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LivingWaterPlease Established Member

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I don't want to derail Eternal Sunshine's thread, but no I don't think there is anything strange about my profile. And yes, scammer, as in, I'm trying to reel some guy in so that I can get money from him.

 

 

 

I've met some great guys too. Unfortunately, none that I have been physically attracted to yet.

 

 

 

Thanks for answering my question without being offended. I was just curious!

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Bastile Established Member

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This is a normal question that IMO gets asked naturally as conversations with a person proceed and in the course of getting to know someone.

 

I agree.

 

But there's something that's just a turn off about it being asked as the 2nd question in. Such as:

 

"Hi" :)

 

"What do you do for work?"

 

Which gives the impression that you're being heavily filtered as a provider likely along with 20 other guys simultaneously. Not exactly a turn on, is it?

 

Real life, you spend minutes laughing, connecting, enjoying the moment before the nuts and bolts stuff which just makes the process far more enjoyable, imo.

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Sweetfish Established Member

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So a year ago you made a thread about broke guys on OLD. Now you created a thread about guys and wanting know if you are compatible based on income level; However, the person intellect is not a majoring factor. :lmao:

 

 

I work with a lot of medical doctors. 100% of them are married (regardless of looks) and each seems to have a que of eager women waiting to jump in at first sign of trouble in the marriage.

 

Any level headed man on LS can see that money is what you are after and maybe not the money directly...but the sense of comfort it will bring you. Its obvious it brings you a sense of comfort.

 

The town also has a lot of men, and is one in few towns in Australia where single men outnumber single women. However, despite the quantity, I would estimate that around 80% of men are blue collar. I know this is going to sound bad, but I am just not attracted to their personalitiy.

 

So every single man who is a blue collar worker in your area is a grunt and not capable of connecting with you. However, the ones who are doctors have a better shot right. How ironic and self serving. You have made many threads on income, white and blue collar workers and so on and other women posting on here just smashing the like button and nodding their heads... as expected

 

So what you're career-minded or an intellectual? I don't know any guy who gets a stiffy based on the fact that a woman is intelligent or has a high income and the ones that do are the ones who do not have options.

 

Your income and career does not get great guys. That is mostly reserved in the mens department.

 

Beauty and sexuality is reserved for women and the more you age and the less sexuality you emit the more you par with the blue collar worker IE: water seeks its own level.

 

So my question is when are you going to realize or rationalize that maybe it is you that is the problem? When are you going to realize that maybe you are just a serial dater. You are living the sex in the city type of life style and maybe you just like that? I am just assuming..

 

Also, to be fair I have a degree and make great money and I never ever tell women my career or income because they will have sex with me or want a relationship solely on those conditions. ;)

No_Go Established Member

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That's just so wrong in my personal experience:

 

'I don't know any guy who gets a stiffy based on the fact that a woman is intelligent or has a high income and the ones that do are the ones who do not have options.

 

Your income and career does not get great guys. That is mostly reserved in the mens department.'

 

I look good but looked objectively better when I was younger (I was thinner etc). I'd rarely get guy's attention back then though. Now, after I got a good paying job, albeit 15 pounds heavier... Guys started to swarm around. Even guys that neglected me back in time. How else to explain it? They like my 32-oy aging body better than the fresh 24 yo? C'mon.

 

Guys ARE gold diggers even more so than women, but they're harder to detect. They act opportunistically - i.e. mooch off a woman that is better off financially (not necessarily rich, just generous to them) if she let them do so. I had some idiot that made me pay ALL his bills playing the pity card a few years ago. I learned later he was serially living off his GFs - yes, all of them were good looking, highly educated and successful (the dude was a college drop out with a fleshy criminal history).

 

Income and career matter for both sexes when it comes to marriage or any long-term commitment. It is just foolish not to admit that. I'm sure guys are ready to bang based on purely physical attraction but nobody would intentionally marry/cohabitate with a IQ-challenged lady who will drain his bank account.

 

Oh, btw I dated blue collar guys with no prejudice. THEY resented me for our educational differences and used any occasion to remind me how snobbish and privileged I am to have gotten my degrees (which is hilarious considering the median annual income in my home country is about the size of my biweekly paycheck but whatever).

 

So a year ago you made a thread about broke guys on OLD. Now you created a thread about guys and wanting know if you are compatible based on income level; However, the person intellect is not a majoring factor. :lmao:

 

 

 

 

Any level headed man on LS can see that money is what you are after and maybe not the money directly...but the sense of comfort it will bring you. Its obvious it brings you a sense of comfort.

 

 

 

So every single man who is a blue collar worker in your area is a grunt and not capable of connecting with you. However, the ones who are doctors have a better shot right. How ironic and self serving. You have made many threads on income, white and blue collar workers and so on and other women posting on here just smashing the like button and nodding their heads... as expected

 

So what you're career-minded or an intellectual? I don't know any guy who gets a stiffy based on the fact that a woman is intelligent or has a high income and the ones that do are the ones who do not have options.

 

Your income and career does not get great guys. That is mostly reserved in the mens department.

 

Beauty and sexuality is reserved for women and the more you age and the less sexuality you emit the more you par with the blue collar worker IE: water seeks its own level.

 

So my question is when are you going to realize or rationalize that maybe it is you that is the problem? When are you going to realize that maybe you are just a serial dater. You are living the sex in the city type of life style and maybe you just like that? I am just assuming..

 

Also, to be fair I have a degree and make great money and I never ever tell women my career or income because they will have sex with me or want a relationship solely on those conditions. ;)

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