The love of my life dumped me about a month ago

[joballa23]

I was with this girl for 1.5 years we were so close until the last month of the relationship. I would see her almost everyday, she broke it off after I found out she cheated on me a year ago. She said she loves and I'll always be a part of her heart but she just needs space.

 

She called me a week later crying saying that she misses me and I scheduled a time to see her the next day and she agreed but later that night she said. "im sorry i cracked but i do not want to toy with your emotions anymore, As life goes on you remain in my core and my heart". Ive seen her once since we broke up, we were kissing and hugging on my bed before she had to leave for class.

 

It has been a month since then and she sends me weird texts such as. "I miss you", "have you been watching the nba finals the warriors are amazing", and she keeps asking me to give her back her cd. She was in the hospital recently for an eating disorder and she also texted me can you break me out i can't stand it in here". My responses have been brief and short, I have offered to give her back her cd. I have been in LC for 33 days now and its the hardest period of my life. How do I get the love of my life back.

 

I understand that its not healthy to wait around for your ex like this but I truly believe this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with.

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[kortz]

If she said she needs space then you need to give her proper space i.e. go full no contact. If she wanted to be with you she would be but she's not. If you cut her out of your life completely and focus on moving on she may come back, but you need to do it with a view that its over and you're moving on and then time will tell.

 

All LC will do is allow her to keep stringing you along and make you feel worse, and possibly allow her to ease out of the breakup while you're clinging onto false hope.

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, the love of you life wouldn't have cheated on you. People who cheat lack the true love required for a healthy, lifelong commitment. You were crazy about her but evidently the feeling isn't mutual.

 

She isn't The One.

[mikeylo]

Now you are free to find your girl. This one cheated. That should be enough to move one.

[usa1ah]

You need to stop all contact.

 

Just tell her, with out pleading, how with feel about her.

 

Then tell her good bye and stop all contact.

[Gr8fuln2020]

I would see her almost everyday, she broke it off after I found out she cheated on me a year ago. She said she loves and I'll always be a part of her heart but she just needs space.

 

Wait, SHE broke it off after YOU found out SHE cheated???! Wow. I'm sorry, but why are you not upset about the cheating? She took most, if not, all of the control from you by breaking it off before you had the chance. You are now being played like a fiddle by her. I'm not saying she may not 'truly' love or like you a lot, but she definitely knows how to work you.

[d0nnivain]

If you are unwisely prepared to forgive her for the cheating and you really want her back, you need to tell her that you forgive her & that's she's not toying with your emotions.

 

 

It might not bring her back but on the off chance that this isn't some excuse because you are more into her then she is into you, it's at least the basis for beginning a conversation about reconciling.

 

 

I don't think you are going to get her back because I don't think she as all in as you do. Understand getting her back is a bad plan. She has little integrity. If she cheated once, she's probably going to cheat again, especially if you forgave her. Because for her, there are no consequences.

 

 

Best wishes. You're gonna need all the help you can get with this one.

[Been]

Love these people who ask if they should forgive someone for cheating on them.

You should FORGET someone that cheated on you. They should no longer be in for life.

Love of your life? If someone loves you truly they don't cheat on you it really is as simple as that.