halifaxloner Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Hello there good and kind people Background: I am 26 male from south East Asia. I consider myself a pretty good looking typical nice guy with light colored skin, 5'7" in height, smart, funny, sincere, educated, and above average slim body ( i work out regularly, don’t have any bad habits). Also not been with a lot of woman, I have always been looking for relationship not just animal, it means. As I am a brown guy, I am naturally a bit clingy and emotional (nothing I can do about that). BUT, in a relationship (or even on dates), I always treat my lady like a princess that she is, and I can assure you that I am a very faithful person just like a dog but a very rare breed ( I don’t give my attention to a lot of women even if they are drop dead gorgeous, but I will chase the girl I like because she’s worth the effort) The girl i like: 5'5" White cute blonde, a bit introverted, doesn't really talk to a lot of people, most of the time she just keeps things to herself, and likes some space between people and her (not your regular flirtatious girls) A bit more Background: Been living on East coast Canada for little less than 2 years, did a master’s degree for 1 yr and started to work in a local company there. I have been working for almost 7 months for that company. So, there is a very cute Caucasian girl in my team goes perfectly with me. First 5 months: BUT, for the first 5-6 months we never really exchanged a whole sentence between us and things been very awkward. We usually used to avoid each other and if anyone is on others way, we just avoided eye contact. I was busy with my studies because i am working on a chartered degree and didn't really had time to think about her. But i used to blush like tomato whenever i see her on staff room, meeting and whenever i reach out to get help from her (she’s 6 month senior to me but she is 2 years younger than me) RECENT: After my Exam on early June, i started holding myself nicely to people, dressing up nicely, being charming with others and more talkative than before. My confidence is now oozing and i am getting a lot of attention from a few lady’s mostly horny but pretty co-op students on office. (An average brown guy doesn’t get the same knd of attention from white women) The best part is, her behavior towards me changed completely after my exams. She reaches out to me to help me out on work and being very nice with me but still we don’t really talk. Last 1 week, I see here everyday morning on coffee shop (never happened like this, I have a feeling that she is intentionally doing this). We see each other on the waiting line and smile and wish morning. Once we talked and I complimented her once about how efficient her work is and she laughed very loudly and then I blushed AGAIN. Last Thursday, she smiled and waved at me on the waiting line. And after that every time she’s on my way, she smile in so goddamn cute way that my brain freezes. But on Friday, I saw her on the waiting line, acted like I didn’t see her and left the shop (dick move). On the same day, we had a corporate summer party from our company and I thought I would get some drink (LIQUID COURAGE: P) and talk to her and eventually kiss her on that party. I was buzzed up real good. But she never showed up on that party. I was very disappointed and ended up not drinking. Now, I think she wanted me to ask her out to the party. I was getting attention from a lot of girls that night (could’ve take someone to my place) but she was the only girl on my mind. NOW: I am not sure if she suddenly started to like me. Or it’s just me overthinking and she is just being nice because I am always nice to my all of my team mates and lend a hand anytime they need it. But I really do like her and I am scared that she might have a BF. Also, if she rejects me, I will probably lose my confidence and give up on dating and worst case scenario, it’s going to be awkward again and I don’t want this as we are on the same team. I am really confused now. My Plan: on Monday, first thing I will do is I will go get a coffee just to catch her on the coffee shop and ask her to spend couple minutes with me before we start working and then eventually ask her out to a classy dinner date on Friday eve, maybe get lucky, spend the night with her and make her breakfast and coffee the next morning ( I don’t mind if I don’t get lucky, I waited 6 months for her to talk to me, I can wait 6 more months, no problem!). But again I am scared that I might not be interesting enough for her or whatever. Finally, I know most of you ladies and gentlemen are veteran in dating but honestly speaking I am an amateur when it comes to western dating culture ( in far east, it’s a whole different ballgame). At this point, you will realize that I am very sincere when it comes to getting her. So, I would solemnly ask you all for any advice and tips you can give me, and your opinion of if she really likes me or not, my game plan and anything else!! **sorry for my bad English, been using English less than two years but I am getting good at it day by day** Thank You for reading. I really do appreciate your effort Have a good day, A single guy
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Your English is very good for only two years, so congratulations . I would not ask this woman out if I were you. Dating in the workplace is generally never a great idea, especially since you're on the same team, and by your own admission you are "clingy and emotional," so even if you two were to enter into a relationship, things doubt undoubtedly be very awkward and difficult if you broke up and were still working together. Impossible to say if she actually likes you or not or is just being friendly. 1
Author halifaxloner Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 I forgot to add a few points haha, My bad!! * team change is pretty common at our work, new team members come and go from/to other teams. so prolly, even we dont work out, i can easily change team *i think few of my team members including her knows that i blush like an idiot when i am around her, i dont blush around other women haha *couple days back, i was struggling with my word, so i reached out to my senior and he told me not to worry about it, she is gonna take over your remaining task and a wink emoji for some reason. i wonder what was that for
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