The Urbanyst Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 For the ladies who prefer older men. How do you go about meeting them and what do you do to attract them? I'm in my early 30's, but right now I prefer to date much younger women like 21-26.
basil67 Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 (edited) For the ladies who prefer older men. How do you go about meeting them and what do you do to attract them? I'm in my early 30's, but right now I prefer to date much younger women like 21-26. If you have the emotional maturity of the age of person you seek, just be in environments where the age group you are interested in go. They probably won't be bothered by an 8-10 year age gap. However, if you have the maturity level of the average 30 something, it will be far more difficult to find a younger person who can relate to you. Edited June 19, 2017 by basil67 6
mikeylo Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 Why do you prefer younger women? When someone prefers a certain age group or difference, there are psychological reasons behind it apart from 'agendas' ( for lack of appropriate word). Some fall before knowing the age as they either look younger or older but by then the age doesnt matter. For it to last long term, basic rules apply.There are positives and negatives. The biggest negative is usually from the outside than the couple itself.
TheWoman Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 Older men generally attract much younger women by flashing cash around - thats pretty much the deal isnt it? 1
JuneL Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 Older men generally attract much younger women by flashing cash around - thats pretty much the deal isnt it? I thought the OP was asking what younger women do to attract older men, instead of the other way round. My answer is: do nothing; those older men will find you 4
William Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 I'll leave the off-topic postings in place but will emphasize this insight: I thought the OP was asking what younger women do to attract older men, instead of the other way round. Thanks in advance for adhering to the topic!
crystalstevens Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 I thought the OP was asking what younger women do to attract older men, instead of the other way round. My answer is: do nothing; those older men will find you THIS. while I've only actively been with one older man (14 years older - I'm 26) I have to admit, it's not uncommon for older men to come up to me asking me out. They just come to me (sorry if that sounds conceited, that's just the way itd worked out for me) I've been told, I look like I have an "older soul" whatever that means... I don't dress provocatively, my music range varies from Jethro Tull to Lana Del Rey, I keep my makeup and try to wear it to the "natural look." I normally hangout at work, the gym or the grocery store lol. I won't go into any specifics, but I reside in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods of Las Vegas. This is where I just tend to frequent these men. To answer your question, OP, personally I don't do anything out of the ordinary. If you find someone that catches your eye, just go for it. It never hurts to take a chance.
basil67 Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 Sorry, my bad. I misread the original post. As a younger woman, I didn't need to do anything to attract an older man. 3
central Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 As an older man, I've never had to do anything to attract younger women, and I don't seek them out - they picked me. Most recent FWB for a year is 14 years younger, found me on OKCupid. The one before that got interested when we got to talking at a social event at a bar - she is 27 years younger, and that lasted 5 years. Before that was another about 25 years younger - more of a summer fling, also found me online. Wife is only 8 years younger - and picked me. Some women just prefer older men. Lucky me.
todreaminblue Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 Older men generally attract much younger women by flashing cash around - thats pretty much the deal isnt it? i have always liked older man because of their more gentlemen like status..their ethics ...their unaffectedness..their civility.....an older man is more likely to be honorable....for me personally old school cant be beat..i am not attracted to them for money....at all..they can take me to every free venue they want to....i will find them free venues to take me too..as long as i can have their time their conversation and learn something while feeling respected and appreciated.... im all good...it actually really disappoints me if they were to flash cash...i have had men pay for my time...thousands of dollars .......and i find it repulsive...had guys flash cash to buy em a drink...and i decline...its off putting....deb
JuneL Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 As an older man, I've never had to do anything to attract younger women, and I don't seek them out - they picked me. Most recent FWB for a year is 14 years younger, found me on OKCupid. The one before that got interested when we got to talking at a social event at a bar - she is 27 years younger, and that lasted 5 years. Before that was another about 25 years younger - more of a summer fling, also found me online. Wife is only 8 years younger - and picked me. Some women just prefer older men. Lucky me. Is your wife insecure about the fact that you used to date girls who were so much younger? Does she seem old to you in comparison?
JuneL Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Is your wife insecure about the fact that you used to date girls who were so much younger? Does she seem old to you in comparison? My apologies for asking such stupid questions. I saw that those much younger girls were your FWB or casual dates, but you ended up marrying someone "only" 8 years younger (I take it that you are a middle-aged man, so 8 years is not that much younger). Is it fair to say that those girls 14-27 years younger may not be serious long-term material after all? 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Just as an older women need not do much to attract younger men, older men need do very little to attract younger women. The heart wants what it wants and will inevitably seek it out. 1
carhill Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 Based on decades of experience and also some comments on the topic from my exW, one targeted idea is to bend over a few fenders at an antique or classic car show, the vast majority of which are attended by older men, and plenty are single. The younger guys who are into cars generally have different focuses and venues. Looking and behaving in a sexually attractive manner attracts all men, both young and old, but a younger woman in this scenario would want to focus in on older guys and exclude the younger ones so that requires drilling down to specific interactions and venues, of which the above is but one example. Oh, when bending over the fender to show some cleavage and that winning smile, please don't touch the OP's fender. Thanks. This example is drawn from real life from numerous interactions with women half my age or less, including daughters of some female friends. Work it ladies.
central Posted June 22, 2017 Posted June 22, 2017 My apologies for asking such stupid questions. I saw that those much younger girls were your FWB or casual dates, but you ended up marrying someone "only" 8 years younger (I take it that you are a middle-aged man, so 8 years is not that much younger). Is it fair to say that those girls 14-27 years younger may not be serious long-term material after all? No worries, and it's really not a stupid question, June. The youngest of my FWB was married to a man even older than me for 10 years, but he died in an accident, sadly. She was - and is - a very mature, intelligent, and motivated young woman with a good career. She could have been long-term material, as we got along amazingly well. I would be more concerned than she was about how our relationship would affect her a decade or two from now, but she's an adult and able to make good decisions - and has the experience of such relationships to understand the implications. The other factor, though, is that my wife and I have a open marriage, so my FWBs all were during our marriage (she had/has her own FWBs). My wife is extraordinary, in my view, so there wasn't any comparison happening that made her look less desirable - I would choose her over anyone else I've ever met or dated, no question. It was interesting in that my FWBs also became friends with my wife - and hers are my friends. I guess we're more poly in outlook, and always have been. My FWB and I were edging towards a poly relationship, which was fine with my wife, too. But my FWB met someone she really clicked with, and he wanted a traditional relationship - which was fine with her. BTW, he's only a few years younger than me, and I think she found a good man - I'm happy for them both. 1
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