emerald86 Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I can't quite decide if a coworker of mine is a natural flirt, or if his actions indicate something more. When we work together on a certain task, he's rather goofy and humorous, and gently pokes fun at me whenever I make a mistake. Maybe he does this to everyone, but I'm not sure. Other times, he'll tell me that he likes my shirt or that my hair looks different on a particular day. Occasionally, he'll come close to me and say something like "you have a small strand of hair in your face," or he might gently tug at my sleeve. His behavior is rather erratic though. Some days, he'll appear to enjoy my presence, and on other days he'll barely talk to me, even coming across as overly aloof. He does text me when we're not at work, but even this is unpredictable - many times, he'll initiate the conversation. It's usually to ask how something went, such as an event that I went to. But other times, it's difficult to get a conversation going with him. He is a very friendly person, as far as I can tell. But I don't know if he necessarily teases everyone in the way that I described. Do any of these actions indicate anything?
carhill Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Have you verified his relationship status yet? Just going on what I remember of those who turned out to be married. They seemed to vacillate more in mood and flirtation. Some days it was like on fire and others cold as ice. No reason, at least none obvious to me. Of course, people can have mental/emotional issues nothing to do with relationships. I guess unpredictability can be kinda attractive. I tended to get a knot in my stomach from those folks though. Maybe it was just me, preferring more steady in the interaction department. If at work, there may be other factors than purely personality or interest. Workplaces can be complex. If you're wanting to gauge his interest, move interaction away from work and give him flirting opportunities on a more personal level. See what happens. Guys don't sit at green lights long if they're interested.
Maggie4 Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 There's lot enough to go on. You have to let it go on a bit longer. And yes, some people are flirtatious. I even flirt with women and I'm not gay. It sounds like he definitely likes you, so just think of it as making friends.
preraph Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Yes, some people are just naturally flirtatious or happy and friendly and carry on in that way. I had an old roommate who would just talk and more or less flirt with everyone. I think she still does even now she's much older. Her particular deal is she is always wanting attention. But it can be many reasons. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Yes,,,,Usually gay people and people with personality disorders... That's been my experience anyway.... The rest of the people generally don't do it, unless there is an end game(to court someone) TFY
Superchicken Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Bottom line, is do you want to take the next step ?. If so, then in a joking voice, ask him that your still waiting for him to ask you out. If he pauses, then you know his interested, as his thinking about it.. So drop the line, and see how you go. One way or another, you will know where you stand. Of course, this boils down to him being single.. You too woman !!!!.. Ted.
Miss Peach Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I would guess he may be flirting - especially if he doesn't do this with everyone else in the office. I also agree with Carhill. IME most of the men who were sporadically flirting with me like that turned out to be married. And they weren't just being friendly. Some even tried to make moves on me in the office.
act00 Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Oh yes, definitely! There are people who are very friendly and flirtatious, and there's some serious contention in marriage and relationships over it. My stepdad was "one of those." I dated a guy who was very friendly and outgoing and came across as very flirtatious, and it does not go over well for the GF. This guy was very friendly with everyone, but when it came to opposite gender, it can be perceived as flirting...or downright flirting. His actions could signify an attraction to you, but he's not interested in actually dating you or pursuing a relationship. His actions could be just his behavior in general, and without you paying attention to his interactions with other coworkers, particularly other women, you really can't say if this is just a personality thing or an interest in you. Personally, I would just enjoy the crush and not put stock into it until he decides to take it to the next level. He's a cube-mate and a coworker, and getting involved with a coworker can be a pretty big mistake...best to avoid...so choose carefully. Watch his interactions with other people. It's probably just his MO.
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