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Why do women care what other women think so much?

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Shining One Established Member

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When I used to go clubbing, I had a much easier time getting dances, phone numbers, dates, and/or company for the evening when I had my very attractive wing woman with me. She was the one who brought this concept to my attention.

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todreaminblue Established Member

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I don't have a good answer for you. But, did you know that there's a phenonmenon where two women who move in together may find their menstrual cycles start to synchronize. Maybe in competition to be both in estrus should a man appear on the scene.

 

 

i have three daughters and a sister..two fo my daughters live with me an dont daughter and my sister dont......we all cycle together...and it truly sucks..my house is a constant menstrual cycle.......deb

Imajerk17 Established Member

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Well, I tend to agree with the guys and @smackie about this. What they are saying has been my experience too.

 

I have noticed women being more responsive/have their guard down to guys who are taken or have another woman around them, no matter how attractive the guy might have been himself. I think the reason for that is if nothing else, they tend to take another woman's approval of him as some sort of certificate that the guy is at least "normal", aka not a creep.

 

It makes all the sense in the world, really. High social status is a turn-on to many women, and what better way to ascertain someone's social status than seeing how other people respond to him?

 

But I don't think this happens *consciously*. I also really don't think women with their heads on straight anyway go by committee when it comes to their dealings with a guy they ALREADY know well--e.g., becoming exclusive with someone or getting engaged. (This is a different matter though from a woman being more responsive to a guy she **doesn't know that well** if she sees other women like him. Which question were we answering again?)

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jay1983 Established Member

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That's exactly what The OM/OW forum reflects. Someone the other day wrote a comment on a thread about about what open marriage is like for a man, advising men in open marriage would be more likely to get some play if they were to pretend they're cheating rather and be honest about their open marriage.

mortensorchid Established Member

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I think women care because they are jealous of other women. Studies show that women actually look at one another more than men look at women, not for the same reasons. Men look at women to "check them out", women look at other women to evaluate each other (looks, body, face, etc.) because they are looking at how they measure up to one another.

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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This experience of your was the exact opposite of the OP's premise. So you were with a "nerdy/unpopular" girl in HS, which means she's unattractive and not beautiful, right? According to the OP's premise, other girls should have lowered your value, and should be beating your a$$ instead, no?

 

Nope....

 

She was actually quite attractive, slim/petite with DD tits...She just didn't wear the same clothes as the more popular girls, didn't smoke weed and hang with our group of "popular" guys..The popular guys loved her(for obvious reasons:laugh:) and welcomed her into our group of guys...The girls couldn't stand her...I dunno, it could have all centered by one particular girl that was in the popular group that was a real bad ass, constantly coming after me, and while she was kind of cool, I didnt find her attractive..oh well..

 

But I have experienced this type of odd female territorial behavior in other arenas..Without going into too much detail, it involved women that worked for me, and nothing more...It made no sense...

 

TFY

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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I think women care because they are jealous of other women. Studies show that women actually look at one another more than men look at women, not for the same reasons. Men look at women to "check them out", women look at other women to evaluate each other (looks, body, face, etc.) because they are looking at how they measure up to one another.

 

I was visiting family today, and they had one of those "Housewives of Wherever" on the TV...Im glancing at it(never watched an episode) and all it seemed like is one women trying to outdo the other....usually with male attention as the goal...

 

Maybe they are dramatizing it a bit, but no doubt its real..

 

TFY

JuneL Established Member

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Nope....

 

She was actually quite attractive, slim/petite with DD tits...She just didn't wear the same clothes as the more popular girls, didn't smoke weed and hang with our group of "popular" guys..The popular guys loved her(for obvious reasons:laugh:) and welcomed her into our group of guys...The girls couldn't stand her...I dunno, it could have all centered by one particular girl that was in the popular group that was a real bad ass, constantly coming after me, and while she was kind of cool, I didnt find her attractive..oh well..

 

But I have experienced this type of odd female territorial behavior in other arenas..Without going into too much detail, it involved women that worked for me, and nothing more...It made no sense...

 

TFY

 

I still don't see how your example is related to the OP's premise. Did having an attractive but unpopular girlfriend make you more or attractive to other girls in this case? How was it even related to the other girls beating up your then girlfriend? I thought your story was only saying those girls were jealous that she the nerdy girl had an attractive/popular boyfriend?

Sweetfish Established Member

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I was visiting family today, and they had one of those "Housewives of Wherever" on the TV...Im glancing at it(never watched an episode) and all it seemed like is one women trying to outdo the other....usually with male attention as the goal...

 

Maybe they are dramatizing it a bit, but no doubt its real..

