She took my heart and stomped it with her converses...

June 17, 2017

I've been having this ongoing dispute with myself in trying to see if this girl likes me, but I do not want to jump the gun and tell her that I like her too, especially if she is just overly friendly and nothing more.

So, I've known this girl in college for almost 1.5 years. She has always been very shy around me. Well, she asked me to be in her group for a long-term project of 6 months and I joined. Well, she started coming out of her shell around me by sitting right next to me and by asking if she could drive me home after class, but I would thank her and politely decline. Our group project is 6 people, but she always wanted to pal up with me for each section of it and I would joke around with her. Well, in February, things peaked and she said that if we both pursued a certain career path, we could not be together or married. I brushed off the comment as a general statement and ignored it. Later in class, we had to choose project partners and someone asked for her and she agreed. After class, she said she wanted to choose me, but she was afraid to tell this other girl no. A couple months into our project, she really grew on me. I noticed her mirroring my body movements and now she is mirroring my vocabulary (my vocab is somewhat unique so it was easy to notice). She would always stands very close to me. Whenever she wanted help, I became Mr. Fix It and I was the only person she would ask for help.

By April, the situation had changed. She would become very quiet around me again. She seemed nervous. One day, she would not even look at me when I would talk to her or utter a full sentence. Then, another guy from class walks in and she gives him a ton of attention as the flirt with me sitting in the middle of it. They talked about having four babies and marriage arrangements. I talked to the guy afterwards and joked with him about it and he looked at me and said "She rejected me. I have another girl now." I was shocked. Later in class, I thought she played the jealousy game and I texted a female friend about it for advice. Well, I get a text from her and I smiled and told my group that my friend Jennifer wants me to call her back about something. Well, the girl in my group turned so quickly towards me after I said that I thought she would lose balance. The next class I had full attention. For the rest of the month, she asked if I could look over all of her homework and writing (she has a higher gpa than me). I would only get a lukewarm thank you if any after helping her. In another class, I noticed she was always leaving class with her purse and phone multiple times, but she would always come back a few minutes later with fresh makeup. However, she was also ignoring me in group conversations and she would end conversations with me when group members would show up. Then one morning made me fall for her, I told her about a hero I had and how he gave lectures. She said she had never heard of him (I told her about him the week before). I asked her what the best advice she had ever received from a mentor was and she said word-for-word what the guy I idolized would say as his motto.

By the end of the month, she would start pulling away. She was following some guy that had an Instagram with 2000 followers and she said that was her man. I stood down my pursuit for a bit. Then, she came in one day after a week of me ignoring with a very provocative outfit which was not in her nature at all. She seemed to try to not notice me. Then, I helped someone with homework after class and she invited herself to stay. We ended up working together for a few hours and she asked a lot of family questions and other strange questions. After, I learned that she was Googling me and my family. She even commented that I am everywhere on social media. I finally decided to run a test on my own, in one of our classes, we split into teams. The other team needed another person, so I left my normal group and she looks and goes "Why are you leaving?" in a shocked and confused voice. Then, the guy she flirting about babies and marriage with walks in and she asks him to join her team and she starts acting like a comedian the whole time in front of the whole class. Well, her team was getting beaten badly so I made a very subtle comment to my team about her playing like a certain bad quarterback and she immediately asks my team what I said. Afterwards, her team pulls a comeback and she thanked me for sabotaging the other team with a slight smile.

During the week, she started asking if she could call me for help on projects, but I noticed that she already knew everything and she was just talking about random stuff with me on the phone. I changed my wardrobe a bit with button up shirts and rolled sleeves and she would sneak more peaks at me than usual. As the semester came to an end, she asked for my help more frequently and it was genuine help she needed. She was asking me to hold her purse and stuff and trying to infiltrate my group of friends. She even cried on the phone to me about how tough school was the night before a final. The next day, she was talking to a girl from school and I was surprised by how much she knew about me. By lunch that day, we talked in our group and she acted like I was from another plant, she was afraid to say more than two sentences about me in front of others. It was very odd. Then, I got a curveball when we talked about a group meetup and I suggested a movie and she looked at me and said "But we can't talk in a movie." From then on, she became very flirty with other guys, so I am now thrown off. She even went on a trip with some other girls and the guy she flirted with about babies to the mall after class.

