purplehydro Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 Hi, so I'm an 18 year old girl and I have this friend I've known for a year or so. We first met at school and it took me a couple months, but I started to like him a lot. Eventually we began talking a little bit and became alright friends. I fell in love with his friend though and we began dating and then broke up after a few months the same time my friend dated and then broke up with his girlfriend. I started texting him months ago, but he never texted me first until just a bit ago, after I broke up with my ex. Over the course of time I've known him, I always get super super nervous to see him and texting him makes me really happy. I think about him a lot and wish we were better friends so we could hang out more. It's weird though because I'm not sure if I actually have a genuine crush or just am awed by him. He's the smartest person I know and just amazing in a lot of ways. But sometimes I see him and think about how he actually is and I feel like I don't actually care about him that much. But then a few days ago I finally got the courage to tell him how I really felt. It was a simple conversation and went exactly as I predicted. He didn't tell me whether he felt the same or not. But the interesting thing is that I don't really care. I didn't feel the need to ask him, and when I think about it, I have no desire to date him. Then just recently I actually regretted telling him how I felt because it doesn't seem accurate. So I'm just confused on what it is I feel for him. The thing though is that with me, I have never really wanted to date anyone and kind of feel indifferent to romance. With my ex, he told me he liked me first (and it's funny because I responded to that the same way my friend did when I told him how I felt) I was just like "hmm" and "what do you mean" and then my ex asked how I felt about him and I felt myself shrugging and saying that a I liked him too. Because I did have a slight crush on him. And then he asked if I wanted to be his girlfriend, and I took two days to answer because I didn't really know what I wanted. So I just said yes. And during our relationship I realized more and more that I had no interest in serious relationships and getting married and stuff. So I wonder if that's why I feel the way I do about my friend. I like him, but don't want to do anything about it and it's confusing me on how I really feel. If you love someone, wouldn't you want to be with them? Wouldn't want to be close to them? I'm confused. Sorry this is so long and weird. If someone could decipher any of this and help me out that would be great. Oh, and in addition, I kind of feel like I want my friend to say he likes me back, but I don't want to do anything about it. I just want him to like me too. If you're curious about our conversation it went something like this: Me: I just want to get off my chest that I like you. So yeah. Him: Hmm what do you mean Me: Like strong feelings Him: Oh but (name of ex) Me: I liked him a and you but that's not why we broke up Him: Hmm when though I'm confused Me: Beginning of last year Him: What the Me: What Him: I just didn't know Me: Oh well now you do Him: Yeah Me: It doesn't mean anything though just telling Him: Yeah it's interesting though Me: Weird So that was it. Basically he was just genuinely confused and surprised because I obviously am not the kind of person who expresses that sort of thing. ...do you think he likes me back? Should I ask? Idk. I'm scared to text him again. 1
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