Styrea Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Hello, I will try and keep this as short as possible. I have been interested in this girl for a good while now, and I am wondering, given the current situation, if I should go for it on our next date or not. I am aware that is not an easy question to answer, but I would like to know your opinion nonetheless. Skipping all the interaction before that, we already kissed once a couple months ago. Since then, a few things happened. We first decided to take it slow, but it became so slow and difficult due to our schedules, and due to the fact that she is shy, insecure and inexperienced, that it started stalling fairly quickly. I am pretty sure that had I stopped talking to her, she would have let go. Still, without the relationship actually evolving any further, we kept talking, and without being overly annoying, I do flirt fairly often and make it very clear that I want that relationship to happen. And in spite of her personality, sometimes she does go along with that flirting and keeps the flirty conversation going by herself. These conversations are by text, I have no confidence blocks that prevent me from speaking my mind while in person, but we don't see each other very often, and I have been careful not to rush into things. So, what keeps me from trying to go for it again? First, she is very variable in her conversations. Sometimes she goes along with the flirt, sometimes we'll talk for hours on end about anything, and we usually reply to each other throughout the day. But other times, she feels more distant and uninterested, and I honestly don't know what to think. Second, we don't see each other as often as I guess two people in our situation should. It's not like we live far apart from each other, we're like 5km apart and we both own vehicles. But she is quite busy, and I have my own tight schedules, but I can work around it more easily. Still, it's very hard to get her to accept an invitation for pretty much anything. Third, I really do like her, we have a lot in common, and the last thing I want is to make a rash move and blow it. But if it doesn't evolve soon, I feel like it will stall again, and we will see each other less and less until it just disappears, and I am so, so done with feeling distant from her.. I don't know if I gave you a decent enough picture of the situation we're in, hopefully yes. So, my question is: Should I go for it, on our next date, should I try to speak to her heart? Thank you
Royosu Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Call her on the phone. It will solve all your problems.
Author Styrea Posted June 16, 2017 Author Posted June 16, 2017 Call her on the phone. It will solve all your problems. Nah, I don't think that's it. I do call her from time to time too.
mikeylo Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 What's stopping you ? I don't get it. Her being distant is explainable because she is shy. Her showing interest in you is a bit too much for some shy/ introvert person. When you initiate, she responds. So take it that initially you have to be the one to do all the work. Once she is comfortable, I guess the field will level out.
Author Styrea Posted June 16, 2017 Author Posted June 16, 2017 What's stopping you ? I don't get it. Her being distant is explainable because she is shy. Her showing interest in you is a bit too much for some shy/ introvert person. When you initiate, she responds. So take it that initially you have to be the one to do all the work. Once she is comfortable, I guess the field will level out. Yeah, I think you are right. Maybe the fact I've had to carry all the weight for a long time has blinded me to that. Thank you 1
mikeylo Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Slow but progressing and evolving into more with time. I guess you want to take the leap now , go for it. Too slow without escalation, the desire / passion will die out.
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