CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 NJ123, have you ever tried using the dating apps that have your height listed? That way you won't have to deal with a woman asking you what your height is. He said his height was listed so he was confused why she was asking him since she could read it for herself. 1
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 He said his height was listed so he was confused why she was asking him since she could read it for herself. Oh. That's interesting. Maybe she truly doesn't care about height (at least not a whole lot). She is clearly not in the habit of checking that.
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Oh. That's interesting. Maybe she truly doesn't care about height (at least not a whole lot). She is clearly not in the habit of checking that. I think it's over with her anyway at this point. Didn't hear from her at all today which is not like her. I really think the height thing was the thing that just ruined it all on both sides.
knabe Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 I isn't fair, but to be blunt, you're really acting whiny and pouty. If this s ow you always react to perceived slights, THAT is your dating problem. Not your height. But don't feel bad. Negativity is almost ALWAYS the real problem when someone can't get dates. 3
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 I isn't fair, but to be blunt, you're really acting whiny and pouty. If this s ow you always react to perceived slights, THAT is your dating problem. Not your height. But don't feel bad. Negativity is almost ALWAYS the real problem when someone can't get dates. So I'm supposed to just be all happy & excited when a woman says something bad to me? It's pretty obvious the height thing ruined it all. I didn't hear from her at all day today which is unusual. She would always be excited to message me in the morning before I'm even up but nothing at all today in any way. I'm sure the height issue ruined it all yet of course everyone will think it's not that.
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 I think it's over with her anyway at this point. Didn't hear from her at all today which is not like her. I really think the height thing was the thing that just ruined it all on both sides. I know you do. That could be what ruined it but that also could be your confirmation bias, since it's so strong. None of us really know. Maybe she's waiting for you to talk to her today? Either way there is a lot of hard feelings between you two (mostly coming from your side). I'm not sure if this can be recovered. I'm more concerned with how you feel and handle things going forward with other girls. 3
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 I know you do. That could be what ruined it but that also could be your confirmation bias, since it's so strong. None of us really know. Maybe she's waiting for you to talk to her today? Either way there is a lot of hard feelings between you two (mostly coming from your side). I'm not sure if this can be recovered. I'm more concerned with how you feel and handle things going forward with other girls. I saw she viewed my profile today after I looked at hers again last night. But she never bothered to text me. We do have each others numbers but it just seems like it's over. It just feels like it would be awkward if I message her now. Since it's almost like we both know for sure the reasoning for neither messaging the other today. And I just don't want to feel like I'm being disrespected even before we ever even meet. I wouldn't want to be with someone that disrespects me.
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 And I just don't want to feel like I'm being disrespected even before we ever even meet. I wouldn't want to be with someone that disrespects me. Yes, this is a real problem. Things are really tainted. I think you should let her go. 2
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Yes, this is a real problem. Things are really tainted. I think you should let her go. Yeah, true. Yet so many others in here think I'm getting worked up over nothing. I was right this whole time especially judging by her not messaging me today at all. I just sensed she was serious.
Art_Critic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 (edited) And I just don't want to feel like I'm being disrespected even before we ever even meet. I wouldn't want to be with someone that disrespects me. Seriously.. disrespected.. I don't think she knew you well enough to disrespect you on this issue, they call this making a mountain out of a mole hill....or shooting yourself in the foot... Edited June 24, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 4
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Yeah, true. Yet so many others in here think I'm getting worked up over nothing. I was right this whole time especially judging by her not messaging me today at all. I just sensed she was serious. I still don't think she was serious. Like really. But you are clearly upset about this and that means it can't be salvaged. 2
Art_Critic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Yeah, true. Yet so many others in here think I'm getting worked up over nothing. I was right this whole time especially judging by her not messaging me today at all. I just sensed she was serious. If she knew you well enough to know you were height sensitive and had an issue with height or perceived height then you are correct.. She didn't know you well enough to know you would react this way over a joke about wearing heels...
Art_Critic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 But you are clearly upset about this and that means it can't be salvaged. On point.. in the end this is all that matters... 3
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 This girl cares somewhat about height. She doesn't care a whole lot but it's not like she doesn't care at all. She cares somewhat. She may not have even known that she cares somewhat until this interaction with you. The problem I think you are having, and it is legitimate, is that she cares even a little bit. You want a woman who doesn't care at all, or else it's going to bother you. That is fair and I think it's your right to want someone who wants you completely. There is still a chance with other women, not her. 1
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 I still don't think she was serious. Like really. But you are clearly upset about this and that means it can't be salvaged. Why do you think she wasn't serious though? I still don't see how she was joking when as I keep stating she would usually always say "lol j/k" or use some sort of emoticon to know she's joking around. The convo just sounds dead serious compared to all the other times she was clearly joking.
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Why do you think she wasn't serious though? I still don't see how she was joking when as I keep stating she would usually always say "lol j/k" or use some sort of emoticon to know she's joking around. The convo just sounds dead serious compared to all the other times she was clearly joking. I can't keep doing this with you, but it doesn't matter because I've conceded with you that things are ruined because she does care somewhat about height. But I assure you, she was not seriously asking you to wear heels. 2
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 I can't keep doing this with you, but it doesn't matter because I've conceded with you that things are ruined because she does care somewhat about height. But I assure you, she was not seriously asking you to wear heels. Well she did actually just message me now surprisingly. I didn't expect that. I'll see what happens.
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Well she did actually just message me now surprisingly. I didn't expect that. I'll see what happens. lol Popsicle 1
Author NJ123 Posted June 25, 2017 Author Posted June 25, 2017 lol Popsicle Really not sure what to say though. It's just awkward now. I kinda just want to ask her.
Popsicle Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 Really not sure what to say though. It's just awkward now. I kinda just want to ask her. Why are you guys messaging so much? Just have a date. It's Saturday night, for crying out loud. 3
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 Just as I was ready to leave this thread, I just got sucked back in!!! 2
Author NJ123 Posted June 25, 2017 Author Posted June 25, 2017 Why are you guys messaging so much? Just have a date. It's Saturday night, for crying out loud. Scheduling conflicts. Haven't had time to meet.
CptInsano Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 Why are you guys messaging so much? Just have a date. It's Saturday night, for crying out loud. Agreed, all of this may be null and void if they have an actual date. Hypothesizing over whether height matters or not doesn't make things easier. That being said, I was the same height as two of my girlfriends, and I cannot remember ever having this discussion. I mean, being about the same height has some clear advantages, too. 2
Art_Critic Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 Scheduling conflicts. Haven't had time to meet. You both are probably on LS at the same time... hahaha 2
Popsicle Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 You both are probably on LS at the same time... hahaha I'm actually the girl. 5
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