Kerrie1989 Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 I used to be close friends with a great man before we made the mistake of becoming FWB. We had everything in common expecially Art & Music. Unfortunately I developed feelings for him and it became complicated. We both started dating different people but regularly communicated. Once I matured and entered a serious relationship, he has regularly tried to interfer including be-friending 52 of our mutual friends and trying to anger my Boyfriend. Currently he is dating someone who closely resembles me. Since, he has pretended not to know me including blocking me. I wish to remain friends with him but I don't understand why he can not?
basil67 Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 He tried to anger your boyfriend and interfere with your friend group. Yet you call him a great guy and wish to remain friends with him. Seems your alliance is still with the ex FWB rather than your boyfriend. I suggest you re-think your priorities. That said, the reason that he won't be your friend is probably because it would be disrespectful to his current girlfriend. (Just as you wanting to be his friend is very disrespectful to your current guy). Either that, or he just doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. 3
PegNosePete Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 I wish to remain friends with him Seriously? After what he's done, why on earth would you want to remain friends with someone like that? But, I guess some folks juggle geese. It's clear what you need to do if you really want to remain friends with him: dump your BF, and become your FWB's bit on the side. Personally after the way he's treated you, I'd tell him where to stick it. 1
salparadise Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Sounds like there's some jealousy and possessiveness running in both directions. He's angry but you wish to be "friends." I wonder what the rest of the story is... are you going to tell us or must we playing fifty questions?
stillafool Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 It's funny when people say that their ex is involved with someone who resembles them. Have you ever thought that people have a "type" they are attracted to? It really means no more than that. Why do you want to be friends with an ex FWB who doesn't want to be friends with you? What does your BF say about this? 2
thefooloftheyear Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 I wish I had a dollar for every one of these stories I read... When will people(esp women) learn??....Just about every woman ever conceived has problems with compartmentalizing sex...Its not hard to understand where that will go then... TFY 1
mikeylo Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 So basically he is trying to break you up with your bf. And you want to stay ' friends ' with him --- a person who wants to destroy your relationship.What an I missing ? Who needs enemies when you have friends like this ? Duh. You are choosing it. Are you sure you are ready with the consequences? 1
spiderowl Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 I used to be close friends with a great man before we made the mistake of becoming FWB. We had everything in common expecially Art & Music. Unfortunately I developed feelings for him and it became complicated. We both started dating different people but regularly communicated. Once I matured and entered a serious relationship, he has regularly tried to interfer including be-friending 52 of our mutual friends and trying to anger my Boyfriend. Currently he is dating someone who closely resembles me. Since, he has pretended not to know me including blocking me. I wish to remain friends with him but I don't understand why he can not? Sounds like he's feeling some kind of possessiveness, but I would not read too much into it if he did not want a proper relationship with you previously. Men can be sexually possessive but still want want a relationship. The two seem to be separate for them.
Author Kerrie1989 Posted June 23, 2017 Author Posted June 23, 2017 My point is, Why is he pro-suing me when he didn't care In the first place? I do not want a relationship with him, I deeply love my partner My Boyfriend is acquiesces with him and he is not avoidable due to my Boyfriend becoming best-friends with his younger brother. I wish to remain friends with him to avoid awkward confrontations or exchanges. I would rather have him as a friend instead of an enemy. I do not have feelings of lust for him anymore but I do still care about him. I just don't understand why It is difficult for him to be-friend me too when he has told me "I have never loved you, will never love you" I am confused. Why would it be so hard for him when, he feels absolutely nothing towards me?
mikeylo Posted June 23, 2017 Posted June 23, 2017 If you love your bf and want your relationship to survive, let this guy out of your life like NOW. If you persist, he will stay an enemy under the disguise of friend and destroy your relationship with bf. You get to choose friends but you are choosing an enemy. You seem to be bent upon sabotaging your life with your bf. Good luck. 3
Blondigip Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 Здравствуйте. Сразу прошу прощения, что не по теме... Мой парень любит играть в футбол. Пару недель назад поиграл во дворе. Врезали по ноге так, что синяк был на пол ноги. поиграл называется! Я ему сразу сказала что надо в больничку. Но он все отнекивался, он же мужик! Потерплю мол.. Но потом согласился. Блин, лучше не ездил.. Короче в больнице врчи, когда лечили занесли ему то ли ривтоидный то ли ривмодиный артрит. Ппц! врачи же сами! Короче он теперь мучается. Боли, ломит суставы... Что делать? Я нигде не могу найти как лечить. Может кто знает, кто подскажет? как вылечить-то?? парень молодой, мы семью хотели создавать... а тперь как?? ревматоидный артрит
dichotomy Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 (edited) I don't understand how you can "care" about a FWB that tried to interfere and anger a boyfriend you "love". Mess with my loved ones - enemies you are to me - anger my beloved partner and I will rip you a new one. I got your back ! http://groomsadvice.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/wedding-party-swordfight.jpg Edited June 28, 2017 by dichotomy 2
stillafool Posted June 28, 2017 Posted June 28, 2017 My point is, Why is he pro-suing me when he didn't care In the first place? I do not want a relationship with him, I deeply love my partner My Boyfriend is acquiesces with him and he is not avoidable due to my Boyfriend becoming best-friends with his younger brother. I wish to remain friends with him to avoid awkward confrontations or exchanges. I would rather have him as a friend instead of an enemy. I do not have feelings of lust for him anymore but I do still care about him. I just don't understand why It is difficult for him to be-friend me too when he has told me "I have never loved you, will never love you" I am confused. Why would it be so hard for him when, he feels absolutely nothing towards me? It isn't his job to become friends with you. You and your man are his brother's friend. Your ex FWB doesn't want to be too friendly to you because everyone around there knows he has had sex with you and he doesn't want to be too friendly to you making your ex think that he still wants you so he keeps his distance. He is respecting your bf. I would do the same thing if I were in his shoes.
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