Still don't understand how someone can be that much a sociopath

[Sugarkane]

Background- dating almost a year and everything seemed fine. Then got dumped out of the blue by text. He said because I cant communicate (!) and got a barrage of insults via text. Never got any contact or closure like 98% of you (which made me feel worse). Never cheated, never begged or pleaded to any ex. I've only been the dumper once, but I would still want to know if the dumper was ok. And I'd still be curious about the dumpees life turned out.

[Sugarkane]

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[Arieswoman]

sugarkane,

You know the old adage

 

"when people show you who they are - believe them"

 

This guy is an insensitive $h!£.

 

Don't waste any more time thinking about him or trying to get "closure" from him. Sometimes we have to get closure from ourselves.

 

Don't reward his bad behaviour by contacting him, just go NC and start to heal.

 

Good luck

 

I'm sorry x

[whatnot]

There were problems and dynamics in the relationship that only you know about.

 

Sure...people are surprised at the finality and drastic, "nuclear option", finality of the decision of a permeant breaking off of the relationship by the other....but they're not completely blind to any and all problems that were present, even if only felt and unspoken (every relationship has problems).

 

98% of people having breakups having closure is your lack of perspective speaking. It's not reality. Being given closure by a significant other is much more the exception rather than the rule.

 

It's my feelings...that closure not is not something that happens...for either or both parties, soon. That only happens on TV. And almost always happens in the minds of each...that the other has closure ...while we do not.

[basil67]

Sugarkane, this happened to you years ago. Why are you digging up the past?