Bastile Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 She cancelled 1 hour before the date. Friday night first date off of Tinder is always a risk. just by how you look? Looks get your foot in the door. Behaviour always supersedes looks. Guys obsessed with looks typically don't want to take responsibility for behaviour. 1
joseb Posted June 25, 2017 Posted June 25, 2017 Looks get your foot in the door. Behaviour always supersedes looks.. Exactly. As long as you look reasonably like your picture, it's how you act on the date that gets you a second date. Or not. 2
Author ZA Dater Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 Exactly. As long as you look reasonably like your picture, it's how you act on the date that gets you a second date. Or not. Not been very promising, lost out on another potential date. The first lady never got back to me nor responded to any of my texts so I have gotten the hint and simply let it be. I just tell myself there are more important things in life. Its baffling how easy this is for some and how hard it is for others.
SammySammy Posted June 26, 2017 Posted June 26, 2017 It may not always be easy. It takes some awareness and effort. Doing things that work. Eliminating things that don't. For what it's worth, I went to the art exhibit. Also went to a Louis Kahn (American architect) exhibit, an outdoor water garden, and eventually to a restaurant for dinner. I noticed there were several single women out. Some who gave me clear indicators of interest though I was with someone. Starting the process of getting to know one or more of them would have been fairly simple. That's all dating is - the process of getting to know someone. We can make it more complicated than it has to be. The two things that would have helped the most are: 1) simply getting out to do things I enjoy (which enhance the possibility of meeting someone I have something in common with) and 2) being able to open and sustain a conversation with anybody. ANYBODY. I started casual convo about various things with young, old, male, and female throughout the day. With no ulterior motive other than having a pleasant exchange. Do that and one things leads to another and "dating" becomes "easy". I predict you'll find yourself getting to know people - even women who may have a romantic interest in you - on a regular basis.
Author ZA Dater Posted June 26, 2017 Author Posted June 26, 2017 It may not always be easy. It takes some awareness and effort. Doing things that work. Eliminating things that don't. For what it's worth, I went to the art exhibit. Also went to a Louis Kahn (American architect) exhibit, an outdoor water garden, and eventually to a restaurant for dinner. I noticed there were several single women out. Some who gave me clear indicators of interest though I was with someone. Starting the process of getting to know one or more of them would have been fairly simple. That's all dating is - the process of getting to know someone. We can make it more complicated than it has to be. The two things that would have helped the most are: 1) simply getting out to do things I enjoy (which enhance the possibility of meeting someone I have something in common with) and 2) being able to open and sustain a conversation with anybody. ANYBODY. I started casual convo about various things with young, old, male, and female throughout the day. With no ulterior motive other than having a pleasant exchange. Do that and one things leads to another and "dating" becomes "easy". I predict you'll find yourself getting to know people - even women who may have a romantic interest in you - on a regular basis. Point taken but I am simply not that social, the things I enjoy don't attract women at all and the things they seem to like don't interest me in the least. I am just rather irritated with the whole process to be honest, its just nothing more than a chore for me. I had six different people on Tinder.. how many have I met up with: none because inevitably between communicating with me and meeting up something better comes along. I suppose if one is charismatic, charming, capable of inane boring meaningless conversation had a generic sense of humour, sure the dating would be quite easy. So, I'll add another 6 to the ever longer list of not interested.
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 Guys should stop putting up with this crap. Enough is enough. I'd give her a piece of my mind and let her no she's a no good loser. And still have a dry dick. Lashing out angrily solves nothing. This girl gave many signals that pursuing a date with her wasn't worthwhile.
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 She might think twice about pulling thus **** again. Doubt it. She has a right to change her mind.
CptInsano Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 She might think twice about pulling thus **** again. You are assuming that she cares in the slightest. This is not likely if somebody cancels one hour before the date.
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 And we have the right to call her out on it and not get walked on. Doesn't stop you from being walked on though. Better decisions might. 1
CptInsano Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 She might start caring if she takes some heat for it. She might not do it to the next guy. Again, why would she care and not block you? Kinda like I laugh off road rage in traffic. You're of no relevance to her at that point.
SammySammy Posted June 27, 2017 Posted June 27, 2017 If enough guys did it they wouldn't become victims who accept this type of behavior. Maybe guys should stop seeing themselves as victims. Provide value to the dating market and choose women you're compatible with. Then there won't be any need for anger and bitterness toward women who wouldn't have been good for you anyway. 4
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