Adam281978 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 I know, another penis forum. I just wanted to get honest feedback. I have an admittedly small penis. Not so much short as thin. The girl that I am dating is the most honest girl I've been with...and we also have the best relationship of any I've had. Unlilke others I've been with, she's the first to tell me that my penis is rather small. She also admits that it's better to have a bigger penis. Not just because it feels better, but because a big penis "is a turn on in itself". But contrary to most of the advice on this forum, her candor is the best thing for us. Rather then telling me stuff that's not true, she just tells me like it is. So we just deal with it, and move on. What I don't understand is why girls would be dishonest about this and think that it is the nbest thing for the relationship. Just be honest. I really think that the dishonesty is a bigger deal than one's body parts not being perfect So my question is, why do girls prefer to be dishonest about this subject?
laRubiaBonita Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Because NOT EVERY person feels that way. so maybe she is being rude, and telling you what SHE Thinks, but her thoughts and opinions are not those of everyone in the world. maybe she had an abnormally large vaginal canal, and she can take it all in nice and easily. If this chic had any class she would not say anything about your phsysic. Would you tell her that her breasts are not quite big enough for you and that that is WHAT matters in the world?
Author Adam281978 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 She's not being rude at all. I definitely don't think that everyone feels the same way about it. But there are those who do and aren't honest. I am just making a case for honesty. In a good relationship, it's better to know how each really feels.
laRubiaBonita Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 but there is a such thing as tactfulness, and that is the point! you do not tell someone you care about deeply that they suck....but you STILL love them. that is a mean and controlling thing to do. what are her physical short comings? And do you rub her nose in them?
Tony T Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 "So my question is, why do girls prefer to be dishonest about this subject?" Most decent people prefer to be dishonest about subjects that may tend to be hurtful to others. I don't think it's a particularly postive thing for your relationship that your girlfriend considers you to have a small dick that is inferior in effectiveness to larger ones. However, I am glad that the information has had a positive effect for you. While honesty certainly is a great policy, when facts can be hurtful and even fatal to friendships or relationships, they are better left unspoken...in my opinion.
Author Adam281978 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 She never said that I suck. It's something that came up in normal conversation that people have when they are in a relationship. Everyone tells each other what they like, this is just one part. Not every girl gets turned on or even prefers being filled up. But a lot do, I think that it is just one part of what they like and usually not a deal breaker...so they should just be honest about it.
laRubiaBonita Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by Adam281978 It's something that came up in normal conversation that people have when they are in a relationship. Everyone tells each other what they like, this is just one part. ...so they should just be honest about it. except that most men equate their masculinaty with their penis'.....maybe not you, Adam....but most. so basically she is sayin you are less than she is used to...........who is she trying to impress with that?
Author Adam281978 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 She's not trying to impress. I may be alone on this, but I think that most men know where they are on the sprectrum. I just feel that it becomes a bigger deal...to me personally, when a girl tries to say other wise. Penis size is one part of it. In fact, I think that your tag has it right. It's a lot like breast size. It does mean something, but not everything.
laRubiaBonita Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by Adam281978 It does mean something, but not everything. but to some people it does mean it all........just like money means everything to some people,
Author Adam281978 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 Agreed. But what I was trying to point out was how I felt that it was good that she was honest...it just doesn't seem like that is an option to some girls.
laRubiaBonita Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by Adam281978 Agreed. But what I was trying to point out was how I felt that it was good that she was honest...it just doesn't seem like that is an option to some girls. when you are "taught" or learn otherwise, telling the truth about penis size is not a usual option, unless it IS the truth and it is Good.
Author Adam281978 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 I guess that I might be an exception. I much prefer that the girl that I am with just acknowlegdes what I already know and we do stuff together to deal with it. Penis size does matter....but how much it matters depends on the penis size.
Grinning Maniac Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Slightly skimming through this thread, at first I thought there were a lot of cravenly dishonest women out there and it was sort of a bummer. Then I realized that it was just one posting several times. Reading is FUNdamental. I have to agree with you adam. It is absolutely pointless for women to lie about something like that. It's the "does my butt look big" for our gender. I've never cared enough to ask such a silly question. What does any man stand to gain from a woman lying about it? Chances are that you aren't the biggest she's had. Who gives a damn? Make do with what you have. It's not as if you're going to magically wish yourself up an extra couple of inches. If anything, you're just going to psych yourself out and end up with a limp dick. You're getting laid. Stop thinking so hard and get to screwin'. Bonita, you brought up a sad fact. There ARE people who's entire perception of themselves revolves solely around their johnson. But the problem is...those people just suck at life. I'm sorry if that's insensitive, but really now... if you're basing your worth as a man and a human being on how big your dick is, you've got bigger problems than dick size to worry about. I hope these guys don't end up with revolvers in their mouths when they get to an age where their tube steak no longer works without "pharmacutical assistance". If you're steadily banging some girl, she obviously gets SOME sort of enjoyment out of shagging you, or else you wouldn't be in the sack with her. Even if, absolute worst case scenario, she really does think your package is underwhelming and it's not doing much for her, it does absolutely no good for her to tell the guy that he's "King Dong". He'll be thinking that he's "Overlord of the Orgasm" and she's really just laying there bored. Way to go. If she had just been honest, the two of them could have probably thought up some ways to get around that issue and she'd be well on her way to Squealsville. I may not be the most experienced guy around, but I always thought that sexual experimentation was supposed to be a GOOD thing. If the subject ever came up (unlikely), I would respect a woman a lot more for just being honest with me, so I could please her, than I would for blowing smoke up my ass. I don't appreciate lies told to "protect feelings", mainly because that logic can apply to a whole lot of other **** in life that I wouldn't be too happy about being "spared" from knowing. I don't want or need a woman to protect me. I want a woman that I can trust and be honest with. Is that too much to ask?
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