Why do women care what other women think so much?

[The Urbanyst]

So I noticed a long time ago that I attract more women when I'm seen with other women. Now I found an article that confirms it:

 

Women are more attracted to men with beautiful girlfriends | Daily Mail Online

 

I'm interested in women's perspective on this. As I guy, when it comes to finding women attractive, I don't really give a flying turd what other men think. I either find a woman attractive or I don't. Other men's opinions mean nothing.

 

Ladies.. can you explain why you need a board meeting with other women before you can figure out if you like a man or not? lol

[basil67]

Daily Mail is a tabloid mag which publishes rubbish click bait. Don't take their articles seriously. And 245 women is hardly a thorough survey.

 

I'm woman and was completely unaware of women being like this.

[Popsicle]

There's being competitive and there's liking to show off. Some women (and men) are inspired by this.

[todreaminblue]

i dont need a board meeting bar me myself and i....i have internal board meetings on choosing a guy.....i do however like my friends and family to respect the guy i am with..so he ought to be at least respectful to them....i dont care what other men think and i dont care what other women think..they aint dating him...i am.....deb

[CptInsano]

Daily Mail is a tabloid mag which publishes rubbish click bait. Don't take their articles seriously. And 245 women is hardly a thorough survey.

 

I'm woman and was completely unaware of women being like this.

 

I agree about the quality of the source, but it does confirm my own experiences. Women are competitive and find you more attractive if you are with somebody. A few of them will even flirt with you right in front of the woman they are competing with.

[Arieswoman]

If I was to attach any credence to this article, I would take the logic to the next step and say that is why some women find married men so attractive.

You could argue that some women think that because a man is married he therefore has good qualities such as reliability, commitability etc.

 

Fortunately I'm smart enough not to attach any value whatsoever to the online garbage promulgated by this silly paper.

 

I couldn't give a monkey's coconut what other women think about my choice in men. End of.

[elaine567]

I actually think a lot of men also worry about what other men think of their gf/wife/partner.

They see their choice of partner as a reflection on themselves and their value as a man, so they do not want to be seen as wanting to other men.

 

I also think the people we surround ourselves with, do somewhat reflect who we are.

So it it no surprise that a woman would form an opinion on a man based on his exes and the friends (male and female) he chooses to hang about with.

It may not only be attractiveness though, it may be a whole lot of qualities in the people he hangs about with that may be the deciding factor for a woman.

[Maggie4]

I don't have a good answer for you. But, did you know that there's a phenonmenon where two women who move in together may find their menstrual cycles start to synchronize. Maybe in competition to be both in estrus should a man appear on the scene.

[thefooloftheyear]

I actually think a lot of men also worry about what other men think of their gf/wife/partner.

 

 

Yes....True...

 

but there is a big difference in how genders approach this...and I have experienced it personally...

 

If a woman is with a good looking/well built guy, other women don't look at it as a good thing for that woman...They will vie for that attractive man's attention....They may outright flirt with that guy in front of his woman...They will cut that other woman down and use terms like "gross, what does HE see in HER !!"....And it can get downright devious and mean...

 

For a short time I was with a nerdy/unpopular girl in HS...What happened? The popular girls took her out back of the school and beat her ass....For no reason other than I was with her....She wouldn't hurt a fly..While it doesn't get to that extreme as adults, the general behavior is kinda the same..

 

Men? Show up to an event or gathering with an attractive woman and all the other guys are nodding with respect, slapping backs, tipping caps, "good job, bro", and there isn't a fraction of the crap that women do..Non existent...

 

I'm sure you have heard the saying, right??

 

Who's the most attractive man in the room?? The one that's taken...

 

 

TFY

[CptInsano]

[...]

Men? Show up to an event or gathering with an attractive woman and all the other guys are nodding with respect, slapping backs, tipping caps, "good job, bro", and there isn't a fraction of the crap that women do..Non existent...

[...]

 

I was going out with a very attractive girl for a while, and that didn't change the perception of me in the eyes of my male friends at all. The questions were more along the lines of where I found a woman like that.

 

Female friends and acquaintances had a far more negative responses.

 

I also had a long relationship who was a recovering anorexic. When talking about pressure to appear beautiful she told me outright that it had nothing to do with looking good for men, it was all about comparing herself to other women.

[TheAntiHero]

For a short time I was with a nerdy/unpopular girl in HS...What happened? The popular girls took her out back of the school and beat her ass....For no reason other than I was with her....She wouldn't hurt a fly..While it doesn't get to that extreme as adults, the general behavior is kinda the same..

