Timpye Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Ex left because of having intimacy issues. Anyone ever been in the same situation before?
Ronnys93 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Yep. That's why me and my current ex are not together anymore. Everything was too intense for him, and he also had attachment issues due to some mental/physical abuse from his parents. Not a fun breakup considering he really is a great person and I felt like things were going so well. Did you have a particular question about it?
Author Timpye Posted June 27, 2017 Author Posted June 27, 2017 (edited) not really. I kind of just realised it and its a bit of a bombshell. Did he claim to still love you when he left? I really think she still loves me its just the anxiety makes it easier to let go then to hold on. I would really love to have a LTR with this girl someday but from what I read this person might find it very difficult to ever be able to do so? Edited June 27, 2017 by Timpye
Ronnys93 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 not really. I kind of just realised it and its a bit of a bombshell. Did he claim to still love you when he left? I really think she still loves me its just the anxiety makes it easier to let go then to hold on. I would really love to have a LTR with this girl someday but from what I read this person might find it very difficult to ever be able to do so? No, we didn't get that far to saying "I love you's" plus it was a long distance relationship as well. When I was there visiting things were fine but towards the end of the visit he let me know things were going too fast for him and that he needed us to slow down (at this point we had only kissed lol). Eventually when I got back home he let me know that he couldn't handle being in a relationship, and that it was hard for him to even communicate emotionally/being vulnerable to others. Yes, people with fear of intimacy CAN love and often they do crave intimacy. The problem is that when they get it or if they get close to it they tend to detach because it is too intense for them. So yes it is very difficult for them to maintain long term relationships. They likely have to go through therapy and have a relationship with someone who is willing to give them the amount of space that they need to feel 'okay'. It's a relationship that might not ever be balanced.
Ronnys93 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 You're absolutely welcome. If you have any questions do ask!
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