NJooo Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 Recently i've been hearing guys say that "saturdays is for the boys" what does that imply. is this a day for single guys to enjoy their time with their buddies or is it a thing for guys who are in relationship to spend time away from their girlfriend? Just curious Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 If I'm seriously seeing someone than Saturday is usually date night for us and I may have a "guys night" on a Friday or during football season on Sunday. I really don't see there being a "Saturday for the boys" if you are in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 Depends on the group. When we were young and working very physical jobs, it was focus hard on work all week, sometimes well beyond a typical 8 hour work day, with Saturday (if not working) or Sunday as our 'play' day. Myself, I'd usually be playing with the race car at the track. Others did their thing. Work hard, play hard. Other groups have their dynamics. I was unmarried until 40 so had lots of opportunities to see the dynamics in action. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 24, 2017 Author Share Posted June 24, 2017 @dumbass2 someone else said the same thing but kind of differently. and that person said that if someone is committed to someone there was no need for a saturday for the boys and that it sounded immature. oh well lol Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 @dumbass2 someone else said the same thing but kind of differently. and that person said that if someone is committed to someone there was no need for a saturday for the boys and that it sounded immature. oh well lol I've never heard "Saturdays for the boys." If it's every single Saturday and you're in a committed relationship, yeah not necessary. But I think both men and women needs nights out and even trips away with their girlfriends/guy friends. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 @dumbass2 someone else said the same thing but kind of differently. and that person said that if someone is committed to someone there was no need for a saturday for the boys and that it sounded immature. oh well lol Yes, if someone is in a committed relationship then there usually is no "Saturday for the boys". Link to post Share on other sites
Lorenza Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 My new rule of thumb - if a guy isn't willing to spend the prime time with you, you're not a priority. Saturday evening is arguably the best time of the week. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 My new rule of thumb - if a guy isn't willing to spend the prime time with you, you're not a priority. Saturday evening is arguably the best time of the week. My rule has always been if your partner is spending more time with friends/hobbies/other distractions (includes phones!) than they are with you, there's a problem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 this is a red-ish flag for an LTR, if she has a baby to look after and he still goes out, alone like he is still single, then her loneliness will ensue every Saturday, a sad weekend for her Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 What type of guys are saying this? Age group? And how often have you heard it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 @basil67 i think they are in their 20s Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 this is a red-ish flag for an LTR, if she has a baby to look after and he still goes out, alone like he is still single, then her loneliness will ensue every Saturday, a sad weekend for her HUH???? i was just asking what it mean. i don't know what you are trying to say Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 My new rule of thumb - if a guy isn't willing to spend the prime time with you, you're not a priority. Saturday evening is arguably the best time of the week. yeah that's true. it doesn't sound like the person is too serious if they are in a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 I thought Friday was for the boys and Saturday was for the girlfriend because you want to extend the glow well into Sunday? If a guy is having Saturday for boys night, then you're not as close as you think you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 i was just asking what it mean. It's a way for lads to coerce each other into hanging out on a Saturday, rather than hang out with their girl. Perhaps watching the football during the day, or going out drinking during the night. Typically followed up by "where are your balls? Are they in her purse?" etc, if met with resistance. I've done it to mates, and had it done to me. I think it's normal. As someone else said, it can be more of an age thing. This was completely common when I was in my teens and early 20's, and far less so now that I'm 30. So, I suppose there is a maturity factor to consider. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 It's a way for lads to coerce each other into hanging out on a Saturday, rather than hang out with their girl. Perhaps watching the football during the day, or going out drinking during the night. Typically followed up by "where are your balls? Are they in her purse?" etc, if met with resistance. I've done it to mates, and had it done to me. I think it's normal. As someone else said, it can be more of an age thing. This was completely common when I was in my teens and early 20's, and far less so now that I'm 30. So, I suppose there is a maturity factor to consider. So it's not something for single guys? Link to post Share on other sites