Does anyone think she likes me? The flirtiness with other guys throws me off. I do not want to ask her out because I am told that she has never gone on a date and the reason might be obvious, but I don't know why. She is very good looking and extremely polite and I do not want to mistake friendliness for interest. How should I go about trying to figure out her impression of me? Should I try anything to try and attract her or would that make her back off?

June 18, 2017

I don't know what planet you live on, but where I come from, if you're interested in a girl, you ask them on a date. You don't sit around and play ignore and jealousy games in class. She will find someone who will date her if you don't. So if you want her, you better stop treating her weird and just ask her on a date and treat her with respect.

June 18, 2017

don't wait to long to make a move the more time passes the more chances you lose in starting anything with this girl . i have done this in the past mostly it was when i was crushing hard i end up regretting not doing anything cause someone else will end up going for her so she could gain interest with another guy , do something now if it doesnt work out then you simply move on at least be quicker to move on

June 18, 2017

I don't understand this girl and her behavior. I don't really understand your behavior either, but she seems a bit awkward and immature in her approach. It's impossible to judge, but it seems there is an attraction.

With the comment that you could never be together or married if you choose the same career path is off. I don't get it. It's not promising. It's as if she's attempting to make it known she's not interested because she senses your attraction to her. This was said 1-1/2 years ago? It could be just a joke because of your field, one of those "inside jokes," and shouldn't be taken seriously. This should make sense to you, if this is the case, and take it as the joke it was.

Her flirting with other men, ignoring you, then showing interest seems like she's trying to make you jealous. It's immature behavior. But it seems to be working.

I also kind of wonder if some of her standoffish behavior revolves around meeting and dating another guy. She avoids you, due to being involved with someone else, and due to your attraction to her, she doesn't want to lead you on, or perhaps she feels some guilt, like cheating, due to her attraction to you, but she's dating another guy. When that dating doesn't progress to a relationship, and she's back on the market, she becomes flirty again, trying to get your attention.

It's really hard to say what her motives are.

By the end of the month, she would start pulling away. She was following some guy that had an Instagram with 2000 followers and she said that was her man. I stood down my pursuit for a bit.

What pursuit? It's been a year and a half!

You seem to sense an attraction from her, and the feeling is mutual, which is why you're posting, so I'm going to lean in the direction that there is an interest, and she's waiting for you to make a move. I don't think you should concern yourself with the fact she has never dated. Everyone has to have a first. It might mean you have to maneuver around inexperience and certain behaviors, and communicate about that, but that's life. We all evolve and grow with our experiences.

I think it's time to just simply ask her out on a date! You've known each other for a year and a half -- it's time!

June 18, 2017

I've been having this ongoing dispute with myself in trying to see if this girl likes me, but I do not want to jump the gun and tell her that I like her too, especially if she is just overly friendly and nothing more.

So, I've known this girl in college for almost 1.5 years. She has always been very shy around me. Well, she asked me to be in her group for a long-term project of 6 months and I joined. Well, she started coming out of her shell around me by sitting right next to me and by asking if she could drive me home after class, but I would thank her and politely decline. Our group project is 6 people, but she always wanted to pal up with me for each section of it and I would joke around with her. Well, in February, things peaked and she said that if we both pursued a certain career path, we could not be together or married. I brushed off the comment as a general statement and ignored it. Later in class, we had to choose project partners and someone asked for her and she agreed. After class, she said she wanted to choose me, but she was afraid to tell this other girl no. A couple months into our project, she really grew on me. I noticed her mirroring my body movements and now she is mirroring my vocabulary (my vocab is somewhat unique so it was easy to notice). She would always stands very close to me. Whenever she wanted help, I became Mr. Fix It and I was the only person she would ask for help.

