Shining One Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 I'm taking my girlfriend out to dinner for our third anniversary tonight. We're going someplace nice. She was looking through my closet yesterday and found a fancy silk shirt and suggested I wear it to dinner tonight. I told her I would consider it. My concern is that the shirt is a gift from an ex fling. It is probably the nicest shirt I own, but I'm not sure if a gift from an ex is an appropriate choice for an anniversary dinner. Any thoughts?
GemmaUK Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 This wouldn't bother me but does she need to know where it was from? I mean, did you keep it because it's a nice shirt or because it was from an ex? 2
Maggie4 Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 I guess it's not appropriate because the shirt reminds you of the ex. Not saying you still have romantic feelings for the ex, just the fact that you are seeing the shirt not as just a shirt but as your past with the ex. In other words, it would have been ok to wear the shirt if you hadn't needed to ask this question. Now it's built up and you can't wear it to dinner without thinking about this issue anymore. 1
Author Shining One Posted June 25, 2017 Author Posted June 25, 2017 I mean, did you keep it because it's a nice shirt or because it was from an ex?I kept it because it's a nice shirt. 1
Author Shining One Posted June 25, 2017 Author Posted June 25, 2017 I guess it's not appropriate because the shirt reminds you of the ex.How can a gift not remind you of the person who gave it? That association never disappears for me. The two SSDs in this computer remind me of a former boss because he gave them to me.In other words, it would have been ok to wear the shirt if you hadn't needed to ask this question. Now it's built up and you can't wear it to dinner without thinking about this issue anymore.I asked the question to gather opinions since I know mine is typically abnormal. If my girlfriend chooses to wear a dress an ex bought her tonight, it wouldn't bother me. 1
coolheadal Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 I kept it because it's a nice shirt. No you kept it because it reminds you of the past. You should toss that anything else out the window or give it to goodwill. Why keep your past lovers gift too you. Unless it was a sport car and a mansion. You two need to step to the current times why not buy some new outfits and ditch past lover stuff. Come on get real here. I am saying what's the deal here with you two are you both serious about each other or WHAT!
smackie9 Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 (edited) Just wear the damn thing. It would make her happy because she picked it out...and man you are going to have to get used to that. Us women will always be picking your clothes out lol. More than once I said to my husband....you are not wearing that are you?? Not wearing it for that reason is silly. It's just as silly as tossing out an expensive mattress because you and the ex had sex on it. DUMB. Edited June 25, 2017 by smackie9 6
amaysngrace Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 So what did you end up wearing? Happy Anniversary btw 1
Author Shining One Posted June 27, 2017 Author Posted June 27, 2017 So what did you end up wearing? Happy Anniversary btw Thank you. I ended up wearing the shirt after informing her where it came from and leaving the choice up to her. She wasn't bothered. 2
Popsicle Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 It's nice that you acknowledged your dating anniversary. 1
central Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 It might be time to go shopping - with your gf - and pick out some new, nice clothing. At least one more shirt, in case you spill something on the only good one you have!
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