emerald86 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 (edited) I've been wondering about this for quite a while, and now it all seems clear. However, I'm still unsure of what to do about it. Over the past couple of months or so, I've gotten to know a coworker that I work very closely with. At first, he seemed to act a little distant, but as we got to know each other better, he started to become more and more flirtatious. Now, it's gotten to the point where he'll constantly text me and constantly ask me to hangout with him. Whenever I invite him to a group event, he's accepts the invitation instantly. Whenever I text him for whatever reason, I get a reply right away. When he texts me, he always compliments me--my hair, my face, etc. At work, he'll more than go out of his way to help me whenever I need the help. When we talk, he'll show lots of interest in my life, and the things I do for fun. He'll stop by my desk throughout the day to chat, and when he does, he's constantly teasing me. The problem here is, I don't have any romantic interest in him. The other bigger problem is that he has a girlfriend several hundred miles away. I never flirt back with him, but I don't know if me texting him outside of work is disrespectful to his gf. I do love spending time with him as a friend--our conversations are always so humorous and we can talk for hours. But that's all I see him as--I value his friendship greatly, but I don't want anything more than that. I spend time with many of my male friends one-on-one, and I never felt that there was an issue. However, I wonder if me hanging out with this guy alone is a terrible thing to do. I want to do the right thing--if that means keeping our conversations strictly professional out of respect to his gf, I am willing to do that. Any thoughts? Edited June 27, 2017 by emerald86
LastAcorn99 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 It’s obvious that you are a principled person, and I commend your desire to be respectful of another person’s relationship. It’s clearly wrong on your colleague’s part to be flirting away with you or any other female co-worker when he has a girlfriend. I strongly believe that a healthy boundary is definitely required here. Stay strong! 1
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Tell him some of what you have told us. Make sure he knows you are not interested in dating him. He may back off of his own accord once you have that conversation.
Recommended Posts