By April, the situation had changed. She would become very quiet around me again. She seemed nervous. One day, she would not even look at me when I would talk to her or utter a full sentence. Then, another guy from class walks in and she gives him a ton of attention as the flirt with me sitting in the middle of it. They talked about having four babies and marriage arrangements. I talked to the guy afterwards and joked with him about it and he looked at me and said "She rejected me. I have another girl now." I was shocked. Later in class, I thought she played the jealousy game and I texted a female friend about it for advice. Well, I get a text from her and I smiled and told my group that my friend Jennifer wants me to call her back about something. Well, the girl in my group turned so quickly towards me after I said that I thought she would lose balance. The next class I had full attention. For the rest of the month, she asked if I could look over all of her homework and writing (she has a higher gpa than me). I would only get a lukewarm thank you if any after helping her. In another class, I noticed she was always leaving class with her purse and phone multiple times, but she would always come back a few minutes later with fresh makeup. However, she was also ignoring me in group conversations and she would end conversations with me when group members would show up. Then one morning made me fall for her, I told her about a hero I had and how he gave lectures. She said she had never heard of him (I told her about him the week before). I asked her what the best advice she had ever received from a mentor was and she said word-for-word what the guy I idolized would say as his motto.

By the end of the month, she would start pulling away. She was following some guy that had an Instagram with 2000 followers and she said that was her man. I stood down my pursuit for a bit. Then, she came in one day after a week of me ignoring with a very provocative outfit which was not in her nature at all. She seemed to try to not notice me. Then, I helped someone with homework after class and she invited herself to stay. We ended up working together for a few hours and she asked a lot of family questions and other strange questions. After, I learned that she was Googling me and my family. She even commented that I am everywhere on social media. I finally decided to run a test on my own, in one of our classes, we split into teams. The other team needed another person, so I left my normal group and she looks and goes "Why are you leaving?" in a shocked and confused voice. Then, the guy she flirting about babies and marriage with walks in and she asks him to join her team and she starts acting like a comedian the whole time in front of the whole class. Well, her team was getting beaten badly so I made a very subtle comment to my team about her playing like a certain bad quarterback and she immediately asks my team what I said. Afterwards, her team pulls a comeback and she thanked me for sabotaging the other team with a slight smile.

During the week, she started asking if she could call me for help on projects, but I noticed that she already knew everything and she was just talking about random stuff with me on the phone. I changed my wardrobe a bit with button up shirts and rolled sleeves and she would sneak more peaks at me than usual. As the semester came to an end, she asked for my help more frequently and it was genuine help she needed. She was asking me to hold her purse and stuff and trying to infiltrate my group of friends. She even cried on the phone to me about how tough school was the night before a final. The next day, she was talking to a girl from school and I was surprised by how much she knew about me. By lunch that day, we talked in our group and she acted like I was from another plant, she was afraid to say more than two sentences about me in front of others. It was very odd. Then, I got a curveball when we talked about a group meetup and I suggested a movie and she looked at me and said "But we can't talk in a movie." From then on, she became very flirty with other guys, so I am now thrown off. She even went on a trip with some other girls and the guy she flirted with about babies to the mall after class.

Does anyone think she likes me? The flirtiness with other guys throws me off. I do not want to ask her out because I am told that she has never gone on a date and the reason might be obvious, but I don't know why. She is very good looking and extremely polite and I do not want to mistake friendliness for interest. How should I go about trying to figure out her impression of me? Should I try anything to try and attract her or would that make her back off?

Dude, stay far away from this one.

June 19, 2017

I don't know what planet you live on, but where I come from, if you're interested in a girl, you ask them on a date. You don't sit around and play ignore and jealousy games in class. She will find someone who will date her if you don't. So if you want her, you better stop treating her weird and just ask her on a date and treat her with respect.

