Kate Hudson's theory on relationships...wut are YOUR opinions??

[steenerz]

Access Hollywood's Billy Bush recently joined Kate Hudson for a candid conversation and a bike ride through the streets of New Orleans.

 

And while Kate led the way on the bikes, Billy definitely steered the conversation.

 

One of the topics – monogamy. Kate's mom, actress Goldie Hawn has loudly declared that she believes as a concept, monogamy is not natural.

 

Now it was up to Billy to find out if the apple fell far from the tree.

 

"Do you believe that monogamy is unrealistic?" Billy asked Kate. "Can it be done?"

 

"Absolutely it can be done," she replied. "Do I believe it's realistic? No, I don't."

 

"I believe that we as people have the power to make it happen," she added. "I will not disrespect my husband and stray."

 

Almost five years now, Kate's been married to Black Crowes lead singer Chris Robinson and together they have a one-and-a-half-year-old son Ryder.

 

Kate got some very good advice about raising her child from mom Goldie and mom's partner, Kurt Russell.

 

Goldie's words to Kate?

 

"Just remember that the second that baby comes out of you, it no longer belongs to you. You no longer possess that child. It's the best lesson you'll ever learn as a mother."

 

"That is a great philosophy on raising children," Billy said. "[Goldie] also has a great quote that I've been wrestling with as I read, 'All men cheat. They sow their seed. That's what they do'… if that's true then Chris, your husband cheats. I cheat, Kurt cheats."

 

"I don’t know," Kate smiled. "You know what? I just don't want to know. Just don't get caught."

 

"Come on, you've got to be kidding me," Billy said surprised.

 

"Don't get caught," she laughed.

 

"Is that your advice to Chris?" Billy asked.

 

"You know…if you focus your attention on that, you are always wondering if your husband's out there cheating on you and personally I think if things are happy in the home, we're having a good time," she explained. "If for some reason that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, please just don't get caught…To me there is nothing more attractive when I see my husband finding another woman attractive."

 

"Really? That doesn't make you jealous?" Billy wondered.

 

"No," Kate said with a laugh.

 

 

what do u guys think? do u guys agree with her or no?

[pearlsasinger]

Disagree. If that's working out for her, fine. I know that would never work for me.

 

Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic, but I still like to believe in the idea that you can find love with one person who can provide you with everything you need...physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.

 

Maybe she's adopting that little philosophy because SHE'S gettin' nookie somewhere else? Hmmm?

[steenerz]

Originally posted by pearlsasinger

Disagree. If that's working out for her, fine. I know that would never work for me.

 

Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic, but I still like to believe in the idea that you can find love with one person who can provide you with everything you need...physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.

 

Maybe she's adopting that little philosophy because SHE'S gettin' nookie somewhere else? Hmmm?

 

that's what i was thinking too

[LucreziaBorgia]

I'm not sure I'm buying that cheating itself is human nature, but I think the things that can lead up to it are.

 

Monogamy works for some couples, not for others. It depends on the couple, really. Monogamy is a choice between couples, not a right. A lot of people go into relationships assuming monogamy, when really its something that has to be chosen, and chosen every single day in your heart for yourself and your partner for it to work. As soon as it stops becoming a choice for one partner or the other, and it becomes an obligation - or worse, its taken for granted - it almost always will be broken, or at the very least one of the partner will be wanting to break it.

 

I don't know if its the monogamy/promiscuity that is human nature, so much as the need to escape when one feels trapped (the 'flight' part, I guess). If monogamy stops being a choice, and becomes seen as a 'trap' - then it is only human nature to want to struggle and escape: regardless of what name or label you put on the trap.

[NYCmitch25]

Originally posted by pearlsasinger

Maybe she's adopting that little philosophy because SHE'S gettin' nookie somewhere else? Hmmm?

 

Who knows, but I wouldn't mind "helping" her if she needs it from someone... jk :-)

[NYCmitch25]

Originally posted by steenerz

"You know…if you focus your attention on that, you are always wondering if your husband's out there cheating on you and personally I think if things are happy in the home, we're having a good time," she explained. "If for some reason that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, please just don't get caught…To me there is nothing more attractive when I see my husband finding another woman attractive."

 

Seemingly it apears that she is playing an emotional "safe bet" where she can hope not to disrupt the apple-cart if something really is going on. I think this has very little to do with her desire to cheat but more of a way to cope with her own insecurities about her hubby, which could be justified. But then again, we have a very narrow view into her world and it could be as simple as just perhaps that if something does happen, she doesn't want the media to be rabid about it. I'm guessing and digressing. ;-)