frustratedgent Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 OK, here is the story. My ex broke up with me roughly 2 months ago. She said that she was experiencing medical problems at the time and needed to concentrate on herself. After a few weeks of no seeing each other she told me that she didn't miss me. Well, after being broken up for a few weeks I spoke to her and she said that all of her medical problems disappeared when we stopped seeing each other. She also insinuated that she had been with other people in the two weeks that we had been broken up at that point. Well, it has now been a month since last contact. I have been on dates and have spoken to other girls. I have concentrated on myself and done things for me. I even have days when I wake up thinking that today is going to be a good day. I have been through the "I miss her because she was familiar" stage, the " I miss her for her" stage and the " I miss her because I don't know if anyone will want me again" stage. I now think that I miss her for her, and it is killing me. I wrote her a letter the night that we ended it. No response. I wrote her mom a letter a few weeks ago. No response. I know that we had problems, but what relationship doesn't have problems. I am very straightlaced when it comes to sex. I do not believe in the separation of love and sex. She told me that I should try to figure it out, I might like it. I want her to know that I still miss her, and want to work on things, but I know that she doesn't have any feeling for me. She told a mutual friend that the break up was all her fault, that I did nothing wrong, and that she knows that she will never find anyone who will ever treat her as well as me. My question is, when do you stop wanting to hear from your ex? I expect to get a call, an email, a text, something almost everyday. I know it is not coming but I think that I want it. I want to be able to turn her away like she did me, but I don't think that I could. I know that it takes a long time to get over a relationship, and that there are good days and bad. I just want to see if anyone else out there feels like I do. Thanks
pippen_2k Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Man whilst your in pain, you always check your phone with anticipation that maybe..just maybe, she will send you a text or contact you... but 99% of the time, you will get nothing from her. This could last for months, and it wont go away till you get over her. And to be hounest its probably the best that she dosent contact you. Cause she really has nothing you wanna hear anymore.
ciara12step Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 its been 5 weeks for me, and i just found out last night she's talkin to someone new, right after she swore up and down all that she wanted was to be single, alone, and deal with personal issues .. so much for that. break ups suck
Author frustratedgent Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 The last time I spoke to her was about 2 weeks after we officially broke up. In that time she went away with 4 of her girlfriends to the Jersey Shore. She did not deny having any kind of relations with anyone while she was away, which to me is the same as telling me that she did. She fed me the same line about just wanting to spend time with herself and her girlfriends. SHe said that no one will ever treat her as well as I did. SHe said that she was the only one at fault for us breaking up. She said that when she is with me she felt that she needed to take of me, that i needed to be occupied. I sit here and wonder what I would say to her if she called. Sure, there are questions that I would want to ask her, but do I really want to know the answers. Probably not. And because of that I refuse to make the first move to get in touch with her.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by pippen_2k Man whilst your in pain, you always check your phone with anticipation that maybe..just maybe, she will send you a text or contact you... but 99% of the time, you will get nothing from her. This could last for months, and it wont go away till you get over her. And to be hounest its probably the best that she dosent contact you. Cause she really has nothing you wanna hear anymore. I second this advice.. But I will add that the quicker that you believe that it is over and you and her were not meant to be the quicker you will stop wanting her to call you.
nyr_fan Posted August 14, 2005 Posted August 14, 2005 I do the same thing with the damn phone. Even though we havent talked i a couple of weeks, I still check the phone to see if she called. The funny thing is, if she does call, Im not going to answer. Dosen't make much sense, but I'm trying the no contact thing to try and get over her more easily. Whatever happens, happens.
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