ConflictedGuy Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 HI, I am a relatively new employee at my company (2 months), i am 27 ,m, and i think i have a crash on a female coworker (30, f) which i know is single. Untill recentaly i had a great vibe from her, we locked eyes almost everytime we saw eachother (usually accompanid by a smile). She was alawys open to help me with work related stuff (even when she does not had to help, she always had time for me), but 2 days ago her behavior changed - she actively avoiding eye contact with me and i saw her hanging out with another male co-worker that usually is not around (although i only saw them once together so it can be nothing). What do you guys think should i do? is the attraction is over (from her part)? Sorry for my bad english - english is not my first language and i feel like a complete mess to write more eloquently. Thank you for your advice in advance.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 My advice is to not get involved with coworkers. If/when you break up, it can become extremely awkward.
preraph Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 You know, employees are pretty much expected to be friendly and helpful to others at work. Her actions don't necessarily mean she was attracted to you or if she was, that she'd ever act on it. Honestly, what may have happened is either she realized you had a crush and pulled back to show you it's not mutual or she got tired of helping you and felt you'd been there long enough now to pull back from that. 1
O'Malley Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 It sounds like you misread her intent. A friend of mine is very extroverted and adept at putting people at ease, with some people occasionally misreading her behavior as interest. Sometimes friendliness is just that, especially when welcoming a coworker and trying to develop a rapport with them. Try to avoid feeling awkward, be friendly in your interactions with her but look outside of work for romantic opportunities.
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