eugguy190722 Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 Okay, I hardly ask for any advice from other people about my relationships. However, I think I need as much advice as possible. I have been in the relationship for about an year and a 9 months. In this year and a half things have gone pretty well. However, the other week, she told me she made a mistake about one year and 6 months ago. She cheated on me. Yet, she did not tell me till last week. So I have basically been lied to for an year and a half. I love her and she loves me, but this is killing me. Do we push on, or do I need break time, or is the relationship pretty much done? Please ask If I can explain any other needed important details. Thank You. E.
Blackfrost Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 I think this depends on whether or not you can live with this and get over it. Some people can, some people cannot. If you're a person within whom this will fester and rise up every time you guys have a fight in the future - then it may not be something that you can live with. On the other hand, maybe it took her a little bit longer to feel that the relationship was for real, and that she could commit her heart fully into it. Obviously she feels honest enough to admit this affair to you. Talk with her some more, and understand how or what her motivations were at that time that she slept with the other guy. Maybe she just didn't feel like you two were going to pan out into a long term relationship - and now that you have - she wants to be honest and have no secrets or guilt between you.
upsetnhurt Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 I think you should be quite wary and you need to expect that if this was hidden for a year plus.....there is lots more that very well could be hidden. Make sure you look her in the eye and demand that she come clean with everything........then you can decide if you can handle it. Something tells me that there is lots more..........
fundamental Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 She wanted to get you hooked and in love before she told you everything. If she told you a few months into the relationship, you probably would have broken up with her. It is really up to you.... Can you get over what she did??? If you did the same to her, I doubt she'd forgive you.
Deborah Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 Before you make any decision talk to her. Ask her why she did it and why she told you now after so much time. Let us know what she said.
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