jason922 Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 I'm in one hell of a dilemma. And i could do with some advice. So here is my story, I met my current girlfriend (let's call her Lainey) when I was dating my ex, this was two years ago. My ex and I were having issues at the time and the relationship wasn't working. So I formed a bond/friendship with Lainey. We had lots in common. We had a great friendship for two months. But soon we started falling for each other. And things got heated up (we kissed, and had sex). Terrible decision on my part. I, however, came clean with my girlfriend about what had happened. She asked me to choose between her and Lainey. Even though I was crazy about Lainey,I choose to stick with my gf and hopefully work things out with her. But after choosing her, my girlfriend dumped me two days later saying she wanted to be alone. I was happy, really, I was because now I could get a chance to be with Lainey, the woman I considered the love of my life. How I felt about her I'd never felt for anyone else. So the next day, I told Lainey what happened. We agreed to start a relationship. And we have been together for two years and it's been freaking amazing, still is. Here is the issue now, my ex contacted me two months ago saying she misses me and wants to try again. And I've been thinking about it and I feel I need closure from the ex. I feel if don't take the chance to try work things out with her, I'll keep wondering what if? what if? However, I'm still madly in love with my girlfriend. And what we have is solid, long-haul. I see myself marrying her and having kids with her all that. There's nothing wrong with us. Except I'm gravitating towards my ex and want to give her a chance to get closure, and I feel I miss her and I want to be with her. But it will take a lot of work and I'm not sure it will work out. But if it does, it will be brilliant. I just can't decide who to go with or stick with. ps: My girlfriend knows about this. I've been completely honest with her. What should I do?
elaine567 Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 Sounds to me that your ex is to your mind, "proper" gf/wife/long term material and that Lainey is the OW/rebound/temporary type of material, so you feel obliged to try again with your ex as she is most likely the real deal for you. I could be wrong???
Been Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 You make no sense at all. First for crazy in love with your current girlfriend enough to cheat on your ex with. You tell your ex and she breaks up with you clearing the way to date your current girlfriend. Now your ex contacts you and you want closure? Sounds like honestly yo don't know what you want. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 If you were as in love with your girlfriend as you claim, you wouldn't have any doubts about turning your ex down. It wouldn't even be up for consideration. My honest advice? You need to be single for a while. You're not committed in your heart to your current girlfriend, and you weren't committed to your ex either. 5
SunnyWeather Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 OP, you kinda sound like a hot mess. I suspect this is a personality trait and will always seek someone else outside your committed relationship to fill a need. You prob should drop both and spare everyone the heartache and figure out if monogamy is for you.
aileD Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 If this was true:I'm still madly in love with my girlfriend. And what we have is solid, long-haul. I see myself marrying her and having kids with her all that. There's nothing wrong with us. You wouldn't be considering the ex at all I think you just like having two girls wanting you. You're flattered. You probably should let them both go. Why? Because you don't love either one of them enough to consider not being with someone else
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