This. So much this.

"I don't know if she likes me"

Ok, so ask her out. Really what men like the OP are chasing is *assurance* they won't be rejected. That's coming at the problem entirely the wrong way. Acting *in spite* of the fear of rejection is the goal here.

June 19, 2017

Surprised you haven't asked her out by now. Not sure what more she could do to let you know she's interested in going out with you. Doesn't mean she's ready for a relationship. Just that she may have an interest in seeing if the two of you could click.

The comment about not being able to be married if you choose the same career is a dead give away that she's been imagining being with you. Doesn't mean she's decided that's what she wants long term but it definitely means she'd probably like to go out with you.

Keep us posted.

June 19, 2017

Ask her where she'd like to go. If she gives you any mixed signals...just tell her..."Look...I'm interested in getting to know you better. Would you like to go out? And if not a movie....(throw out another suggestion....or ask her what she'd like to do what would encourage talking).

Just know...this girl ain't marriage material. She's probably not ready for any kind of heavy.

If you like her...view it as getting to know her better...not for any other reason whatsoever.

Let the games begin!! (as if they've not already...you're just trying to define the rules of said game...that's all you want to do)

so don't take it personal if she *does* go out with you...but it's quite evident that her rules are different from your rules. go for it.

Edited June 19, 2017 by whatnot

June 19, 2017

Oh...and make the next suggestion something a bit more fun...more active but where you can both talk and "bond" more.

It's already too heavy...you all need to loosen up....have some fun

June 19, 2017

The events of my last thread are here:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/627177-i-am-man-not-code-breaker-i-am-definitely-inexperienced

Long story short, she showed extreme interest in me and even seemed to be trying to make me jealous. Well, I decided to ask her to hangout (not my exact words, but I did not say date either). She seemed excited over Skype and asked if we could do something where we talk. I agreed and headed off for the night. For details of her interest signs, definitely revisit the link to my prior post.

This morning, I received an odd email saying that she wanted to apologize for toying with my emotions and that she did not mean to mislead me. Further on she said that she could not maintain a strong friendship with me due to the burden it would cause to the man she will marry one day years from now when he enters her life and that I should not let her actions impede me from being open with others. She also said that she is blessed that she will be forgiven her for her actions by a higher power (On Skype, I never used the word like or love. I only said that we should hangout sometime this week). I read that someone had a similar experience on a different thread or site, but they sent a letter and said they liked the girl, this was over Skype.

I talked to her best friend and she said that there are no other men in her life other than her father and brother. Period. I told her what she wrote and she was shocked. She said that if she led me on, then she put in way too much effort.

Any ideas on how or why she got cold feet in less than 9 hours since we talked? I might just disappear rather than waste effort responding to her email if she could not tell me face-to-face.

June 19, 2017

I've made an update to this thread. Here is the link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/627318-i-am-man-not-code-breaker-update#post7343433

The current situation is now updated.

June 19, 2017

email???? odd?? It probably was her father. Old people use email..........I doubt it was her.

June 19, 2017

Sounds like she is uber religious, probably the denim skirt, Duggar kind. That is exactly the kind of thing people who ascribe to the "court, don't date or kiss" philosophy would write. And even though her dad probably didn't write it, she probably has to ask his permission when she does court (and so does the boy).

Unless you also have these beliefs, run as fast as you can.

June 19, 2017

What the hell? She sounds emotionally unavailable/phobic to me. How odd. I'm guessing she panicked and somehow is the type who needs to know if she is going to marry you before she dates you (??). Something is off here. I don't doubt that there is an attraction but she seems too fearful for whatever reason to pursue anything further. I feel that even if you did somehow get past this with her that the relationship would be hot/cold with her pulling back any time another stage of intimacy was reached because she is obviously conflicted about something.

June 19, 2017

I should clarify that I don't think whatever is having her pull back has anything to do with you or your behavior whatsoever.

