iDrumKing Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 TL;DR: Girlfriend always on her phone around me and doesn't talk. Gets upset when I "call her out" on it. We've been dating for 1.5 years now and things have really slowed down in the talking aspect of our relationship. We do live together I will add. She works a 9-5 and I usually don't hear from her. I'm not saying that she HAS to text me by any means. She's a working girl, I get it. It just confuses me when she's always on Instagram, Facebook, etc. Surely it can't hurt to shoot me a quick message pertaining to literally anything could it? This problem has been brought home too. When we are at home, eating dinner, driving in the car its silence. I always bring things up to talk about but it reverts back to silence thereafter. I've spoken with her about how it makes me feel like I'm not interesting enough for her. She gets upset with me nonetheless saying that I'm "telling her that she can't be on her phone"... I'm not. Yeah check that text, read that stupid article, play your game. But if its too the point where I feel I'm fighting for her attention against a phone I'd think there would be something adjusting going on? I dunno... I'm not saying I'm not on my phone at points, but I know when not to. If you say you miss me and haven't seen or spoken to me all day but then you're on your phone all the time around me then it really changes the way I think about the relationship. Any tips?
Redhead14 Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 You've spoken to her a number of times and she dismisses your feelings/wishes. When there is not enough two-way communication in a relationship, it dies. Communication is one of, if not, THE key to a fulfilling and mutually satisfying relationship. Tell her that you need a more fulfilling, two-way relationship and that you are moving on. If this is her attitude about communication, how's that gonna work when/if you're married and have children? If it ain't working now, it ain't gonna work later . . . 3
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 There seems to me to be at least several issues: Lack of a desire to communicate Ignoring your expressed wishes Tech/screentime addiction Since you've tried to talk with her about this problem and nothing has changed I'd advise you to learn to accept it or get out of the relationship with her. I seriously doubt the situation will improve.
Marshawn Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 (edited) Throw in the towel bro and call it a day. She aint interested anymore and just doesnt know how to tell you bc she doesnt want to hurt your feelings. Been down that road before after 4 years and I had to give her the boot bc my time and affection was not desired anymore. Also, i was just not feeling it with her as well as everything died down and i expressed my interest in someone else who will give me those attention. Trust me, when you get back to the dating scene with another girl, it will be all fun again. Edited June 20, 2017 by Marshawn
Gaeta Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 In April you had a thread about this very problem but said it had just started a few weeks ago. In June you have a thread about her constantly fighting with you for little things. Now again a thread about her being on her phone constantly. It seems to me she checked out of this relationship early April. Find the other man and you'll have your answer. If you want to double check my other man theory just answer how are things in the bedroom since April?
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