Knix Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 I just started talking to a guy through an online dating site the other night. We were talking about a lot of stuff and he seemed really sweet. I mentioned to him that I want to have kids someday and he said it's such a turn on to him to hear a girl say she wants to have his baby... this made me so uncomfortable. Is this weird or am I overthinking it?
mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Be wary. Not because it make you feel weird, but because this guy has lines and that's the line he uses. Say as a man that you want kids and that will pull women into them. Caution ... 5
ExpatInItaly Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 It's weird. You don't even know this guy and he's getting his rocks off hearing you want to have "his" baby - huge red flag. I would not continue talking to him. 3
Scarlett.O'hara Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 It is unusual information to give someone you haven't even had a date with yet. He might just be horny which is clouding his judgment (there are some guys who will try to turn even the most innocent conversations sexual). However, on the off chance he is being serious, and is actually turned on by the thought of a woman wanting to have his baby, then he could potentially end up with multiple baby mamas and be less likely to practice safe sex. When something doesn't feel right, trust your instincts. 2
coolheadal Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 I just started talking to a guy through an online dating site the other night. We were talking about a lot of stuff and he seemed really sweet. I mentioned to him that I want to have kids someday and he said it's such a turn on to him to hear a girl say she wants to have his baby... this made me so uncomfortable. Is this weird or am I overthinking it? My dear child you know when a women tells a guy she's getting to know she wants to have kids someday, the guy would either say he's not ready or he's agrees. This guy said it the wrong way. You said it was a turn on for him. Turn on (sexual) he's has too much sex on his brain. That's the wording I would have used. So now your scare.. You should be.. Move on to the next guy who's doesn't have a dirty brain. Also don't bring up having kids just yet until you have met next guy in person. Unless you reach a point where you both love each other and kids do come up in the topic. He should say wow I feel honor and proud to have kids with you. That's the correct wording not as a turn on, that suggest a dirty mindset. Stay clear of guys like that. 1
Author Knix Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 Thanks everyone, just wanted to triple check! 1
LoverofWrestling Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 That would be a total turn off for me personally. Mind you, I don't want kids at all so I would have told him that during the conversation about kids. 1
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 The guy has some real bad game lol. He's trying way too hard to do the "say things that you want to hear" tactic. He's a clueless sorry sap.
CptInsano Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 The guy has some real bad game lol. He's trying way too hard to do the "say things that you want to hear" tactic. He's a clueless sorry sap. If he just had said "I want kids, too!" I would agree with you. Him saying that it is a turn-on for him to hear a woman say she'll have his baby, that is something else IMHO. 2
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 self esteem issues maybe.....desperation? A fetish? If it was me I would have told him he's being way too creepy and should not make contact again. Just ew!
BaileyB Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 It's totally weird and creepy. It's one thing to say "I want kids someday too" but so ring entirely different to say "I want you to have my baby" before you've even met the man. Proceed with extreme caution if you plan to meet this man.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Yeah, it's just really bad game. It's great to establish intentions about children and family in messaging, not great to get into details before you even meet. Of course it's sexy to hear your man/woman you love say they want to have your baby/get you pregnant - but this is a conversation you'd have in bed, or after you've been in bed together. That "ew" feeling is telling you something.
preraph Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 I'm guessing that just about anything is "a big turn on to him"
thefooloftheyear Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Eh....If I were her Id hand him a "bill" for at least 3 million bucks...I don't know what the real number is and it would obviously vary, but as a dedicated father all I can say is that its a lot of work and a lot of money... That ought to knock his dick in pretty fast.... Wishing a Happy Father's Day to all hard working dad's out there and the women that faithfully support us..... TFY 2
Author Knix Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and told him to call me the other night, after a few SECONDS of talking I had to hang up he was just as creepy on the phone as he was via text... I'm glad I always talk on the phone with a guy before meeting in person.
mikeylo Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Eh....If I were her Id hand him a "bill" for at least 3 million bucks...I don't know what the real number is and it would obviously vary, but as a dedicated father all I can say is that its a lot of work and a lot of money... That ought to knock his dick in pretty fast.... Wishing a Happy Father's Day to all hard working dad's out there and the women that faithfully support us..... TFY Made my day
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