dufour Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 I've been on 5 dates with this amazing girl. We've romantically kissed on the last 3 dates and held hands. We text about 10-20 times per day and we generally get on pretty well and never run out of things to say in person or via text. Last Friday nights date went well, she verbally agreed to a 6th date and the night ended in a very romantic 5 minute kiss. She text me afterwards to thank me and I replied thanking her aswell. The next day I decided to hold back texting her just to see if he would initiate the conversation again. She didn't so I went back to start the conversation again. She replied but ever since the replies have been alot slower and shorter than usual. When I suggested we go to a really nice resturant for our 6th date her text reply came across very unenthusiastically and she basically said that sounds good with a thumbs up emoji! I find it all very strange because we've kissed loads and she's never once put up any resistance to the dates, eg the times and dates have suited perfect and she's never told me she's busy. Surely if she wasn't interested she would have given me excuses or told me it's over. Does anyone think I'm being paranoid about all this? Not sure what I should do cause asking her would make me seem so needy.
fred123 Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 I've been on 5 dates with this amazing girl. We've romantically kissed on the last 3 dates and held hands. We text about 10-20 times per day and we generally get on pretty well and never run out of things to say in person or via text. Last Friday nights date went well, she verbally agreed to a 6th date and the night ended in a very romantic 5 minute kiss. She text me afterwards to thank me and I replied thanking her aswell. The next day I decided to hold back texting her just to see if he would initiate the conversation again. She didn't so I went back to start the conversation again. She replied but ever since the replies have been alot slower and shorter than usual. When I suggested we go to a really nice resturant for our 6th date her text reply came across very unenthusiastically and she basically said that sounds good with a thumbs up emoji! I find it all very strange because we've kissed loads and she's never once put up any resistance to the dates, eg the times and dates have suited perfect and she's never told me she's busy. Surely if she wasn't interested she would have given me excuses or told me it's over. Does anyone think I'm being paranoid about all this? Not sure what I should do cause asking her would make me seem so needy. its impossible to know if she is into you or not. you dont know if she is just going out with you because its better than nothing. stop asking her on dates and see if she asks you. she could just be going along with things for the sake of it. you haven't even had sex right? she might even be having sex with another guy so you have no idea. go out on the sixth date and let her initiate the 7th date. you probably should try sleep with her too if you can. if she doesn't means she's not into you
stillafool Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 I'm kind of curious, what do you guys say when you are texting 20 times a day. What are you talking about?
Erik30 Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 I guess you'll know by how she acts on the next date. A sudden change in behaviour is sometimes a bad sign, but it could be nothing. I don't think you're being paranoid, because it usually starts with the little things you mentioned. If she acts distant on the date, or worse, cancels the date at the last minute, she probably lost interest for some reason. (met a new guy?) Just see how it goes, and maybe cut back on the texting. You might have reached that point where she thinks it's "too much"
Author dufour Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 its impossible to know if she is into you or not. you dont know if she is just going out with you because its better than nothing. stop asking her on dates and see if she asks you. she could just be going along with things for the sake of it. you haven't even had sex right? she might even be having sex with another guy so you have no idea. go out on the sixth date and let her initiate the 7th date. you probably should try sleep with her too if you can. if she doesn't means she's not into you We haven't had sex yet cause we both live with our parents. For example we were kissing outside her house one night after we'd come back from a bar and it got pretty intense and she told me she was really horny but she couldn't invite me in cause of her Mum and Dad. Maybe it's affecting her cause she want's a guy who has his own place so stuff like sex can happen easier. In the short term I don't know how to address this problem. I'm kind of curious, what do you guys say when you are texting 20 times a day. What are you talking about? Work, life, TV, making fun of each other. Sometimes the messages are 100s of words long. She's usually the one that keeps the conversation going.
Author dufour Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 Feel like asking her if she's seeing somebody else cause I'm guessing she's chatting to other guys causes she's still on Bumble and Tinder.
mikeylo Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 Slow down on texting and see how it goes in real face to face. Texting takes seconds and half the time people aren't even focused.
fred123 Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 I was in your situation. Was dating a girl who lived at home so did i. So i had to get a hotel room. Didnt sleep with her for 2 months
Author dufour Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 I was in your situation. Was dating a girl who lived at home so did i. So i had to get a hotel room. Didnt sleep with her for 2 months How did you approach it, eg how did you ask her about getting a hotel room?
fred123 Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 How did you approach it, eg how did you ask her about getting a hotel room? Was actually quite difficult. I was same predicament as you and asked my girl mates how to approach it. They said try organise a proper date in the day and evening and then say we can stay in a hotel for a night. Or maybe ask her for a weekend trip somewhere. I ended up sort of manipulating th3 situation by first planning her to come to my house and by lying that my parents would be out. The on the actual day of the date i said my parents are in tonight now but i already booked a hotel for us to hang out and watch a film/ takeout
Author dufour Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 (edited) Was actually quite difficult. I was same predicament as you and asked my girl mates how to approach it. They said try organise a proper date in the day and evening and then say we can stay in a hotel for a night. Or maybe ask her for a weekend trip somewhere. I ended up sort of manipulating th3 situation by first planning her to come to my house and by lying that my parents would be out. The on the actual day of the date i said my parents are in tonight now but i already booked a hotel for us to hang out and watch a film/ takeout I was thinking something similar but I don't have the confidence to suggest a weekend/night away with her yet. I was hoping she would suggest it first or maybe her Mum and Dad might go away! There's definitely a difference in our conversation since Friday and she's taking a lot longer to reply to my messages. Despite this she's going on a 6th date with me so I think I should just wait until next week and see what happens. Edited June 26, 2017 by dufour
fred123 Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 I was thinking something similar but I don't have the confidence to suggest a weekend/night away with her yet. I was hoping she would suggest it first or maybe her Mum and Dad might go away! There's definitely a difference in our conversation since Friday and she's taking a lot longer to reply to my messages. Despite this she's going on a 6th date with me so I think I should just wait until next week and see what happens. Why dont u ask her over for dinner and make your parents scarce? The girl i was with had a house free for a week cos her parents went away and i said why dont i bring over food on friday and come round. She said " i see you are inviting yourself around". I replied " i meant it in a way we can spend time together without anyone". She neevr invited me around when she had a spare house. She made it difficult. Hope urs aint like mine
Author dufour Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 (edited) Tbh after tonights silence I'm putting her on hold and she can go confirm all date details with me when she's ready. I really like this girl but I'm fed up chasing her and it's not like she lacks the confidence to suggest a few things. Edited June 26, 2017 by dufour 1
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I think you are overthinking a lot of this. You talk a lot IMO. I'd feel smothered by that level of interaction on only date 5-6. The fact that she is still OL is a bad sign. How fast she texts back is like reading tea leaves. It's meaningless. Stop over analyzing it. She may have been slow to respond about the fancy restaurant date because she doesn't like those kinds of places. It may be intimidating for her.
fred123 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 I think you are overthinking a lot of this. You talk a lot IMO. I'd feel smothered by that level of interaction on only date 5-6. The fact that she is still OL is a bad sign. How fast she texts back is like reading tea leaves. It's meaningless. Stop over analyzing it. She may have been slow to respond about the fancy restaurant date because she doesn't like those kinds of places. It may be intimidating for her. * the moment you realise when the girl goes to fsncy restaurants with the new guy but didnt with you.
smackie9 Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Maybe someone else is steering her in the other direction.
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