 

Men? Show up to an event or gathering with an attractive woman and all the other guys are nodding with respect, slapping backs, tipping caps, "good job, bro", and there isn't a fraction of the crap that women do..Non existent...

 

That's brutal, man but I believe it.

 

On the second paragraph, I've seen plenty of guys get jealous themselves around this friend who had too much confidence for his own good.

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[elaine567]

That's brutal, man but I believe it.

 

On the second paragraph, I've seen plenty of guys get jealous themselves around this friend who had too much confidence for his own good.

 

Agreed. the man with the attractive female only gains respect from the other guys if THEY respect him first, if they don't, then it is a different story.

 

Similarly women will not mess with the bf of someone they respect or see as deserving or someone they see as "better than".

 

The problem occurs when the attractive guy is seen with this woman, who other women (or one women in particular maybe) look down upon, for some reason.

He may then be seen as fair game. Ego takes over. "I am much better than her, he will choose me if given the choice..."

They then may see that as an opportunity to steal, in the same way some men may attempt to do, when an attractive woman is seen out with a "loser".

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[CptInsano]

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The problem occurs when the attractive guy is seen with this woman, who other women (or one women in particular maybe) look down upon, for some reason.

He may then be seen as fair game. Ego takes over. "I am much better than her, he will choose me if given the choice..."

They then may see that as an opportunity to steal, in the same way some men may attempt to do, when an attractive woman is seen out with a "loser".

 

Doesn't match my experience to be honest. It is enough when the guy's new woman is distinctly different. She can be attractive and successful, but that doesn't matter if she differs too far from established expectations.

 

In college I used to hang out with Group A. The women of that group were friendly, but I never got anywhere with them. So I moved to Group B, and had better luck. The women were just different, but not better or worse. At that point of time women in Group A gave me a lot of flak, questioning my motives.

[elaine567]

Doesn't match my experience to be honest. It is enough when the guy's new woman is distinctly different. She can be attractive and successful, but that doesn't matter if she differs too far from established expectations.

 

In college I used to hang out with Group A. The women of that group were friendly, but I never got anywhere with them. So I moved to Group B, and had better luck. The women were just different, but not better or worse. At that point of time women in Group A gave me a lot of flak, questioning my motives.

 

Yes, because the women in Group A "looked down" on those in Group B, it doesn't really matter what your impressions of those women were, nor if they were objectively "better" or just "equal", it is where they stood in the "pecking order" of the women involved that mattered.

[smackie9]

So I noticed a long time ago that I attract more women when I'm seen with other women. Now I found an article that confirms it:

 

Women are more attracted to men with beautiful girlfriends | Daily Mail Online

 

I'm interested in women's perspective on this. As I guy, when it comes to finding women attractive, I don't really give a flying turd what other men think. I either find a woman attractive or I don't. Other men's opinions mean nothing.

 

Ladies.. can you explain why you need a board meeting with other women before you can figure out if you like a man or not? lol

PU artists know this to be a fact. It's called bring up your value to women. It's all in our psyche as a means of finding the best genes. It triggers us to notice that if other women find this man to be of interest, then there must be something there worth investigating for our own need.

 

But this isn't limited to men, it can also be about fashion, possessions, etc....it's similar to hysteria, the spread of fear amount a group. It's a spread of "Gotta have it" if everyone else wants it. It's how our brains work. It's connected to how we are driven to survive as a species.

[guest569]

Ladies.. can you explain why you need a board meeting with other women before you can figure out if you like a man or not? lol

 

I dont.

 

Society has many misconceptions about women (another you touched on about sex apparently not being important to women).

 

I would avoid men that are surrounded by women and love attention and flirting. Not interested in that drama.

[basil67]

So why have I not had women trying to steal my partner/be mean to me because of my relationship with him over the years?

[The Urbanyst]

Yes....True...

 

but there is a big difference in how genders approach this...and I have experienced it personally...

 

If a woman is with a good looking/well built guy, other women don't look at it as a good thing for that woman...They will vie for that attractive man's attention....They may outright flirt with that guy in front of his woman...They will cut that other woman down and use terms like "gross, what does HE see in HER !!"....And it can get downright devious and mean...

 

For a short time I was with a nerdy/unpopular girl in HS...What happened? The popular girls took her out back of the school and beat her ass....For no reason other than I was with her....She wouldn't hurt a fly..While it doesn't get to that extreme as adults, the general behavior is kinda the same..

 

Men? Show up to an event or gathering with an attractive woman and all the other guys are nodding with respect, slapping backs, tipping caps, "good job, bro", and there isn't a fraction of the crap that women do..Non existent...

 

I'm sure you have heard the saying, right??

 

Who's the most attractive man in the room?? The one that's taken...

