugged from the back trying to pick up, I felt her breast a bit on my back at that time it clicked me and I moved a bit backwards towards her, she continued to come forward and I felt her both breast pushed against my back. Those were just few moments but I will be honest how I felt I cannot describe in words. She moved back , we didn't make any eye contact. We always had a good relationship and still have, we do talk and meet time to time. Couple of times, I have went on vacations with them after marriage. She enjoys my company. She has always told she trust me. Years have passed but I still feel something in me for her I have seen her in my dreams so many times that I have lost count, may be nothing can happen between us, but the question that kills me is that was she serious when she asked me to take her on date? was that intentional to hug me? did she liked me in that way? Should I ask these questions?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 There are so many reasons why should just leave this alone. 1. She's married. 2. She's your blood relative, and 3. I think you were reading way too much into everything. Planet Earth has billions of people inhabiting it. Cast a net wider than your family. 2
smackie9 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 You have completely misinterpreted her actions....she has friend zoned you. She is emotionally attached but in no way romantically interested in you. Your fantasies are distorting reality.....you need to get a life and date single young lovelies that are all around you.
coolheadal Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 No, no, no first cousin do not even thing about what your trying to get into it. You shouldn't be asking these questions that your bloodline first one not even go there and touch. She's family she's trust you as family not as a lover. Not the same thing. you need to drop this and move on. Look for what you really need and get out of this idea you can be with your first cousin.. This is not healthy at all...
Author xmmian Posted June 27, 2017 Author Posted June 27, 2017 Thank you for your advice! I feel good now
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