June 19, 2017

email???? odd?? It probably was her father. Old people use email..........I doubt it was her.

smackie9's on target. It's her father. She may not even know the email was sent, who knows? From the way you describe her the language in the email (words used) doesn't match up with her behavior or even with a young person.

Sure would be nice if you could talk with her face-to-face even if you don't pursue anything with her, which might be for the best. Sounds as if the family might be a little strange and/or controlling...poor girl, my heart goes out to her. Even if her dad didn't write the email (and still think he probably did) he made her do it, I'd bet.

June 19, 2017

I sent her a text after she would not pick up by phone just to ask if she was sure that she wanted this and that I am a little confused. She said yes and it is not my business and thanks for the homework help. I told her that I will respect her wishes. I assured her that I will always respect her boundaries and if she ever wanted me to wait for her, I would, but that is up to her. I told her that she was an inspiration during the semester and I am thankful for the brief time we had together. I wished her luck and told her that I hope her life goes on as she hopes and that I will always support her ambitions in life, that I implore her to be her best, and that it is unfortunate that I could not be there to witness any further progress. I told her that her name means something along the lines of "God's gift" and I am grateful for being able to witness part of that gift. I said my door is always open, but I will delete myself from our social media outlets and I will not contact her further because I respect her wishes even if I disagree. I even ended with a line that I like "Our lives felt intertwined, but never met." Yes, this sounds weak and sad, but anger will not win me any points and writing this actually makes me feel better.

She did not respond, but I saw that she read my messages. I began unfollowing her and she began unfollowing before I could finish. An hour ago, her friend said that she was talking to her and she was in tears and was angry with me and going to block me. I forwarded the email and texts and she was stunned and said she has never done this to anyone in their 8 years as friends. I told her I will not chase her, but I am not mad at her either because all of her gentleness and kindness tells me that there is something bigger at play. I just told her friend that there is always a door open, but she has to enter it.

I told myself that if I truly love her, then I will respect her wishes as that is the only way I can show her any further affection. I am sad because I lost a friend and possibly more, but I need to move on. I admit, it felt like I could have loved her long-term, but that is behind me. Who knows, maybe separation will cause the heart to grow fonder, but that is too wishful at this point.

Thank you all so much for helping to guide me through this. It is best that I found out now rather than weeks or years down the road. I wish I could have talked to her in person. I know she left by email first, but I feel so wrong saying goodbye by text. Well, it is time to blow off steam at the gym. I would appreciate any further thoughts on this situation and advice for moving on. Tomorrow, I am going to take a hard look at myself because I know that a moment like this is perfect to improve myself.

Please feel free to share any thoughts on this, words of encouragement, or recommendations. I value all of your feedback.

Edited June 19, 2017 by JamesNorrington15

June 19, 2017

Hi. Strangely, her friend says this is all her. Her family is actually very relaxed on the whole boyfriend thing. She is the most religious person, a different religion from her own parents, in her household and her grandma, mom, and dad said she needs to let more people into her life during college. Her dad is actually a really nice guy and I talked to him once at the store, so I know he did not play a role in this. I actually feel that she has trust issues. She made me cry once when she said people in high school treated her like trash because of her accent and a guy that was going to take her to prom ditched her and left with someone else at the last minute. She has been hurt before, but I cannot fix that. I could only show that I am better than those people.

June 19, 2017

James, your behavior is normal. Hers doesn't seem to be. So sorry but you've dodged a bullet on this one. I'd write more but it doesn't seem to be worth it. She's just really odd. You can sit and speculate until the cows come home and may never figure out what her problem is.

You don't need to be with someone who won't communicate with you but who talks to her friend and expresses all her thoughts and emotions instead. It's pretty childish. No future here.

Btw, you did fine with the whole situation. She's the one with the problems.

June 20, 2017

James, your behavior is normal. Hers doesn't seem to be. So sorry but you've dodged a bullet on this one. I'd write more but it doesn't seem to be worth it. She's just really odd. You can sit and speculate until the cows come home and may never figure out what her problem is.

