eclipseIDE Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 My ex (we were together 7 years) recently got married (she was engaged after 8 months of meeting this person) married 14 months after meeting her husband. Our relationship in all honesty was a nightmare but didnt have to be. She was an extremely damaged person. People who knew her were surprised she was still alive.So I cant really fault her if she met someone who could change her and make her truly happy. Well she calls occasionally to see how Im doing or to tell me shes thinking about me? Well she called recently to tell me shes pregnant. I congratulated her and asked her if they were hoping for a boy or girl. So why would she call to tell me she was pregnant and that she was thinking about me? Any opinions would be appreciated.
NopeNah Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 My ex (we were together 7 years) recently got married (she was engaged after 8 months of meeting this person) married 14 months after meeting her husband. Our relationship in all honesty was a nightmare but didnt have to be. She was an extremely damaged person. People who knew her were surprised she was still alive.So I cant really fault her if she met someone who could change her and make her truly happy. Well she calls occasionally to see how Im doing or to tell me shes thinking about me? Well she called recently to tell me shes pregnant. I congratulated her and asked her if they were hoping for a boy or girl. So why would she call to tell me she was pregnant and that she was thinking about me? Any opinions would be appreciated. My opinion=She still is an "extremely damaged person" and you should block her from all facets of contacting you. 6
kgcolonel Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 She is looking to get a reaction....wants to see if you're still there for her.
Redhead14 Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 So why would she call to tell me she was pregnant and that she was thinking about me? Because -- She was an extremely damaged person and hasn't changed. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 Others have said it. Damaged...and feeling guilt about how things didn't work out. Move on.
Blanco Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 Even giving her the benefit of the doubt that she just didn't want you to hear it second hand, I would say this is the ideal time to congratulate her and then reiterate that it is not a good idea to have any sort of interaction with her. 2
springy Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 Well she calls occasionally to see how Im doing or to tell me shes thinking about me? It's big news to share for one of her occasional calls that you continue to answer. Maybe she considers you some sort of friend? 1
1fish2fish Posted June 20, 2017 Posted June 20, 2017 You spent 7 years of your lives together. Even if it was a nightmare, it was still a long investment. Maybe she does consider you as a friend, like Springy said, or would like to. The question is, how do YOU feel about it, and do YOU want a friendship?
Author eclipseIDE Posted June 20, 2017 Author Posted June 20, 2017 You spent 7 years of your lives together. Even if it was a nightmare, it was still a long investment. Maybe she does consider you as a friend, like Springy said, or would like to. The question is, how do YOU feel about it, and do YOU want a friendship? Thanks everyone for the feedback. I agree it was a long investment. Well she does say she can talk to me about things she cant talk to anyone else about. She has told me some very sad/disgusting stories about her life. Im not 100% sure but I think her new husband doesnt know about her past or the rough life shes had. Im pretty sure shes living in some ways a facade. I hope its not that and that she has been able to put her demons to rest and in some ways I was able to help her do that. As far as friends I dont think that would healthy at all. Especially with a baby coming. If she attempts to call again Ill tell her I wish her all the best but she needs to share these things with her husband. 2
Sweetfish Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 Its great she trapped the next guy with a baby before her true self shows up.. good for him. I bet anything when you both meet she was amazing and her true self finally showed its ugly head. The calm before the storm. I would assume she is contacting you because she enjoys any attention good or bad.
Marc878 Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 The real question is why would you continue to have something like this in your life?
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