 

 

TFY

 

My experience as been the same.

 

I know people are attacking the article because of the source, but that article is true. Does't matter who is saying it.

[somanymistakes]

Except the article is NOT true, but you're choosing to reject any evidence that doesn't fit into your worldview.

 

Many women don't behave that way at all. Some do.

 

Many men DO behave exactly that way, and have more interest in taken women. And other men do not.

[anika99]

Except the article is NOT true, but you're choosing to reject any evidence that doesn't fit into your worldview.

 

Many women don't behave that way at all. Some do.

 

Many men DO behave exactly that way, and have more interest in taken women. And other men do not.

 

I agree. I don't doubt that when a man has a beautiful woman he becomes more desirable to a certain type of women, but that's not all women. I think the women who would try to "steal" him just because he has a beautiful girlfriend are women who have big egos and yet are paradoxically insecure in that they look to shallow means to glean their self worth and boost their self esteem. One can't say that applies to all women just like I can't say that all men will hit on their friends girlfriends just because I've had this happen to me, which I have.

[Sweetfish]

PU artists know this to be a fact. It's called bring up your value to women. It's all in our psyche as a means of finding the best genes. It triggers us to notice that if other women find this man to be of interest, then there must be something there worth investigating for our own need.

 

But this isn't limited to men, it can also be about fashion, possessions, etc....it's similar to hysteria, the spread of fear amount a group. It's a spread of "Gotta have it" if everyone else wants it. It's how our brains work. It's connected to how we are driven to survive as a species.

 

 

The most honest and direct post here!

 

If other women see value in a man... a woman will qualify another woman's desire. Most women do not care what men view as attractive..they only view what other woman view as attractive. A compliment from another woman holds more weight than a compliment from a man. (point blank)

 

IE: The article is true

[cocorico]

PU artists know this to be a fact. It's called bring up your value to women. It's all in our psyche as a means of finding the best genes. It triggers us to notice that if other women find this man to be of interest, then there must be something there worth investigating for our own need.

 

But this isn't limited to men, it can also be about fashion, possessions, etc....it's similar to hysteria, the spread of fear amount a group. It's a spread of "Gotta have it" if everyone else wants it. It's how our brains work. It's connected to how we are driven to survive as a species.

 

Wow. I've never been like this at all. Guess I must be a man. When classmates fancied a guy at school, I could never see why. I always fancied someone very different. Likewise as I got older. I'd click with people who weren't the popular ones, fancy the ones who weren't being lusted over by everyone else, and I would certainly never deign to compete for anyone or anything.

 

I have noticed that the peer pressure thing (fashion, possessions) seems much more common among boys than girls, though. My H's son *had* to wear the clothing label his friends were wearing, get his hair cut at the salon they used, play the same computer games as them, listen to the same obscure bands they liked... Daughter, not so much. She dressed to stand out from the crowd (if they wore black, she went bright), listened to old school music, chose interests that were different to the rest of the girls so that she was noticeably different and "more interesting". It wasn't just that she fancied other things, it was quite a conscious choice on her part not to be just "one of the crowd", whereas he was all about not standing out, of being seen to blend in.

[JuneL]

 

For a short time I was with a nerdy/unpopular girl in HS...What happened? The popular girls took her out back of the school and beat her ass....For no reason other than I was with her....She wouldn't hurt a fly..While it doesn't get to that extreme as adults, the general behavior is kinda the same..

 

TFY

 

This experience of your was the exact opposite of the OP's premise. So you were with a "nerdy/unpopular" girl in HS, which means she's unattractive and not beautiful, right? According to the OP's premise, other girls should have lowered your value, and should be beating your a$$ instead, no?

[JuneL]

The only reason I could think of was that women generally find those guys with beautiful girlfriends having good tastes (for looks).

 

So I noticed a long time ago that I attract more women when I'm seen with other women. Now I found an article that confirms it:

 

Women are more attracted to men with beautiful girlfriends | Daily Mail Online

 

I'm interested in women's perspective on this. As I guy, when it comes to finding women attractive, I don't really give a flying turd what other men think. I either find a woman attractive or I don't. Other men's opinions mean nothing.

 

Ladies.. can you explain why you need a board meeting with other women before you can figure out if you like a man or not? lol

[smackie9]

Actually women are more prone to be attracted to men who are taken, wearing a ring, with a baby, than men interested in taken/married women, woman with a baby. I'm not say all women are like this BUT the ones that are out number the men who are.

 

I had a BF that was really attractive...friends, school buddies, strangers...had np chasing him even tho I was just standing there with him.

 

This has happened to me more than once when dating guys.

Edited June 18, 2017 by smackie9