mujeep Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 My ex recently separated from her rebound relationship (I knew it was just a matter of time) and so far she has wanted to meet me twice. The first time was about 2 weeks ago and again last night. She says she likes doing activities w/ me b/c none of her girlfriends like to do the things we do (going to parks, camping, hiking, etc.). She has made it clear to me that we are only friends. I'm having a hard time fighting back my feelings about her when I'm w/ her. I know if I start talking about getting back together, it will drive her away and she won't want to see me at all. Not seeing her at all would really hurt me, but being only friends with a person I love very much is almost too hard to take. She tells me she eventually wants to try and date someone else again, just not me, and that she is taking a break right now. God I hope I'm not here just b/c she is taking a break and doesn't have anyone else!? What should I do? Should I just be her friend or should I try to convince her to come back to me, risking her leaving me all together?
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 God I hope I'm not here just b/c she is taking a break and doesn't have anyone else!? I can guarantee you that when she does find someone to date, you'll be history. You have only two choices: leave her on your own accord, or stick around and get left by her. You can always bite the bullet and tell her that her chances of finding a guy to date will increase if she doesn't have her ex hanging around and then let her know that the "friends" thing isn't working for you anyway, so its time to go your separate ways. She tells me she eventually wants to try and date someone else again, just not me, and that she is taking a break right now. This means that there is no point in trying to get her back. She is actively looking for other men, and using you as a placeholder for some other guy.
Starnette83 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Im sorry but the best and hardest advice to follow is to have NO CONTACT!!! u need to think about yourself, i know you love her to death, trust me i know that feeling, im going through it...but in the end ure the one whos gonna get hurt not her by keeping contact, how can she ever come to realize what great guy u r when ure always around, and when she knows how much u still love her, while u have to keep wondering all the time what she is doing and whether she will come back!! my bf of almost 5 years is leaving to school 8 hours away and im so freakin scared, especially cuz when i tell him my worries about other girls he just stays quiet and i dont get any reassurance, I already know that im going to have to break contact because if i dont i will hurt twice as much. Of course breaking contact is gonna be EXTREMELY EXTREMELY tough, cuz not only is he my first love but my best friend and someone ive shared all these years with, but i know that if i keep contact ill just be as freaked out n frustrated and annoyed when he doesnt pick up,a nd feel super insecure n jealous, ..im not saying i wont feel this way with NO contact, but its most likely that with time ill feel better without contact then with contact... Sometimes u just gotta suck it in and be strong and try to keep extra busy!!! I still dont know how im going to deal, but i keep preparing myself everyday..LIFE SUCKS but in the end of the tunnel there is light right? SHould be!!!!!!!
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