You don't need to be with someone who won't communicate with you but who talks to her friend and expresses all her thoughts and emotions instead. It's pretty childish. No future here.

Btw, you did fine with the whole situation. She's the one with the problems.

I agree, but I was childish too in hindsight. Can you believe that me and her are both 24? Her email did prove one thing, she was playing dumb to get to know me this semester, so I feel that maybe she was vetting me for something bigger, but it ultimately did not pan out. I do not subscribe to there being "the one", but I will not go blindly into dating with these emotions in my head. I also feel that I will not fade from her memory so easily, but I can only hope that one day she might look back on a memory of me with a smile. I need to get back on course and focus on my career.

June 20, 2017

James, your behavior is normal. Hers doesn't seem to be. So sorry but you've dodged a bullet on this one. I'd write more but it doesn't seem to be worth it. She's just really odd. You can sit and speculate until the cows come home and may never figure out what her problem is.

You don't need to be with someone who won't communicate with you but who talks to her friend and expresses all her thoughts and emotions instead. It's pretty childish. No future here.

Btw, you did fine with the whole situation. She's the one with the problems.

I would actually like to hear your thoughts, if you want to bother typing them, which at this point, you're thinking, why bother.

Her behavior is crazy odd, and the thing is, OP, I can give a pass to being immature and inexperienced, but she hit the crazy train with that last email. I'm glad you finally just bit the bullet and put it out there and asked her out, and now you can get some closure.

People with highly religious convictions can be difficult if you don't share those beliefs or you have a different religion (or none at all, more casual approach, etc). The thing is, they can relax and take a more "cafeteria" approach (which it seems this girl is doing sporadically), but if these beliefs are highly ingrained, they always revert. When the babies are born and/or there are rocky points in the marriage, that reversion can be the death of your relationship if you don't believe and jump on board. You will be to blame as well because of your lack of belief. I married one of these, and I'm telling you, if religion is causing this wishy-washy behavior, you are dodging a bullet. She is presently struggling with herself and her beliefs, and it seems like that's why her personality is bouncing around all over the place. You have no way of knowing if this sort of thing could creep it's ugly head some time in the future when you have a mortgage and 2.5 children and you're looking at divorce square in the face, custody, child support, division of assets...the best thing for you right now is to chalk this up to a good story to tell later on when you're no longer wounded.

You can find someone more stable who will knock your socks off.

June 20, 2017

I would actually like to hear your thoughts, if you want to bother typing them, which at this point, you're thinking, why bother.

Her behavior is crazy odd, and the thing is, OP, I can give a pass to being immature and inexperienced, but she hit the crazy train with that last email. I'm glad you finally just bit the bullet and put it out there and asked her out, and now you can get some closure.

People with highly religious convictions can be difficult if you don't share those beliefs or you have a different religion (or none at all, more casual approach, etc). The thing is, they can relax and take a more "cafeteria" approach (which it seems this girl is doing sporadically), but if these beliefs are highly ingrained, they always revert. When the babies are born and/or there are rocky points in the marriage, that reversion can be the death of your relationship if you don't believe and jump on board. You will be to blame as well because of your lack of belief. I married one of these, and I'm telling you, if religion is causing this wishy-washy behavior, you are dodging a bullet. She is presently struggling with herself and her beliefs, and it seems like that's why her personality is bouncing around all over the place. You have no way of knowing if this sort of thing could creep it's ugly head some time in the future when you have a mortgage and 2.5 children and you're looking at divorce square in the face, custody, child support, division of assets...the best thing for you right now is to chalk this up to a good story to tell later on when you're no longer wounded.

You can find someone more stable who will knock your socks off.

Well, I'll try if I can recall what I was thinking! Have been focusing on other things.

