vanhalenfan Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Simple Question...Do you have your significant other's password to his/her phone? Do you care if you don't?
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I have the passwords to every account he has and he has every password to every account i have. We have a list of every account with every password and we both have access to that list. Do we check on each other? no...but we can Does it mean we dont trust each other...no..it means we do 5
rushed Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I don't have the passcode to my guy's phone, but that's because he uses it for work, also, and it needs to be secure. I do have the passcode to his iPad, which does have access to his texts, maybe his facebook, and I don't know what else because I never snooped around and I don't really care. My phone doesn't have a lock on it.
beautifulinside2 Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I have his passwords but he doesn't have mine. He doesn't want it.
basil67 Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 My phone isn't locked. My husband's is locked. On rare occasions when I need to use his phone, he will remind me of the password - but I always forget it. Then he has to remind me again next time...
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I'm not in a relationship right now, but I have nearly 44,000 emails in my Gmail account so I really would not want someone to have access to that because that's been my email account for years and years, through many many things, relationships, drama, etc. I kindof keep it as my diary/journal. Everything else (texts, Facebook, Instagram) I would not care about, so I guess we'd just have to have an agreement that looking at old emails is not OK, anything new is fine, and I'd be OK with giving out my password. Would I want his? I doubt it. I don't even do a decent job of checking up on my kids' phones, and I absolutely should be. I just feel like I don't have time for that kind of micro-managing in any of my relationships. To recap, I would not be offended if someone wanted access to my stuff (unless they constantly needed to look at it), but I don't think I'd really keep up with checking a partner's stuff unless I had reason to distrust them....and in that case we probably would not be together. Been there, done that with my ex-husband. This girl doesn't have time for that drama anymore . 1
crystalstevens Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Simple Question...Do you have your significant other's password to his/her phone? Do you care if you don't? I'm gonna go on a limb here and say no.... I don't. I don't have my husbands and he doesn't have mine. The only password we share is for our shared bank account, otherwise -- we have nothing to look at. I don't think it's necessary. I never felt the "need" to look at his stuff.
mrs rubble Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I'm gonna go on a limb here and say no.... I don't. I don't have my husbands and he doesn't have mine. The only password we share is for our shared bank account, otherwise -- we have nothing to look at. I don't think it's necessary. I never felt the "need" to look at his stuff. We don't "need to look at each other's stuff" but we're both willing to let each other use our phones if needed. Hence why we share passwords.
Bufo Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 My wife and I were talked into going Apple by my daughter. Apple SMS to insist on the us of passwords when setting up any device. And one must use Apple parameters for a password to be accepted by Apple. I don't even have my own passwords! But we keep a list in an unhandy place for reference. So we do have access to each other's devices. And I gott a notice from my bank that it will soon insist on a double system, meaning I'll have 2 passwords to forget instead of just one. Great.
aileD Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 For all you people that don't have passwords on your phone..... You should....just for personal security from people with bad intentions 1
dichotomy Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 (edited) Yes we know each others passwords on phone. Fact is our younger kids use our phones to play games and stuff when we are out anyway. Our main family and personal emails are also open on the home PC. She does not have my work email access - but I would provide it of course if she "needed it" for some concern (concern over cheating?) Only thing she does not know of is my use (or password of course) to Loveshack, and one or two other similar boards for marriage and family support or health issues. These are private group therapy for me and a place to vent and help others as well. Edited June 21, 2017 by dichotomy
mercy Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I don't have a cell phone. Never have. H has one, doesn't have a password. When h is consulting he has a private secure line. I'd probably be arrested if I tried to get in to it. He doesn't have my password here. This is my top secret stuff.....
knabe Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 We know each other's phone passwords. He doesn't have my email passwords because he's never asked, but he is usually right next to me if I'm on my phone anyway, and if he asked, I'd hand the phone to him anytime. In fact, we use each other's phones from time to time. I wouldn't be allowed to give him my work one, but it's completely work-related anyway.
RecentChange Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Have each other's passwords and use each other's phones regularly. I don't think either of us would be comfortable with not having the password.
Rockdad Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I can't remember mine how am I going to remember hers? We are very respectful of each others personal things it never crossed my mind to ask her what it is. I couldn't tell you if she locks hers or not. If it rings I may pick it up and go hand it to her if she's busy. That is what she does with mine as well which is unlocked by the way.
GorillaTheater Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 I'm required to have a passcode on my phone because of the work-related emails I get. It's my birth year, which is the only way I can remember it (work rejected my initial idea of 1-2-3-4). My wife knows it, and I know the finger pattern thingee that gets me into hers. The only time I use her phone is when she leaves it in a room I'm in and I want to turn off the gongs and crap that go off every 5 minutes whenever she gets a text.
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 (edited) I'm not in a relationship right now, but I have nearly 44,000 emails in my Gmail account so I really would not want someone to have access to that because that's been my email account for years and years, through many many things, relationships, drama, etc. I kindof keep it as my diary/journal. Everything else (texts, Facebook, Instagram) I would not care about, so I guess we'd just have to have an agreement that looking at old emails is not OK, anything new is fine, and I'd be OK with giving out my password. Would I want his? I doubt it. I don't even do a decent job of checking up on my kids' phones, and I absolutely should be. I just feel like I don't have time for that kind of micro-managing in any of my relationships. To recap, I would not be offended if someone wanted access to my stuff (unless they constantly needed to look at it), but I don't think I'd really keep up with checking a partner's stuff unless I had reason to distrust them....and in that case we probably would not be together. Been there, done that with my ex-husband. This girl doesn't have time for that drama anymore . I love this response and it pretty much sums up my own feelings on this subject. I had a very active online social life since my divorce in addition to having had several long distance relationships where emails were a big part of our relationship and daily exchange as well as other platforms. I've deleted a lot over the years but have archived many communications with those men who were significant in my life for one reason or another. They are not something I look through on a regularly basis. In fact, I don't even remember the last time I went down memory lane with them but I do have them nonetheless. Although my life is an open book and firmly believe in being completely transparent with my partners, those emails aren't necessarily something I'd want my current partner to peruse willy nilly and certainly not out of context. Having said that, I don't think I'd want to be with a man who feels a need to go poking around in every dark corner for just any reason only to analyze every ridiculous exchange with people from my past or present. I see that as a sign of deep insecurity which is not only a very unattractive quality but a huge red flag. It's one thing to be transparent and it's another thing to abuse that trust by deliberately digging for stuff and jumping to conclusions about things that have no relevance to what's happening right now. Edited June 21, 2017 by Michelle ma Belle 2
crystalstevens Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 We don't "need to look at each other's stuff" but we're both willing to let each other use our phones if needed. Hence why we share passwords. In the four years we have been together, we've never had a reason to use each others phone. Our phones are on each other like magnets. Also, neither of our phones have a passcode. But that's just us....sharing passwords for SM accts and emails seems a bit too intrusive to me. I like my privacy and so does he. There HAVE been instances where we've left ourselves logged onto or social media and emails in our home computer. Never found anything suspicious. And if it raises questions... well just ask each other. There's far better things to be concerned about than knowing each others passwords. I guess there's always been that level of trust. 1
4fin Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 We know each others phone and email passwords but it is kind of pointless since we don't look at each others communications. If we did it would be a violation. I don't want her reading my texts and emails and I don't want to read hers. So I guess we have useless info on each other. 1
MJJean Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 We use each other's electronic devices interchangeably, so yes.
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