sinkerswim Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Hey guys... Im missing my boyfriend so much right now. We had plans for him to come in on Labor Day weekend, but he still hasnt gotten his ticket yet, because he is in the process of moving into a new apartment.. so the money plays a big factor here. I wont feel at ease until he gets that ticket or unless I know for sure when we will see each other again. I dont want to be pushy with him either... i dont want to smother him with questions, hes a good person and hes good to me, but I just dont wanna lose him. Ive been kinda clingy lately... I KNOW I need to stop this. Since we've met hes told me he wants me to be his wife someday, mother of his children, thats how much he loves me. I just feel like I want to keep asking him if he still wants to marry me someday, because it feels as if hes been busier worrying about other things lately. He doesnt call as much as he used to, but he said to me the other night as long as we talk at least once a day.. that should be OK. Im just missing him right now. it hurts terribly. :-(
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by sinkerswim Im just missing him right now. it hurts terribly. :-( Hey sweetie, of course this hurts. It's natural to feel blue when the one you love is so far away. Try to find other things to occupy your time and make you a little less clingy. Time with friends, hobbies, self-improvement. See how long you can go without needing to call. He'll be there soooooon
Author sinkerswim Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 Thanks for the reply.. I sure hope I see him soooon. Havent heard from him yet today though.
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by sinkerswim Havent heard from him yet today though. Chin up... there's plenty of the day left. Do you have any ideas for what is making you feel clingy?
Author sinkerswim Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 Hi Romeo... thanks for listening... I guess I feel clingy because I am sooo happy to have found him, and I dont want to lose that. Like I always need reassurance that he loves me. Even though I KNOW he does! Make sense? I heard from him in email today.. he said he had a meeting at work. So I felt better that I heard from him. Hes getting a new place too, and I said to him yesterday...I wish I can move right in with you and he said no rush. I know there is no rush, that he has to get settled in himself first and whatnot....but I guess I wish I was helping him move or something. I want to help him out. He told me we will figure something out down the road about who moves where or whatever. Ive been friends with him online for 3 years, but we've been a couple since February of this year. We met for the first time in May.. he came here. It was soo natural to be with him...it was like we were never apart!! All good! I just wish we were always together to do stuff with. Hes a keeper!
francis Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 I think you've done really well in progressing with your relationship, you finally made the move from friends to bf/gf in Feb... Have you discussed the future at all, as in, a point when you may eventually be together for good? i was in an LDR for two years, but my boyfriend could never commit to me, he didnt think it was necessary to plan for the future and it drove me insane. It just wasnt enough. We ended three months ago...I think a discussion about the future is necessary sometimes just to give you some sort of direction, esp. during the hard times when you are missing him so much, otherwise you can feel like you are just floating in space... Remember to think of yourself, it's ok to be understanding and make allowances for him and what he wants, but if you are entitled to what you want out of the relationship too... You've got to be realistic and know the limitations of an LDR or you make arrangements to be with that person. You sound a lot like me in terms of needing a lot of reassurance and wanting to be close to your boyf...I realised my ex was never going to give me what I wanted...just make sure you are on the same page, relationship wise otherwise you may end up very frustrated and sad...I failed my second year of Uni, and it was mostly because of my LDR because the situation got to me so much... You just gotta measure how much you are affected by it and how much you can handle...
Author sinkerswim Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 Thanks Francis... Yes, we have discussed that we DO want to marry each other one day. And possibly by next year move in together. He said that is the realistic way of thinking. He has a great job and so do I... so, its tough on who would move where. But the way I feel now..I would move in with him in a heartbeat. I just felt sad when he said we dont need to rush anything yet. Which I guess is true. Its a major decision to make. Im soo sorry about your LDR..I really dont want that happening to us. Did you break up with him.. or did he end it? I remember a few times where he told me hes got his claws in me and I wont be losing him soo easily. and We would laugh. So I guess I should remember that. He always tells me Im so good to him. Which makes me feel good.
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