Religious vs. Spiritual convictions, seems to me big difference. I know plenty of spiritual people who are very well balanced, great people to interact/relate with! Me, for instance, :)

June 20, 2017

OK, act00 and James, to me it seems from your OP, James, she made a big play for you. Then she ended up crying and angry over you. This is the part I hated to type because when a person cries over another it indicates she has pretty deep feelings. You really got to her.

But, I hated to write it because I don't want you to be thinking about her and focusing on the part that she has deep feelings for you because she's just nuts, that's all there is to it, it seems. Imo you need to stay away from her and staying away from her includes your thought life.

From how you expressed yourself about her it may take you a little while to detach from your emotions for her and no sense in making it harder.

Would be really interesting to learn what kind of religion she became a part of that is different than the rest of her families' beliefs.

Anyway, though, she is totally selfish to give her gf information about her feelings she's not sharing with you when you were candid, kind and forthcoming about your intentions and feelings. She sounds immature and insecure.

I think I may have had some other thoughts earlier about the situation but can't recall them right now.

Anyway, James, your next girl will be much better! Couldn't get much crazier!

June 20, 2017

OK, act00 and James, to me it seems from your OP, James, she made a big play for you. Then she ended up crying and angry over you. This is the part I hated to type because when a person cries over another it indicates she has pretty deep feelings. You really got to her.

But, I hated to write it because I don't want you to be thinking about her and focusing on the part that she has deep feelings for you because she's just nuts, that's all there is to it, it seems. Imo you need to stay away from her and staying away from her includes your thought life.

From how you expressed yourself about her it may take you a little while to detach from your emotions for her and no sense in making it harder.

Would be really interesting to learn what kind of religion she became a part of that is different than the rest of her families' beliefs.

Anyway, though, she is totally selfish to give her gf information about her feelings she's not sharing with you when you were candid, kind and forthcoming about your intentions and feelings. She sounds immature and insecure.

I think I may have had some other thoughts earlier about the situation but can't recall them right now.

Anyway, James, your next girl will be much better! Couldn't get much crazier!

I actually had the same feeling. Thank you for your input. When I heard that she was angry and crying, I felt very confused, but I cannot dwell on that unless she were to muster up the courage and tell me herself. I cannot ask her because she wanted me gone and I am not going to get labeled as an annoyance by her.

Her religion, or rather her view of it, is interesting. She is Born-Again Christian and her family is Catholic and my family is 50-50 between the two and I pivot between the two as she had done in the past. I think it may be her interpretation of her religion rather than the religion itself because I have seen it in both types of congregations where some people go beyond their teachings by adhering rules and limitations that they are not normally taught. She literally did not mention her religion around me until last week, but when I looked on her pinterest that day, it was a mix of revealing outfits and religious quotes.

Before I left one of her accounts today, I noticed that the other guy she flirted with and left out in the cold during the semester was now allowed on her accounts. Odd choice for a rebound if that is the case. I hope he knows what he is heading into. I also hope she is not using her religion as cover for something else because I get a hint of that. She said she cannot be friendly with other men yet she had know problem grabbing my hand in class or sitting closer than usual.

All in all, I agree she is different. She had an obsession with asking everyone how many kids they wanted, but she always mysteriously stopped when it got around to me. Haha. Oh well, tomorrow I will take a hard look at myself. I listened to a guy on YouTube and he said to do an After Action Review in a situation like this, so I can better judge people and myself before getting led into something terrible. I do not know how psychiatrists handle all of this...the human mind is so strange!

Edited June 20, 2017 by JamesNorrington15

June 20, 2017

I know plenty of born-again Christians who don't behave this way; who are balanced, normal people. Also, the part about revealing outfits and religious quotes; seems to me the two don't go together at all. Not that the Duggar-type lifestyle would make sense to me, either.

I was a little concerned because I called her nuts, etc., in my post to you. So glad you didn't take offense!

You sound like a really great guy! Some lady is going to be lucky to have you and to me you seem more clued in than the average guy!

You have a great future with the ladies imo, James!

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