Need guidance on moving forward

[Deepremorse5]

Was probably a troll...everything I read says 6 months minimum.

 

Agree. No one in India talks about MC. It's really difficult to find a real professional. I was really surprised.

 

Plus as someone new here, he conveniently used the abbreviations commonly used in this forum. I am here since last 3 months, still struggling with the abbreviations used in posts.

[Bufo]

Please consult a local lawyer about divorce laws and do not rely on internet advice or advice from friends who know somebody whose cousin was involved on a divorce ..... Apocryphal stories are worthless except to confuse you.

 

My guess here for what it's worth, the affair probably predates your marriage but OM couldn't or wouldn't marry her. So she settled for marriage to you but would not end the affair. Time frame strongly suggests this scenario is true. And if so, run away as quickly as you can through divorce court.

 

In a nutshell Never settle for being Plan B.

[Jersey born raised]

Where did OP say he was from India?

[Mrs. John Adams]

Where did OP say he was from India?

 

his profile

[Deepremorse5]

I have a question... another poster here from India... got a divorce in a matter of weeks. Are the laws different in different parts of the country?

 

You need to be married for atleast 1 year to file for first hearing for divorce under mutual consent. Then there is a reconciliation period of 6 months. After that divorce is granted if both sides don't contest it. If anyone contests it, it drags on. Indian courts are pretty slow. It will take years for divorce if one side is unwilling.

In case of adultery, it's the same day if you present enough evidence. It's a criminal offense under Indian Penal code.

[barnabas17]

Hi,

 

I feel really badly for what happened. I'm really hopeful that she wanted to make amends; I think she just realized the grass isn't greener on the other side. I think it's really important that, at some point, you forgive her. I don't think you will ever forget, but you still can forgive. MC is a must to help heal, AND to provide accountability, especially if it's counseling from a wise church pastor or from a mentor couple with whom you can meet regularly and share openly. If she follows through on her promise to 'repent' and has regular MC with you, that would be a great start to rebuilding a stronger foundation.

 

Praying that things work out.

[ahmed8xm]

Dude Divorce Her

 

Dont ruin your life

 

Her sorry is not real

 

Read this thread this man was also from india

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/480013-wife-cheated-me-having-affair

[ahmed8xm]

My opinion is going to be different because I lived what happened to your wife. I was pursued by the married man. I doubt had I been married less than a year rather than 20 years, the married man I was with would of been still able to cause problems in my marriage. He also worked in the banking industry. If you love your wife, give her another chance. Men really can pursue like you can't even imagine and cause so much harm to women. I blame my ex married man 100%. He knew I was vulnerable. He knew exactly what to say and do to get me to cave into HIS needs. I will forever hate him for it. Men that work at banks all think they are better than everyone else and find women who are sweet, caring, innocent to pursue and destroy. Your wife is probably more hurt than you can imagine, not only by the lies the other man told her but by how you reacted to what happened. She will probably be the most dedicated wife now. You have no guarantee that the next woman you meet wouldn't be the type to cheat... your wife got played by a bank coworker. Have her change to a different job that is not in a finance industry and all will be well.

 

Cheated on by another person is better than getting cheated on twice from the same person

You blame your married man 100%???

So it means woman has no mind of their on.