Marshawn Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 I get what you're saying but it's the whole degrading factor. It's the fact that she sees me as less physically attractive for being shorter. How can you seriously just let something that degrading slide? It's just bizarre to do that. How tall are you?
SammySammy Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 I get what you're saying but it's the whole degrading factor. It's the fact that she sees me as less physically attractive for being shorter. How can you seriously just let something that degrading slide? It's just bizarre to do that. Your attraction is based on how you make her feel. Not your height. If you're strong and secure, then she will be secure with you. We've all been slighted. Even tall guys. How you deal with it is key. Especially in front of your woman. 2
Marshawn Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 My height is 5'6". Spud Webb was that height. No problem 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 I say have some fun with it..... Tell her... " I typically go for women with bigger breasts, so you would have to do something about that if we hit it off" Show her you aren't hung up on it....even if it doesnt go anywhere...For guys, being short(unless you are really short), isn't a handicap....but you can make it one if you aren't proud of who you are... TFY 2
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Your attraction is based on how you make her feel. Not your height. If you're strong and secure, then she will be secure with you. We've all been slighted. Even tall guys. How you deal with it is key. Especially in front of your woman. lol why in God's green Earth would I want to go out with a woman let alone have something serious with a woman that actually thinks of me like that? Yet I'm supposed to just forget about it & let it slide & think of just confidence over it? It makes absolutely no sense to me. As I stated I'm flat out asking her tomorrow why she said that to me & if her answer sucks than I'm done with her.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 lol why in God's green Earth would I want to go out with a woman let alone have something serious with a woman that actually thinks of me like that? Yet I'm supposed to just forget about it & let it slide & think of just confidence over it? It makes absolutely no sense to me. As I stated I'm flat out asking her tomorrow why she said that to me & if her answer sucks than I'm done with her. Please post an update after you've done that and let us know how that goes. 2
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Please post an update after you've done that and let us know how that goes. I will. I just don't want to be walked all over & degraded like that without saying something.
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Spud Webb was that height. No problem haha yes. Spud Webb was an awesome dunk champion too.
carhill Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 OP, here's a little tidbit from an old, formerly married guy... When a woman doesn't have you, and wants you, she's on her best behavior. Unless you totally mischaracterized her request, possible because people's senses of humor sometimes miss, she took a risk of offending you, something a woman who seriously liked you wouldn't do. However, regardless, if you want to play the dating, marriage and reproduction game, my best advice is to grow a thicker skin. If you think a woman can be insulting when you're dating, just wait until you're married Oh, back in the disco days of the 70's, I did wear heels (short ones) with metal taps 'cause that was the rage back then. That put me well over 6'. Bell bottom pants too. Those were the days Didn't help with dating though. Keep at it. Suffer those insults and rejections. Develop a sense of humor about them. Trust me, you'll need it. 2
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Please post an update after you've done that and let us know how that goes. Do you want it to backfire in my face or something? Like you think it's rude for me to confront her about it? For some reason from your wording I get that vibe for some reason.
carhill Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Don't confront her. Move on from it. Wear shoes you like to wear. 3
Marshawn Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Do you want it to backfire in my face or something? Like you think it's rude for me to confront her about it? For some reason from your wording I get that vibe for some reason. I think you are overthinking it... Just move on man don't even go on a date with her.. you will get hurt even more. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Do you want it to backfire in my face or something? Like you think it's rude for me to confront her about it? For some reason from your wording I get that vibe for some reason. No, I don't want it to backfire. I think if you're having these feelings about it, it's best to ask her what she meant instead of wasting time on a date. Dating is time consuming! However, I don't think the question will be received well unless she really is already enamored with you and feels terrible at the thought that she might have offended you.
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 No, I don't want it to backfire. I think if you're having these feelings about it, it's best to ask her what she meant instead of wasting time on a date. Dating is time consuming! However, I don't think the question will be received well unless she really is already enamored with you and feels terrible at the thought that she might have offended you. Well, at this point in time I don't plan on meeting with her at all unless I like her answer. I really want to know why she asked me that. It's going to bother me until I find out why she said that stuff to me.
Marshawn Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Well, at this point in time I don't plan on meeting with her at all unless I like her answer. I really want to know why she asked me that. It's going to bother me until I find out why she said that stuff to me. How come you can't ask her right now? 1
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 How come you can't ask her right now? She's sleeping now. She goes to sleep around 11:30 everyday. I'm on the East Coast in case you're timezone is different. I'll ask her tomorrow.
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Don't confront her. Move on from it. Wear shoes you like to wear. I agree. It just means you're not compatible. When guys say things that turn me off (and most don't even know they did) I just make a note of it and move on. There is no need to complain to them about it or let it hurt you. This is what the dating process is about. It's a screening process for those who are compatible with you. 1
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 Man just give me her number bro, I got you lol why? What would you say to her? 1
Author NJ123 Posted June 24, 2017 Author Posted June 24, 2017 I agree. It just means you're not compatible. When guys say things that turn me off (and most don't even know they did) I just make a note of it and move on. There is no need to complain to them about it or let it hurt you. This is what the dating process is about. It's a screening process for those who are compatible with you. So you recommend me to just ghost on her without saying anything to her again? I just know this is going to bother me though if I don't ask her. I just really want to know her reasoning for it.
Marshawn Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 She's sleeping now. She goes to sleep around 11:30 everyday. I'm on the East Coast in case you're timezone is different. I'll ask her tomorrow. Okay im in Los Angeles so yeah its only 9:40 here lol and i was just kidding about getting her number bro thats all you. Handle that!!!!!!!! Dont get so upset, girls are evil lol
SammySammy Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 So you recommend me to just ghost on her without saying anything to her again? I just know this is going to bother me though if I don't ask her. I just really want to know her reasoning for it. Why? In the end, you're still the one who has to deal with your feelings. Now and in the future. A thicker skin and an unshakeable, positive mindset are going to be part of your solution box no matter what she says. 3
Marshawn Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Why? In the end, you're still the one who has to deal with your feelings. Now and in the future. A thicker skin and an unshakeable, positive mindset are going to be part of your solution box no matter what she says. AGREED. No point of even asking her. How old are you? You guys have to be in high school right? or early 20s? 2
Popsicle Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 So you recommend me to just ghost on her without saying anything to her again? I just know this is going to bother me though if I don't ask her. I just really want to know her reasoning for it. It's clear that she was making a bad/insensitive joke. I don't like bad jokes though. I can't even imagine how a conversation about that would go? It'll make you look bad right along with her. It's ruined, so yes, ghost or tell her you don't think you're a match and move on. 1
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