fred123 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Why is it when you break up with someone the person who dumped you is cruel and cold and doesnt care about your feelings anymore? Its like they are a completely differrnt person and disregard your feelings. Why do girls treat you like this knowing that they would themselves be hurt if a guy did exactly the same. Treat people how you would like to be treated
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Hurt people hurt people I was very angry and bitter after my first break up. Vengeful. Hurt. So, I hurt people. There is no excuse for it, but ... hurt people hurt people. Immaturity also played a role. Not knowing how to properly handle the situation.
CptInsano Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Why is it when you break up with someone the person who dumped you is cruel and cold and doesnt care about your feelings anymore? Its like they are a completely differrnt person and disregard your feelings. Because anything else would give the dumped person false hope. That's why it's possible to be friends later, but often not immediately after a break-up. 2
elaine567 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Why is it when you break up with someone the person who dumped you is cruel and cold and doesnt care about your feelings anymore? Its like they are a completely differrnt person and disregard your feelings. Why do girls treat you like this knowing that they would themselves be hurt if a guy did exactly the same. Treat people how you would like to be treated it is usually so that the guy gets the message loud and clear. Some guys can be very persistent and discount the feelings of the woman, they will not take no for an answer and so some women have learned that the only way to get rid of a man is to be cold and distant and give him no way back. We get it all the time here. She texted me, she was friendly, she gave me a hug, she says she wants to be friends, she MUST want me back. I will keep trying. NO, she dumped you, she clearly told you she doesn't want you back, you have to believe her.... 2
Miss Peach Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I've seen it with both genders. This isn't a woman thing IMO. 2
Author fred123 Posted June 27, 2017 Author Posted June 27, 2017 I've seen it with both genders. This isn't a woman thing IMO. so why so nasty and hurtful? what if i said some nasty things to girl she would be hurt too right?
SevenCity Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 It's less about leading you on and more so that they no longer care about you. It's possible to be nice as well as clear. A lot of women (may be men too but I've never acted like this not dated a man) just want you to go away. You are the reason they are not happy and they blame you. There is often another guy and they feel guilty but don't care enough to be compassionate. They say you don't really know someone until you break up with them. Very true. But I'll say this, you are MUCH better off having a girl show no feelings than give you false hope. That is the worst thing in the world. For girls who broke up with me I'm very happy when they make it clear it's over rather than "maybe we'll bet back together". As a guy you can hold onto that for months and delay your healing.
smackie9 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 If you are clingy, whiny person and wouldn't let them go, people will resort cruelty to make sure the deal is done.
Gaeta Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 so why so nasty and hurtful? what if i said some nasty things to girl she would be hurt too right? She is hurtful and nasty with you because she wants you gone, and you're not understanding the message. You want to reverse the situation? Ok lets do it. Lets say you broke up with someone, you don't love her and you don't even like her and she keeps trying to get back to you. You try to tell her you don't want her back, but she is not listening and keep on insisting you should be together. You start coming up with excuses to get rid of her like you are still in love with you ex but the girl still don't understand and insist you belong together and she wants to be patient and wait for you. Then you come up with another excuse and tell her she was never your type anyway and much prefer a Catholic girl. But the girl does not give up on you and she keeps coming back and insisting she loves you. At that point you are getting tired of her, anything you tell her she still comes back to hunt you. So, when all your excuses to get rid of her don't work you start being mean to her in the hope she'll stay away. That is why your ex is mean to you. She wants to go on with her life and wants you to move on. 1
Author fred123 Posted June 27, 2017 Author Posted June 27, 2017 She is hurtful and nasty with you because she wants you gone, and you're not understanding the message. You want to reverse the situation? Ok lets do it. Lets say you broke up with someone, you don't love her and you don't even like her and she keeps trying to get back to you. You try to tell her you don't want her back, but she is not listening and keep on insisting you should be together. You start coming up with excuses to get rid of her like you are still in love with you ex but the girl still don't understand and insist you belong together and she wants to be patient and wait for you. Then you come up with another excuse and tell her she was never your type anyway and much prefer a Catholic girl. But the girl does not give up on you and she keeps coming back and insisting she loves you. At that point you are getting tired of her, anything you tell her she still comes back to hunt you. So, when all your excuses to get rid of her don't work you start being mean to her in the hope she'll stay away. That is why your ex is mean to you. She wants to go on with her life and wants you to move on. you are so sweet gaeta:)
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