 

TFY

 

 

I find it amusing how some of the female poster come in here and try to cover up blatant common female traits... simply because they too are female. No one is saying all women are such..but enough to fulfill a common denominator within the gender.

 

 

Men will straight up admit to our common denominator.. but not all of us are the same.

 

I wouldn't be surprise to see someone say men escort just as much as women just to save face. :lmao:

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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I still don't see how your example is related to the OP's premise. Did having an attractive but unpopular girlfriend make you more or attractive to other girls in this case? How was it even related to the other girls beating up your then girlfriend? I thought your story was only saying those girls were jealous that she the nerdy girl had an attractive/popular boyfriend?

 

Who knows and who cares at this point....It was 30 friggin years ago...

 

I guess the point being is why did they see it in themselves to resort to actual physical violence against someone who never said a word to them??, Was it just because they perceived she was an outsider trying to "muscle in" to their turf??

 

Why did they care?? She didn't "steal" me away from one of them....I had no ties to any of them at that time..

 

Or maybe its something else..*shrug* .I'm no expert on female behavior, but Ive lived long enough to witness patterns of behavior that are too consistent to be just random..

 

TFY

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S_A Established Member

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So I noticed a long time ago that I attract more women when I'm seen with other women. Now I found an article that confirms it:

 

Women are more attracted to men with beautiful girlfriends | Daily Mail Online

 

I'm interested in women's perspective on this. As I guy, when it comes to finding women attractive, I don't really give a flying turd what other men think. I either find a woman attractive or I don't. Other men's opinions mean nothing.

 

Ladies.. can you explain why you need a board meeting with other women before you can figure out if you like a man or not? lol

 

Because nature programmed women's lives to revolve around measuring sticks. Sorry ladies, I adore you, but it's true :lmao:

knabe Established Member

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Yes....True...

 

but there is a big difference in how genders approach this...and I have experienced it personally...

 

If a woman is with a good looking/well built guy, other women don't look at it as a good thing for that woman...They will vie for that attractive man's attention....They may outright flirt with that guy in front of his woman...They will cut that other woman down and use terms like "gross, what does HE see in HER !!"....And it can get downright devious and mean...

 

For a short time I was with a nerdy/unpopular girl in HS...What happened? The popular girls took her out back of the school and beat her ass....For no reason other than I was with her....She wouldn't hurt a fly..While it doesn't get to that extreme as adults, the general behavior is kinda the same..

 

Men? Show up to an event or gathering with an attractive woman and all the other guys are nodding with respect, slapping backs, tipping caps, "good job, bro", and there isn't a fraction of the crap that women do..Non existent...

 

I'm sure you have heard the saying, right??

 

Who's the most attractive man in the room?? The one that's taken...

 

 

TFY

 

First, how awful of those girls - yikes! Second, props to you for dating a girl who wasn't cookie cutter. You must actually have some depth.

 

Third, while men high five each other when the woman is attractive....when a man dates a conventionally UNattractive woman, their bros are typically pretty rude about it. Not to the girl, but with their buddy in private. Not all men, of course, but a significant number.

 

How nice it would be if we could just be happy when our friends are happy.

CptInsano Established Member

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Third, while men high five each other when the woman is attractive....when a man dates a conventionally UNattractive woman, their bros are typically pretty rude about it. Not to the girl, but with their buddy in private. Not all men, of course, but a significant number.

 

That is weird. My friends and I hardly talk about our dates or SOs at all, neither in a positive nor negative sense. Much of the talk centers around technology, sports, food, work, politics or sometimes music.

Overtaxed Established Member

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The most honest and direct post here!

 

If other women see value in a man... a woman will qualify another woman's desire. Most women do not care what men view as attractive..they only view what other woman view as attractive. A compliment from another woman holds more weight than a compliment from a man. (point blank)

 

IE: The article is true

 

It's why PU is so centered on "value"; making yourself more valuable in the eyes of your "target". Status symbols do that (how many men care about a Rolex vs how many men who own them because women care about them and it makes it easier to "pick up"). High value friends do that (rich men, famous men, good looking men). Money does that, if you can show it off the right way (cars, houses, etc) without being crass.

 

I agree, the article is true; I've seen it myself in action (learning how to indicate value and then seeing different reactions from women). All women? No. Most? Perhaps. Some? Yes, without question.

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The most affectionate my ex ever was to me was after an old flame kicked off at me, I literally walked away from her and took my ex with my but she was in tears saying she loved me and didn't want anything to get in between us.

 

Also, when I was with my ex, out with the lads, I could have gotten with so many girls, maybe it's because women have a sixth sense that you aren't actually trying to pull them.

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