Frostedflake Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 A few major bodybuilders on Youtube say "Saturday/Sunday is for the boys." They could be getting the line from there. Personally, I think a relationship doesn't need to schedule actual days to hangout with friends as long as obligations are being met. Sounds like a setup. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 saturday is like any other day. if my friends are doing something their wives are doing it with them and me and anyone i'm dating are included. it only turns into an issue when the woman i'm with doesn't want to hang with my friends and their wives. then they go bye-bye. been with women like that in the past. no more. still got friends in the 40's who fall off the face of the earth when they meet someone then want to hang all the time when it ends usually 6 months later. lol! Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 (edited) So it's not something for single guys? This isn't something that I've really considered that much before. So, I think guys just do it naturally. But when in relationships, I've used it as an excuse to enjoy independence. And when out of them, I've used it to badger friends into doing guy stuff. It's typically something for younger less settled men. As you get into your 30's, the amount of friends you can just call on with that kind of juvenile energy dwindles because friends are settled into serious relationships. And we all tend to become more understanding of spending time with girlfriends. Actually getting people together for a proper drink requires more organisation these days. Priorities change. And even as singles, we tend to prioritize women more - and understand when we do. As someone said earlier, it probably is something of a red-flag from a woman's point of view. Whoever your asking the question for might want to consider how settled the relationship is. Certainly not be rushing to have a kid or anything like that, if it's regular. Edited June 25, 2017 by Bastile 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 A few major bodybuilders on Youtube say "Saturday/Sunday is for the boys." They could be getting the line from there. Personally, I think a relationship doesn't need to schedule actual days to hangout with friends as long as obligations are being met. Sounds like a setup. hahaha true Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2017 Author Share Posted June 25, 2017 This isn't something that I've really considered that much before. So, I think guys just do it naturally. But when in relationships, I've used it as an excuse to enjoy independence. And when out of them, I've used it to badger friends into doing guy stuff. It's typically something for younger less settled men. As you get into your 30's, the amount of friends you can just call on with that kind of juvenile energy dwindles because friends are settled into serious relationships. And we all tend to become more understanding of spending time with girlfriends. Actually getting people together for a proper drink requires more organisation these days. Priorities change. And even as singles, we tend to prioritize women more - and understand when we do. As someone said earlier, it probably is something of a red-flag from a woman's point of view. Whoever your asking the question for might want to consider how settled the relationship is. Certainly not be rushing to have a kid or anything like that, if it's regular. that's true it does sound like a mess Link to post Share on other sites
hercules22 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 its just a saying it mainly for us single men i honestly wouldnt spend every saturday with the boys if i had a girlfriend its one of the best days to do stuff Link to post Share on other sites
starrynight4321 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 It means "RED FLAG! RUN!! Now!! I'm painfully, horrendously immature. I'm basically a 21 year old frat boy in an older man's body." In a long term relationship Saturday is NOT for the boys, it's usually for your significant other. The only thing you should understand from it is thE person is most definitely not looking for a serious relationship and certainly doesn't have the maturity for one. RUN Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 25, 2017 Share Posted June 25, 2017 Missnini, you've given us no context to the question and there are a lot of assumptions going on in the replies. Given that this is a Dating board, I would imagine that many posters (myself included) assume this question is about you and a man you are dating. Is this correct? Are you dating a guy who says this? Or is this totally unrelated to dating and the guys comments have nothing to do with you or any other woman? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 It means that they're only good for casual dating, if that floats your boat. I had an ex in college who was like this - he prioritized time with his friends over time with me. In retrospect that didn't make him a horrible person, he just viewed relationships differently from me - he wanted a more casual R, whereas I need a committed one. Still, I broke up with him, and am glad I did. The SO and I do spend some time with friends, but certainly not every single Saturday. I like being able to go out on dates with my man, and Saturday is the best day to do so - you don't have to get up early for work the next day, and most places are open. saturday is like any other day. if my friends are doing something their wives are doing it with them and me and anyone i'm dating are included. it only turns into an issue when the woman i'm with doesn't want to hang with my friends and their wives. then they go bye-bye. been with women like that in the past. no more. still got friends in the 40's who fall off the face of the earth when they meet someone then want to hang all the time when it ends usually 6 months later. lol! Would you be completely fine with it if the woman you were with wanted to hang out with HER friends all Saturday, every Saturday? Link to post Share on other sites
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