ltjg45 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 I have a small dilemma and I would like some opinions. This past Monday night when I came to work, I noticed one of my co-workers smiling quite a bit at me not long after I started my overnight shift at 10 PM. During the short time we worked together that night, she was being quite playful and smiling around me befote she clocked off at midnight. She was even telling me about the essays she had to write during college, which I didn't expect her to share with me. Considering the obvious signs that I got, I came to the conclusion that she liked me in some form and have asked her out for a date right after she clocked out that night. She seem quite excited when I did this. We exchanged phone numbers and told her that I would text her at some point in the next couple of days. Unfortunately, not long after I got her number, I lost it between then and my 1 hour break at 4 AM in the morning whrn I was readu to add her number to my phone. I searched everywhere that I could have went between those times to find it. No such luck. I was thinking, "Great. I actually got a woman interested and can't even keep up with her number for a few hours". When you think about it, that was a big failure on my part even though I do this quite a bit. Well, she was here Thursday and Friday night. On Thursday, I tried to talk to her about this but she most likely wasn't in the mood due to how busy we was at the front lanes. She still spoke to me as a coworker but never had a chance to talk in private to some form. Friday night, when I came in for work, I saw her eating at the McDonald's inside of my workplace. I naturally assumed she was either on break and I doubt I would get a better chance to talk to her than now so I went up to her and mentioned to her that I lost her number and I would have to ask for it again. She told me that she would give it to me later tonight. I took her up on her word and left to start my shift. Since then, she came back from her break, got back to work, and never spoke to me concerning this or given me her number since then. She did speak to me as a coworker but that was it. Keep in mind that despite she has my number that she hasn't texted or called me at all between Monday and Friday. Add this with the fact that she didn't give me her number again after I asked her is telling me that she had lost interest and I need to leave it alone. I need some advice. Should I bother asking again or just move on? Something tells me she wasn't that interested to begin with and I am approaching a lead that heads to a dead end.
TheAntiHero Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 "Something tells me she wasn't that interested to begin with..." Me thinks this is your intuition talking; I would listen to it if I were you.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 She might think you were just playing games. I mean, she gives you her number enthusiastically expecting a text and then.. nothing! A week later you finally tell her that you lost her number, but unfortunately the damage is done. She might not believe you are sincere. If you are genuinely interested in her then you are going to have to prove it by going the extra mile to impress her and win back her good opinion.
Author ltjg45 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 "Something tells me she wasn't that interested to begin with..." Me thinks this is your intuition talking; I would listen to it if I were you. In these situations, I do listen to my intuition. However, it also why I am a 30 year old virgin. Apparently, my intuition is worthless when it comes to dating women. She might think you were just playing games. I mean, she gives you her number enthusiastically expecting a text and then.. nothing! A week later you finally tell her that you lost her number, but unfortunately the damage is done. She might not believe you are sincere. If you are genuinely interested in her then you are going to have to prove it by going the extra mile to impress her and win back her good opinion. While I have no issues putting in some more effort, how much more should I do? While I did screw up, I also have no time to play games myself. If she lost interest, I wish she told me as such tonight and I can put it behind me. Normally, I would just leave her alone but this is also the biggest lead I got and she is also the first woman I asked out this year. Also, it is not like I am successful in dating to begin with. If she is going to continue dangling a carrot at me for the next 2-3 months as punishment for my error, then I will just leave her be in a few days.
preraph Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 I'd stop trying. She knows how to reach you and could have given your her number. She may have regretted she gave it to you to begin with despite how she acted excited. Women usually pretend to be happy about it because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But who knows, maybe she's flaking too and will come back around. i wouldn't keep chasing her though.
Maggie4 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 However, it also why I am a 30 year old virgin. Losing girls' numbers is why. Other men can tell you to just move on, but they're not going around losing numbers. You're different. Why don't you ask her if she still has yours? Approach her with your phone in hand. These days people just do a text/call face to face then the numbers are both recorded.
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Something isn't quite right.......I suspect she told someone about you asking her out and fed her some info about you. Does anyone you work with know about your sexual situation?
Author ltjg45 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 I'd stop trying. She knows how to reach you and could have given your her number. She may have regretted she gave it to you to begin with despite how she acted excited. Women usually pretend to be happy about it because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But who knows, maybe she's flaking too and will come back around. i wouldn't keep chasing her though. I have actually considered this myself and have been on the back of my mind for a while. Outside of that spike of interest on Monday, it has been usual coworker conversation since then on Thursday and Friday. It also doesn't help that it was very busy up front and there was no chance of either of us goofing around even for 5 minutes. Despite that, I at least did find some way to stop by and talk to her about losing her number before I started my shift Friday because I am still interested. Perhaps she just didn't feel the same anymore. I am not going to put any more thought into it. If it happens, it happens. Losing girls' numbers is why. Other men can tell you to just move on, but they're not going around losing numbers. You're different. Why don't you ask her if she still has yours? Approach her with your phone in hand. These days people just do a text/call face to face then the numbers are both recorded. I will admit that I didn't consider this at the time and I wish I did. With that said, if I had to guess, she most likely didn't keep mine either but that is a complete guess. I will keep this in mind the next time I see her. Something isn't quite right.......I suspect she told someone about you asking her out and fed her some info about you. Does anyone you work with know about your sexual situation? Well, almost everyone on the overnight shift is aware of my sexual status due to me mentioning it not long after I started working there 4 years ago. Needless to say, my biggest regret so far. One employee there has been picking on me about this ever since, calling me a "ladies' man" and saying that "I get all of the ladies" despite I got nothing to back that image up. Also, I will admit that I did mention me losing her number to my supervisor because I kept looking in the trash cans during my lunch break Monday and is wondering why. She is aware of my dating status and loves to talk. However, she isn't one to make a mockery of me because of it. She even mentions that she can get her number for me due to knowing other employees there that has her number themselves. Of course, I have no idea how she communicates outside of work so it may be possible she is now aware but, if so, the damage is already done especially if she disapproves of it.
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