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Because we live 1500km away from each other.

 

OOOOKKKK, so you flew 1500KM to go meet her and you spend 1 date together? That is all? And YOU will fly again 1500KM to have 1 other date with her?

 

You need to give us more details here.

 

If she is not into you after a 1st date she needs to get her act together and tell you!

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OOOOKKKK, so you flew 1500KM to go meet her and you spend 1 date together? That is all? And YOU will fly again 1500KM to have 1 other date with her?

 

You need to give us more details here.

 

If she is not into you after a 1st date she needs to get her act together and tell you!

 

No, we met in between on neutral ground so to say and we spend 2 days. It went very well but I didn't approach her enough and barely touched her or kissed her. Only when we departed I managed to hug her and she almost had to cry. But I regret I didn't escalate it enough earlier in those days.

 

She sends me pictures, tells me about her daily life, she definitely likes me as friend but more I'm not sure. Her character and way of thinking is very conservative.

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With long distance you don't have the luxury of time. She needs to decide if she likes you that way or not. You have a 10 month history!!! She has an insight on your character already.

 

Are you living in the same country? Who's willing to relocate?

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Now l understand why you want to bring her a gift next time and it make sense. The fact she refuses it indicates l think she views you more as a friend.v

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With long distance you don't have the luxury of time. She needs to decide if she likes you that way or not. You have a 10 month history!!! She has an insight on your character already.

 

Are you living in the same country? Who's willing to relocate?

 

I live in Belgium and she in Russia. She will relocate to me. But we had a big argument at 20 march, partly my fault and she acted distanced from me, but now she is slowing warming up again to me.

 

Now l understand why you want to bring her a gift next time and it make sense. The fact she refuses it indicates l think she views you more as a friend.v

 

I am not sure. She doesn't like to be paid amd feels uncomfortable by it. When her best friend offers to pay for her drink she is only able to buy water.

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On what website you met her?

 

This is sounding more and more fishy.

 

What was the big fight about?

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So basically it means she doesn't yet wanna be serious with me :(

 

No, why do you put it that way? She doesn't want any gifts. Just take her out like normal and be yourself but treat her 100% attention. Listen first then you talk but give her a chance. Why do you have to go and buy her something? There is not rule you have too. She doesn't want it...

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No, why do you put it that way? She doesn't want any gifts. Just take her out like normal and be yourself but treat her 100% attention. Listen first then you talk but give her a chance. Why do you have to go and buy her something? There is not rule you have too. She doesn't want it...

 

He cannot take her out. They live 1500km apart. She is in Russia and he is in Belgium. The chatted 10 months before meeting.

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Well, how crazy is it to think sending gifts is going to solidify anything? Nothing but seeing each other more will qualify as dating. Gifts are not a substitute. I mean, you're not going to get someone you've only seen twice to move countries for you -- or if you do, they don't have a lick of sense.

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Well, how crazy is it to think sending gifts is going to solidify anything? Nothing but seeing each other more will qualify as dating. Gifts are not a substitute. I mean, you're not going to get someone you've only seen twice to move countries for you -- or if you do, they don't have a lick of sense.

 

OP is from Belgium. We don't know how dating is over there. My BF is from France and because we kissed he assumed we were a couple. Who knows maybe in Belgium gift giving has a meaning.

 

This woman is from Russia. I am sure she is smiling at the thought of getting out of there and move to nice Country like Belgium.

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